unrequited love?

Sambucus_Nigra

delain wrote: »

So do i! Do you think you could persuade her to join MSE??

yes I have been on the recieving end, not nice. Esp when the lovelorn person resembles a baboon in both looks and smell *shudder*

She's lightweight compared to Angry Janice. Have you not 'met' angry Janice yet? Oh my, she's a scream. Unfortunately she has been missing in action for some months so I suspect someone actually tamed or killed her.

luxor4t

mrcow wrote: »

Good luck.

Hopefully he won't have a back hair problem, smelly feet, poor aim or kiss like a wet fish;)

It's OK, I married that one

thatlemming

I don't have much life experience but I fancied the pants off a bloke (who was a couple years older) I worked with at 16, he left when I was 17 and I felt like I missed him soooo much, then I met him in a club at 18 and he tried to get me to go home with him (I didn't.) Found out the next day he had a long term gf.

Funnily enough he lost all appeal after that. He was a really good kisser though.

What I'm really trying to say is that if it happened it probably wouldn't be half as good as you imagine.

pinksk8

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

I'm in (sort of) unrequited love at the minute and oh my God its the most painful thing I have ever experienced (and I've just had a hysterectomy )

I've watched him grow from a skinny, immature, weedy little kid into an absolutely stunning muscular young man in about a year and a half and he seems to be getting even better by the day.

I do put him on a pedestal but I know he has his faults (he doesnt kiss like a vacuum cleaner or a wet fish he's a washing machine on spin cycle :rotfl:) despite this I am absolutely smitten with him. I think he likes me in some way (long, long, story) but he has a gf and I'm very jealous of her. I hope some day maybe I will get over him but right now I cant possibly see a way out of it...

I want to know! And i want to meet Angry Janice! Aww this thread is so cute.

I had a friend about ten years ago, and we had a very brief relationship. I put an end to the tryst because I felt we didnt click. He is lovely looking, funny, got a great job, lots of money, own house, fancy car....to this day he will still send a text or email asking me to go for dinner with him, despite being with my OH for 7 years! I often wonder what life would have been like....but I dont think I would have had such fun or would have ever loved him as much as I love my OH!

Beetlemama

Look, these untouchable, out of reach men, they look perfect but eventually if you caught one, you'd find yourself scrubbing a skiddy out of their boxers with your nailbrush and they turn in to ordinary folk.

It's the guy whose boxers you scrub with love that is the man you want to be with.

mrsrwallace

SingleSue I think your story is so romantic. I think that this is maybe why I possibly hanker after this man so much. When we first met he was single and I was married and so we developed a friendship and I was very attracted to him. Other mutual friends of ours had insisted that he liked me in a romantic way however I have never ever recalled anything which would even have suggested that he did. I know he didn't and doesn't fancy me, didn't stop me fancying him.

He is now in a relationship which he seems to be happy in and I have no reason to doubt that, she is pretty, funny, sporty and popular so it is no wonder he is with her. I am still married and yet i still get this pull towards him although i have distanced myself from him since he met his partner. I think the thing with me is lack of self-esteem, I compare myself to her and think if i was prettier he may have been interested in me etc, all totally irrational I know but thats me! I know deep down that there was nothing there on his part, it was/is me who is the one with the problem. It is in there hiding and surfaces too much for my liking and I am trying to forget about him and I am trying to remember that he is only human so he goes to the toilet and has bogeys and maybe hairy toes and a hairy bum so i know he's not perfect but i know i would have loved to have even had one night with him to see what he was like as a partner.....someone stop me now!!!!

Don't get me wrong I am perfectly capable of looking at a man and saying yeah he's attractive and that is that and of course i can admire a good-looking actor but i have never felt so drawn to someone (i didn't even get these feelings with my husband) so i am wondering why i am so strange. I know i'm never going to get with him, i genuinely know that but it doesn't make it any easier to forget him especially when i am his friend (although i do distance myself to try and avoid being too close to him).

I think its the whole happy ever after i am looking for really, the whole being wooed and wanted which i've never experienced, yes i am married but its more a case of we met and just got married because it was the thing to do. I think its cos I am at a stage in my life where i am teaching my kids to explore the world and not settle down too soon etc and i am maybe wishing i had followed my own advice and got more experience in the relationship department before getting married. I think this is why i look at this other man and wonder what if, what if i was single would he have made a move then? did he not make a move because i am married etc? Stupid questions and stupid thoughts which don't help. pathetic really!

sweetme

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Never chase love, affection or attention. If it isn't given freely by another person, it isn't worth having. The simple things in life should be effortless.

I've never heard that saying before, it makes total sense. I've also read "He's Just Not That Into You", answered so many questions for me.

Cat501

hmm, have to say the fact that you were married when you met does put a POSSIBLE different slant on things and yes it may be that he would have made a move if you were single.

But you weren't and you still aren't Perhaps if HE had made a move on you it would have shattered your illusions about him - the fact he would have chased a married woman.

I dunno It's an annoying and trite cliche, but sometimes we do just have to believe that what's for us won't go by us, otherwise we'll drive ourselves barmy.

But I would be considering my marriage if I was you. I split with my XH because I met someone else. Now, he didn't want me really - but the fact that I wanted someone else A LOT told me that I probably shouldn't be married. Also the fact that I just knew that wouldn't be the last time someone I'd prefer to my XH would come along, whether I acted on it or not.

good luck hun, maybe look at why you married your husband, what attracted you? Really hope there's a spark you can recapture xx

Cat501

Mrs Ryan - I wish I was pretty, and slim and all the rest, but it's no guarantee - just think about Halle Berry, Cheryl Cole, ad infinitum - dream women to hundreds of thousands of men, but it didn't stop their partners cheating on them

Mrs_Ryan

I hadnt thought of it like that. However it just seems so much easier for pretty women...