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unrequited love?
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Lotus-eater wrote: »Ahem, cough, cough.
You need more training
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Great choice of words eh?:rotfl:Raven. :grinheart:grinheart:grinheart0 -
thehappybutterfly wrote: »I had a mahoosive crush on Shane Ward (not the cricketer - the ahem "singer"). I was absolutely convinced that if we met, he'd realise I was the woman for him. Never mind that I was 15 years older than him, married with 2 kids and he had a girlfriend...... I heard he liked older woman and his gf was blond - I was an older woman and blond (at the time).
I never went to see him in concert for fear of what would happen if our eyes met across the stage and screaming teenagers
Seriously!
It was so out of the realms of possibility but it was nice while it lasted
PS I still think he's rather dishy!
I was properly gutted when David Mitchell got engaged. I still think if we met we'd hit it off and he'd forget about that beautiful, rich, intelligent fiance.
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As for how to get over it. Borrow "He's Just Not That Into You" from the library. It's the romantic equivalent of a good hard slap. Fundamental message: if he's not with you, he doesn't want you, and why waste your valuable time thinking about someone who doesn't want you?
Never looked at it like that before but it makes sense.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
:rotfl::rotfl:I like this Karen!!
So do i! Do you think you could persuade her to join MSE??
yes I have been on the recieving end, not nice. Esp when the lovelorn person resembles a baboon in both looks and smell *shudder*Mum of several with a twisted sense of humour and a laundry obsession:o
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mrsrwallace wrote: »had a great catch-up with friends today and we were reminiscing about times gone by......
then we typically ended up talking about past/lost/unrequited loves and wondering how our lives would have turned out if we had followed a different path.
it touched a raw nerve with me as i do sometimes (especially when stressed, which is often) wonder "what if?" and go down that treacherous road of wishing i had done things differently rather than accepting the choices i have made.
one thing which bothers me is a past friendship with a man who i was so attracted to....so much so i thought about him constantly. i wanted him more than ana wants mr grey and he was everything i wanted in a man but our relationship never went past the platonic stage unfortunately much to my chagrin! i often wonder what it would have been like to have kissed him and touched him but he never made a move so i know he wasnt interested.
lately i have been thinking of him and this conversation today reinforced him into my brain and heart again and i wonder has anyone out there been in the same position? How do you get over someone you were never actually romantically linked to, yet really wanted to be? I am still attracted to him but he is very much not attracted to me. If he had been he would have made his move surely so why can a rational person like me not let that sink in?????? Why is it when i think of him it makes me want him more and yet i know that is never going to happen! instead i see him happy with his partner and wish it was me he was hugging instead of her.
how do you get over/past an unrequited love?? apologies for this drivel but i do get a bit maudlin after too much free cider!:rotfl:
30 years down the line from an unrequited love/love neither one let on about and we have just got together.....
We met when I was 12 and he was 17, I faniced him rotten but thought there was no way he would look at me. This fancy carried on until I met now ex hubby when I was 17, I never told him how I felt.
He liked me at first but thought I was too young but as time went on and I became a young woman, he fancied the pants off me but was too scared to say anything as he thought he was out of my league (god knows why he thought that :rotfl:, I'm just as plain and ordinary as anyone else and nothing special).
By the time he let on, I was married...by the time my marriage was starting to falter, he was married, so we left it and that was the last time I saw him for nearly 9 years.
Until about a month ago.
He is now single and of course, I am still single and last night, we made the momentous decision to get together, albeit taking it very slowly as we both have children to consider.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
SingleSue, thats lovely.:) So glad it worked out for you both.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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He is now single and of course, I am still single and last night, we made the momentous decision to get together, albeit taking it very slowly as we both have children to consider.
Good luck.
Hopefully he won't have a back hair problem, smelly feet, poor aim or kiss like a wet fish;)"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
30 years down the line from an unrequited love/love neither one let on about and we have just got together.....
We met when I was 12 and he was 17, I faniced him rotten but thought there was no way he would look at me. This fancy carried on until I met now ex hubby when I was 17, I never told him how I felt.
He liked me at first but thought I was too young but as time went on and I became a young woman, he fancied the pants off me but was too scared to say anything as he thought he was out of my league (god knows why he thought that :rotfl:, I'm just as plain and ordinary as anyone else and nothing special).
By the time he let on, I was married...by the time my marriage was starting to falter, he was married, so we left it and that was the last time I saw him for nearly 9 years.
Until about a month ago.
He is now single and of course, I am still single and last night, we made the momentous decision to get together, albeit taking it very slowly as we both have children to consider.
Ahhhh, that is a really sweet story
Hope it all goes well and you have a happy ever after ending. It is so nice when 2 people who truly love each other, finally get it together:T. Good luck to you! Raven. :grinheart:grinheart:grinheart0 -
30 years down the line from an unrequited love/love neither one let on about and we have just got together.....
We met when I was 12 and he was 17, I faniced him rotten but thought there was no way he would look at me. This fancy carried on until I met now ex hubby when I was 17, I never told him how I felt.
He liked me at first but thought I was too young but as time went on and I became a young woman, he fancied the pants off me but was too scared to say anything as he thought he was out of my league (god knows why he thought that :rotfl:, I'm just as plain and ordinary as anyone else and nothing special).
By the time he let on, I was married...by the time my marriage was starting to falter, he was married, so we left it and that was the last time I saw him for nearly 9 years.
Until about a month ago.
He is now single and of course, I am still single and last night, we made the momentous decision to get together, albeit taking it very slowly as we both have children to consider.
Erm because back then you was... what 17 has any interest in a 12 year old... this worries me slightly!:jBaby Boy born December 2012
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