unrequited love?

raven83

ali-t wrote: »

I didn't mean it to be harsh and thought I had toned it down from my original reaction on reading it. The internet is a great place to vent frustrations and the main reason is because it is anonymous.

If you are identifying yourself and other people you would be as well putting information in a national newspaper. I am currently single but on past experience would say that a bit of subtlety goes a long way. Coming across as a bunny boiler is not an attractive look.

I wasn't intending to have a dig at you Mrs Ryan in my last post but think you are leaving yourself vulnerable. I then read your later post about kissing him and hoped you are not leaving yourself open to humiliation. Whether that is from his friends, his girlfriend or anyone else who knows him or his girlfriend and takes umbrage to your open posting style.

I hope it does work out for you and he lives up to the dream.

I do see what you are saying, yes bunny boiling isn't a nice look (believe me I know that too well:eek: and no it wasn't me that was the boiler) The internet and forums like this you do have to be careful because you never know who is reading them. I do agree that being more subtle around someone is a lot more attractive and leads more to the imagination making you seem more intriguing. I don't think Mrs Ryan was bunny boiling though, I simply think she is infatuated with this young man and we have all been there at some point haven't we.

ali-t

raven83 wrote: »

. I don't think Mrs Ryan was bunny boiling though, I simply think she is infatuated with this young man and we have all been there at some point haven't we.

Hell yeah

raven83

ali-t wrote: »

Hell yeah

It happens to us all at some point;)

System

I remember about 10 years ago my daughter found out the boy she was fixated on had found a girlfriend. She was heartbroken.

We were talking together about love and feelings and she said 'Mom do old people have crushes?'. Bless her, by old she meant my age. 'Yes sweetheart' I told her 'no matter how old you are, the feelings are the same but the difference is how we deal with these feelings'.

She was happy with my answer and so was i.

Mrs_Ryan

I havent actually told anyone else about this and I think its quite unlikely that anyone who knows him would find what I have said, he is 100% aware of what I feel for him and the rugby girlfriend thing is from his own mouth. He said it himself to me in front of about 4 of his team-mates and my own best friend.
I dont actually claim I'm his girlfriend and his girlfriend does actually know about me - he has told her. The kiss is also public property if you like... the video has been right round the club and there are a lot of people know about it.

You're right though, its a sore subject and I should have never said a word. I've gone back and deleted the posts but I'm sorry I like my profile pic. I've been really poorly with cancer and its one of the few happy times I have had recently.

Cat501

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

I havent actually told anyone else about this and I think its quite unlikely that anyone who knows him would find what I have said, he is 100% aware of what I feel for him and the rugby girlfriend thing is from his own mouth. He said it himself to me in front of about 4 of his team-mates and my own best friend.
I dont actually claim I'm his girlfriend and his girlfriend does actually know about me - he has told her. The kiss is also public property if you like... the video has been right round the club and there are a lot of people know about it.

You're right though, its a sore subject and I should have never said a word. I've gone back and deleted the posts but I'm sorry I like my profile pic. I've been really poorly with cancer and its one of the few happy times I have had recently.

But hun, you don't really know who anyone is on here unless you've met them, you never know who's reading - and you've given so much info in your sig that we all know his full name now x

On another note I'm sorry you've had cancer, how awful for you, so glad you've come out the other side x

Mrs_Ryan

Tbh none of the stuff I have said isn't anything he doesn't know. I've not long come ouut of hospital after a hysterectomy and I'm all over the place so maybe I'm saying stuff I wouldn't usually say. But its all deleted now.. All gone. There's a hell of a lot more I could have said and thankfully didn't, I think what I did say was pretty tame and if it got back to him its just what he already knows.

FATBALLZ

mrsrwallace wrote: »

he never made a move so i know he wasnt interested.

And you never made a move on him either, so does that mean you weren't interested?

raven83

FATBALLZ wrote: »

And you never made a move on him either, so does that mean you weren't interested?

Sometimes though it is obvious that someone doesn't dig you like you dig them :rotfl:;)

mrsrwallace

FATBALLZ, I never made a move either but the difference was that I was married when i met him and still am and so i couldn't do that. I will admit and say we flirted but again it was probably harmless banter on his part although I know how i felt about him. We were good friends to start with and then as my feelings grew I knew it was a recipe for disaster so i started to distance myself and deliberately started to avoid him and everything. Then a few months later he got a girlfriend and he's been with her ever since. I have stayed away from him as much as i can as i can't look at them together without getting that hurt feeling though I can do nothing about it anyway!