marriage & benefits helppppp

Mummybobo

antrobus wrote: »

Whether or not the OP and their boyfriend are considering marriage is neither here nor there. In order to be regarded as LTAHAW (as the DWP puts it) they "must be members of the same household" i.e. they must live in the same house, and live there regularly. If the facts are that the boyfriend lives elsewhere then they are not LTAHAW no matter what their future intentions might be.

in lamens term plz? n ty

gingergee

Think the Army would allow you to child mind in their accommodation, It is only a think though lol, not 100% sure, but my earlier mentioned friend is a beauty therapist and works from home. Its a pain now, all this change etc, but by the sounds of it, you and your kiddies have been through the mill and back!! A stable loving home and job security ( which is what you'd get if you went legit and did the whole army thing) can only be a good thing xxx

Spamfree_2

Mummybobo wrote: »

as said before army dont no and neither do citizens advice

The army don't know. Text speak on a forum looks atrocious.:p

Wouldn't the new husband be expected to keep you, with the addition of Child Benefit for both kids, (working/child)Tax credits if his income is below a certain point and the DLA you get for one of the kids?

You aren't saying you want to be married to him and he keeps his money and the state supports you are you?:eek:

Mummybobo

princessdon wrote: »

Your Ex sounds like a charmer indeed - for that you have my sympathies.

Do you consider your boyfriend and you a couple? Does he ever live with you (when home on leave), do you go on holidays together, does he use your address for mail - especially banks or loans, do your children call him dad?

kids call him dad yes, he stays at his mothers on leave never used my address and been to skeggy for weekend with kids for sons bday thats as far as things have progressed lol, yes my ex was a total waste but i got the best outa the relationship... my son

princessdon

Sounds like at the moment you can claim single then

Once you marry and are a couple - ring them up - they will decide if you loose your benefits or not.

antrobus

Mummybobo wrote: »

... daughter dad died in afghan nerli 18 mnth ... u cant get money outa a corpse....

Doesn't the MOD pay death benefits to soldiers killed in action?

It might be worth your while looking at the Army Rumour Service aka ARRSE - http://www.arrse.co.uk/wiki/Portal:Families%27_Advice

Mummybobo

Spamfree wrote: »

The army don't know. Text speak on a forum looks atrocious.:p

Wouldn't the new husband be expected to keep you, with the addition of Child Benefit for both kids, (working/child)Tax credits if his income is below a certain point and the DLA you get for one of the kids?

You aren't saying you want to be married to him and he keeps his money and the state supports you are you?:eek:

no i am not saying that at all i am wanting to know how i stand for child ben workin tax n council tax as iv heard that u get a reduction on tax if one party is in the services and trying also to figure out which would be better in the long run.... to wait to get married til my son can go to school and myelf to work and also which would be better as for living arrangements if i kept my house i no i wouldnt be entitled to i.s but didnt no if the tax reduction would apply.... i have two toddlers and a house to keep so yh i will speak txt as most ppl understand it neway and its nitpicky if thats all ppl are guna pick up on.... also im blatently not a scrounger else i wouldnt be asking about what to do for the best ?!?:rotfl:

System

antrobus-, are you saying they have to live in the same house to be considered LTAHW? If that is the case how come some people are investigated for having "partners" staying over? If its that clear cut surely there's no point in investigating them? Just curious, as in other threads people in a similar poisition to the OP (don't live together but consider themselves partners/do stuff as partners) are usually jumped on and told they are living as a couple.

Mummybobo

antrobus wrote: »

Doesn't the MOD pay death benefits to soldiers killed in action?

It might be worth your while looking at the Army Rumour Service aka ARRSE -

they do but only to those who have the children n the father on b.cert or if married

princessdon

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

antrobus-, are you saying they have to live in the same house to be considered LTAHW? If that is the case how come some people are investigated for having "partners" staying over? If its that clear cut surely there's no point in investigating them? Just curious, as in other threads people in a similar poisition to the OP (don't live together but consider themselves partners/do stuff as partners) are usually jumped on and told they are living as a couple.

That's why I asked - he stays at his mothers, they have no financial ties, they haven't holiday'd etc.

Can't see how (at the moment) they would be classed as a couple based on info given.