Is this assault?

Limana68

Macca83 wrote: »

Yes its technically assault. If you called the police they would come take a statement, ask you if you want to press charges. If you agreed then your son would be arrested. He would spend the night in the cells with court in the morning. At which they would set a trial date for the future. He would probably not be allowed back into the house until the court case had been held. My personal opinion is not to go down this route. It causes huge heart break to mother and son, to all family members.

Please dont post unless you know EXACTLY what will happen, likelehood is, he would be interviewed at the station and bailed, or charged, he wouldnt be kept in for the whole night unless he was too drunk to interview, or no where else to be bailed to!

Also if police arrived this could also be classed as a domestic issue.
OP, have you thought about asking him to leave and find his own place?

robpw2

raven83 wrote: »

I know, it's a joke. What about when you give someone a hug and you squeeze then tight maybe a bit too tight? or you then pinch their cheeks affectionately? Is that assult? Blimey arrest me know :eek:

if you hugged me i would not be very happy at all because i don't know you
anything can be assualt when it is not called for /required ,

for example its ok to hit someone in a boxing match but hititng someon outside the match is not ok

in this case a 20 year old took it on him self to punish his older brother thats not acceptable

Lotus-eater

robpw2 wrote: »

if you hugged me i would not be very happy at all because i don't know you
anything can be assualt when it is not called for /required ,

for example its ok to hit someone in a boxing match but hititng someon outside the match is not ok

in this case a 20 year old took it on him self to punish his older brother thats not acceptable

For goodness sake, it's not punishment when a someone taps his sibling on the arm and says don't eat with your hands!
You are just being silly now.

tea_lover

robpw2 wrote: »

if you hugged me i would not be very happy at all because i don't know you
anything can be assualt when it is not called for /required ,

for example its ok to hit someone in a boxing match but hititng someon outside the match is not ok

in this case a 20 year old took it on him self to punish his older brother thats not acceptable

Oh for heaven's sake that is ridiculous. I dropped something in town the other day and a stranger tapped me on the shoulder to hand it back - instead of thanking them I should have had them arrested for assault?

It was a tap on the arm - not punishment, not violence - a tap on the arm. Surely the focus here needs to be on the son that's taking a baseball bat to his father, hitting his gf and a threat to his baby son - not the one that tapped someone on the arm.

CH27

robpw2 wrote: »

if you hugged me i would not be very happy at all because i don't know you
anything can be assualt when it is not called for /required ,

for example its ok to hit someone in a boxing match but hititng someon outside the match is not ok

in this case a 20 year old took it on him self to punish his older brother thats not acceptable

Don't be ridiculous. Just because you obviously have issues it doesn't mean everyone else does.

daska

Hootie is your son still under the care of a consultant for the ADHD? Get him back there now or go to your GP and insist on an urgent referral. Violence in ADHD can be treatable and you're doing him no favours if you don't explore this option.

jellyhead

Wootball wrote: »

I'd just like to post here before someone decides to use the completely moronic, age-old and disproven excuse that he plays video games as a reason for him being a d*ckhead.

If he is doing very little except play games then that will affect him. Parents usually limit their child's screen time for this reason. The games themselves probably aren't a problem if they are played in moderation, but it sounds like he's not playing them in moderation.

Wootball

jellyhead wrote: »

If he is doing very little except play games then that will affect him. Parents usually limit their child's screen time for this reason. The games themselves probably aren't a problem if they are played in moderation, but it sounds like he's not playing them in moderation.

Video games don't cause messed up people to be violent. These people would be violent with or without the games.

I'd be interested to hear if your arguments were the same if it turned out that he just really loved to play his brand new Dora the Explorer video game.

CH27

OP you are enabling your son to be a violent bully by not ringing the police.
He will get worse rather than better & I don't think you would be able to live with yourself if he hurt his child.
Get help now. Stand firm & help your son to get sorted.

heartbreak_star

jellyhead wrote: »

If he is doing very little except play games then that will affect him. Parents usually limit their child's screen time for this reason. The games themselves probably aren't a problem if they are played in moderation, but it sounds like he's not playing them in moderation.

He's 22 - he's not exactly a child. There is no problem with playing video games - no parent has an issue if their child is watching films or reading books. Blaming the video game is a knee-jerk reaction. If it wasn't doing badly at a game that triggered his rage, it would have been something else - his hairstyle not going right maybe?

Just out of interest, I used to play video games for 3-4 hours a day from the age of 12-13...I still do. I was a high-performing student and now have a good job. Games are NOT a problem.

HBS x