Is this assault?

Hootie19

Ok, I clearly can't say right for saying wrong, so I'll just leave it there.

I will add that she went home today, after headbutting my son last night. The provocation was that he objected to her smoking.

No doubt she will receive a huge round of applause from the posters on this thread.

shelley_crow

Hootie19 wrote: »

Ok, I clearly can't say right for saying wrong, so I'll just leave it there.

I will add that she went home today, after headbutting my son last night. The provocation was that he objected to her smoking.

No doubt she will receive a huge round of applause from the posters on this thread.

Not at all, it merely suggests that your poor grandchild has 2 emotionally unstable and immature parents rather than just the one.

marisco_2

Reading through your post updating us on recent events I felt alot of concern for your grandchild. He will be picking up on the atmosphere between his parents. In time this will not be at all good for him.

Their relationship sounds very immature and destructive. I hope your son seeks out the help he needs and will find a positive way forward. I think the gf needs alot of help too. The way she conducts herself isn't clever or responsible.

They are both in their twenties and parents to an impressionable little boy. They should be pulling together and doing their best by him all the time. Not for a few days and making it looked completeley forced and false.

thatgirlsam

Hootie19 wrote: »

Ok, I clearly can't say right for saying wrong, so I'll just leave it there.

I will add that she went home today, after headbutting my son last night. The provocation was that he objected to her smoking.

No doubt she will receive a huge round of applause from the posters on this thread.

Oh god. You must be having a nightmare. I won't comment on the rights and wrongs of it all, but I feel for you Hootie.

GobbledyGook

If it were my son I'd be encouraging him to be the best father that he can be whilst trying to make him see how damaging his relationship obviously is. People who love each other (assuming that is why they are still together) sometimes still shouldn't be together if they are a destructive pairing. Sounds to me like your son and his girlfriend are a pretty destructive combination and should concentrate on being co-parents rather than partners before it goes too far and one of them gets seriously hurt or the emotional conflict becomes a bigger impact on their child's life.

Sammy85_2

Hootie19 wrote: »

And if she is "getting a raw deal" - why the hell is she still with him? I can't understand it at all.

Why are YOU still with him? you cant understand why she is still with him yet you still allow him to reside under your roof after YEARS of this abusive and violent behaviour. Blinded by love/loyalty?

green1970

Sounds like they both know lives where violence has absolutely no consequence. Time for you to make a change and say to both of them that if another display of violence happens in your presence, then the police are instantly called - and mean it!

thorsoak

I am extremely concerned for the baby - it would appear that he is experiencing violence from both parents - even if it is not directed at him - by witnessing it at such an early age, it is horrendous

Poor, poor child - both parents with a tendency to violence

peachyprice

Hootie19 wrote: »

she disappeared to her car. My son went out to speak to her, and the next thing we know, they have both disappeared. The car is still there, but they are nowhere to be seen.

They were gone for about an hour and a half. When they came back, they were walking up the street hand in hand, and asked if I'd babysit while they went out for dinner. Which of course, I did.

And since then, they have been like "love's young dream". I don't know what happened while they were out of the house, in the house.

This really does ring alarm bells.

Her erratic, aggitated behaviour, followed by all sweetness and light after going out by themselves? I would put money on them going out to score.

freyasmum

meritaten wrote: »

What is your take on this Jane? for a trivial family row over 'picking up chicken with fingers'? you have seen more than your share of family disputes I would say - is this assault? really? would you make an arrest?

A trivial family row? Are we all writing in invisible ink here or am I reading something different from you or something?!:undecided

He picked up a glass, threw the contents all over his mother, then smashed in on the floor whilst screaming obscenities at her. If that's trivial, then I'm glad you're nothing to do with me :eek:


Op, please stop him. Now.