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Pollycat

Well, I guess whatever 'relationship crisis' the OP had seems to have been resolved as she is considering setting up an Ebay business "with her OH who is not working".

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/54952803#Comment_54952803

The OP had lots of good advice & sympathy and a number of posters were concerned about her.

It's a pity she didn't bother to come back and let people know that she'd sorted things out.

Craftyscholar

That's quite a turn-around.
I presume the business will be run out of the 'home' her OH was refusing to live in?

Bufger

He's moved out and refuses to stay there because he's emotionally insecure leaving you in an emotional and financial situation?!!

Time to find yourself a man and leave the child behind.

Pollycat

Bufger wrote: »

He's moved out and refuses to stay there because he's emotionally insecure leaving you in an emotional and financial situation?!!

Time to find yourself a man and leave the child behind.

Unless the OP has found another 'OH' (and one that is also unemployed) since she started this thread at the end of July, things have apparently progressed between her and her OH to the extent they are considering setting up an ebay business - see my link to her latest thread.

Time to stop giving relationship advice to the OP, I reckon.

BugglyB

krlyr wrote: »

At 21 I wanted to be staying in and quite enjoyed food shopping, cooking, housework etc. - not ever 21 year old has a desire to be out on the town every weekend. I know your intentions are good but if OP is the 'homely' sort then there should be no pressure to be out raving every weekend just because she's young. I was quite happy staying in most weekends at 21!

Have to agree with all the other sentiments on this thread - there is no compromise on his end at all, and that isn't how a relationship should work. Glad you have "seen the light" - I've always maintained that if someone made an ultimatum to me in a relationship, they would already have made my mind up for me. Relationships should be about discussions and compromises, not "do this or else" and an ultimatum would simply make me jump ship.

Being out and having fun doesn't necessarily mean raving though. Could mean going out walking the dog and meeting friends in the park, or meeting up with family for lunch, or going to the library. Whatever your definition of fun is.