Kids and Small Hotels and Breakfast Time Nightmares

Welshwoofs

shellsuit wrote: »

I'm a stay at home Mum, so I do need a holiday, as I can't get away from my 'place of work' as I live there.

Does that count?

You should probably get to have double dibs on holidays as you're in your place of work 24/7.

Savvy_Sue

Welshwoofs wrote: »

No, indeed 'people' don't need to go on holidays. They need rest time away from work, which is a different thing.

shellsuit wrote: »

I'm a stay at home Mum, so I do need a holiday, as I can't get away from my 'place of work' as I live there.

Does that count?

Welshwoofs wrote: »

You should probably get to have double dibs on holidays as you're in your place of work 24/7.

I vividly remember our first 'holiday' after DS1 was born. It hit me, like a brick, that 'holidays' were now doing the same as I'd be doing at home, just in a different and probably less convenient place!

Put me off a bit!

Mine were generally OK in restaurants, although the eldest never ate much because he was picky, but were a complete PITA in 'attractions' like museums, even 'good' ones with things to do. Because DS1 would decide it was 'boring', say it was 'boring', and tell us all he was 'bored' multiple times. Which of course meant the younger two would also decide it was 'boring'.

Discovered much later that he's an Aspie, and then found that telling him beforehand that I knew he was going to find x 'boring', but since we all knew he was going to be 'bored', there was absolutely no reason for him to tell us, even once. Because the rest of us were going to enjoy ourselves and find it very interesting, so it was going to be a 'life is tough, deal with it' kind of day.

Actually, the rest of us weren't going to enjoy the attraction, necessarily. DS2 always had his nose in a book, and would find a quiet corner to sit and read. Nearly left him behind a few times! :rotfl:

shellsuit

Welshwoofs wrote: »

You should probably get to have double dibs on holidays as you're in your place of work 24/7.

I shall show my husband the the older 2 kids this

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I vividly remember our first 'holiday' after DS1 was born. It hit me, like a brick, that 'holidays' were now doing the same as I'd be doing at home, just in a different and probably less convenient place!

Put me off a bit!

Mine were generally OK in restaurants, although the eldest never ate much because he was picky, but were a complete PITA in 'attractions' like museums, even 'good' ones with things to do. Because DS1 would decide it was 'boring', say it was 'boring', and tell us all he was 'bored' multiple times. Which of course meant the younger two would also decide it was 'boring'.

Discovered much later that he's an Aspie, and then found that telling him beforehand that I knew he was going to find x 'boring', but since we all knew he was going to be 'bored', there was absolutely no reason for him to tell us, even once. Because the rest of us were going to enjoy ourselves and find it very interesting, so it was going to be a 'life is tough, deal with it' kind of day.

Actually, the rest of us weren't going to enjoy the attraction, necessarily. DS2 always had his nose in a book, and would find a quiet corner to sit and read. Nearly left him behind a few times! :rotfl:

See, I love going away because I don't have to cook, clean, hoover, polish, mop, sort bills, pay bills, go shopping or worry that everyone else has everything they need for their day, so I go on total strike

I wouldn't expect my husband to fix lifts while we're away and I wouldn't expect the kids to do essays and sums so I'm not expected to do any of the above while we're away, apart from a quick tidy around the hotel room/apartment with the help of the others.

I do love family holidays though as it's the only time we ALL do stuff together, and have no laptops, TV, phones or other gadgets to distract us.

It's the only time my son talks to my daughter and vice versa too! :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

shellsuit wrote: »

See, I love going away because I don't have to cook, clean, hoover, polish, mop, sort bills, pay bills, go shopping or worry that everyone else has everything they need for their day, so I go on total strike :

We were self-catering that first time, and usually thereafter. And I was breast-feeding. Even though we were with friends, I didn't feel I could opt out of all the household stuff JUST because I had a baby to feed.

I think DH preferred self-catering anyway, because a) it was what he was used to and b) he doesn't like sharing a bedroom with children on holiday. Or he knows that if we are sharing a bedroom with the children on holiday, he won't be getting any. :rotfl: Although last time we had one of them in the same room as us, the lad de-camped to the bathroom because DH was snoring so loudly! :eek:

shellsuit wrote: »

I wouldn't expect my husband to fix lifts while we're away and I wouldn't expect the kids to do essays and sums so I'm not expected to do any of the above while we're away, apart from a quick tidy around the hotel room/apartment with the help of the others.

I'd still feel obliged to make decisions, or at least 'guide' decisions - where are we going, where shall we eat, who's carrying the rucksack kind of thing!

shellsuit wrote: »

I do love family holidays though as it's the only time we ALL do stuff together, and have no laptops, TV, phones or other gadgets to distract us.

:rotfl: last time we all holidayed together was a trip to NYC and Wildwood (described by someone on the travel board as like the armpit of Blackpool!) and we had two laptops between the five of us. If we took them away now, they'd have to have their laptops surgically removed, I fear ... AND there was TV in all the hotel rooms.

shellsuit wrote: »

It's the only time my son talks to my daughter and vice versa too! :rotfl:

Mine will talk in the car, and over Sunday lunch, if you can get them going it's brilliant!

meer53

I love my kids dearly but i also love holidays without them ! In my opinion, it's a neccessity to keep my sanity !

DKLS

shellsuit wrote: »

I'm sorry, I just remember you saying you didn't have children and didn't ever want children (think it was on one of the wedding threads?!), so that's what I based that particular response on.

(Unless I've got the completely wrong person! )

No same person Shell, the 12 year sentence I served was with an ex.:eek:
Hence when the that relationship ended I was determined To find a partner who wanted to be child free. Luckily I found her.

shellsuit

DKLS wrote: »

No same person Shell, the 12 year sentence I served was with an ex.:eek:
Hence when the that relationship ended I was determined To find a partner who wanted to be child free. Luckily I found her.

Ahh I see, I thought you'd never had anything to do with kids, my mistake sorry (serves me right for assuming, hey )

DKLS

shellsuit wrote: »

Ahh I see, I thought you'd never had anything to do with kids, my mistake sorry (serves me right for assuming, hey )

No need for apologies its only a forum , and a thread that has plenty of room for differing opinions, unlike some of the very serious threads on here where people actually need some support and decent advice.