DD won £5k - should she share it?

Gra76

Skipping through the previous pages and having read the OP only.... I don't think there's any other answer than "It's her bonds that won. Therefore her winnings".

What she decides to do with those winnings is up to her and I'd be appalled if anyone put any pressure on her to share it with siblings (who had their own bonds anyway.)

melanzana

We live in a society, not an economy right?

If we inculcate a sense of generosity in people I think that is a very good thing.

I could not EVER imagine not sharing at least some of my good fortune should I win something. I would feel so mean and tight. Especially within my family.

Sorry if I have offended anyone, but the notion of sharing is a very good one. And the opposite is not IMV. Even giving 100 each to the siblings, and treating th parents to a night away in a hotel would be so nice.

It is always better to give than to receive.

Then when the siblings win the big prize they will remember the generosity of spirit of their sister and will do the same!

Karma will look after hoarding it all for yourself.

What you never had, you never miss, and winnings are a bonus in your life.

Spread it around, it will do you and others good.

I hate meanness, and tightwads., and quite frankly I cannot imagine a sibling of mine or myself not sharing to some extent any good fortune that might come our way. Honest.

aliasojo

Wow melanzana, you managed to fit a fair number of cliches into just one post.



(gentle banter please don't feel offended, I really am only joking )

Poppy9

Gra76 wrote: »

Skipping through the previous pages and having read the OP only.... I don't think there's any other answer than "It's her bonds that won. Therefore her winnings".

What she decides to do with those winnings is up to her and I'd be appalled if anyone put any pressure on her to share it with siblings (who had their own bonds anyway.)

But it's not her choice what she does with the winnings. Her mother decided she could spend a small part and had to save the remainder.

Therefore the question really being posed is did the mother make the right decision and was that decision in the best interest of one of her children or all of her children?

melanzana

aliasojo wrote: »

Wow melanzana, you managed to fit a fair number of cliches into just one post.



(gentle banter please don't feel offended, I really am only joking )

No offence taken at all! Why would I?

But I really meant what I said though... Cliches or not :cool:

aliasojo

melanzana wrote: »

No offence taken at all! Why would I?

Most people are fine with my sense of humour but there has been occasion in the past where I've offended someone by making a jokey remark.

As that's never my intention I sometimes now just clarify and emphasis the fact I'm joking.

aliasojo

I think everyone agrees, it's nice to share.

What I'm not clear on, is whether people think she should be made to IF her own choice was not to share?

I'm not talking 'persuaded' btw, I do mean 'made' to.

Poppy9

aliasojo wrote: »

I think everyone agrees, it's nice to share.

What I'm not clear on, is whether people think she should be made to IF her own choice was not to share?

I'm not talking 'persuaded' btw, I do mean 'made' to.

At 13 she is old enough to know what is the right thing to do so I do not think she should be "made" to share.

If she was younger - maybe still Primary school age then I think it would be okay to explain and hopefully influence them into sharing if they expressed a wish to keep it all.

TBH though I can't imagine even thinking for one minute it was "all my money" if I was a child in that position or even an adult. To me it would be money the family won.

I also vaguely remember reading somewhere yesterday on this thread that if a child won say a million pounds the parents would buy a house and give to child when they are an adult. To me that is fraught with problems. Where do the parents then live, what if they cannot afford to buy their own home at that time, how would the child feel making the parents homeless?

jayII

Poppy9 wrote: »

At 13 she is old enough to know what is the right thing to do so I do not think she should be "made" to share.

If she was younger - maybe still Primary school age then I think it would be okay to explain and hopefully influence them into sharing if they expressed a wish to keep it all.

TBH though I can't imagine even thinking for one minute it was "all my money" if I was a child in that position or even an adult. To me it would be money the family won.

I also vaguely remember reading somewhere yesterday on this thread that if a child won say a million pounds the parents would buy a house and give to child when they are an adult. To me that is fraught with problems. Where do the parents then live, what if they cannot afford to buy their own home at that time, how would the child feel making the parents homeless?

Totally agree with you.

On the last point (tongue in cheek) surely by then the parents could save enough money to buy their own small house.

Dunroamin

aliasojo wrote: »

I think everyone agrees, it's nice to share.

What I'm not clear on, is whether people think she should be made to IF her own choice was not to share?

I'm not talking 'persuaded' btw, I do mean 'made' to.

Definitely not "made to" but I'd be ashamed if a child of mine didn't want to share; I'd feel I'd done something wrong in her upbringing.