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DD won £5k - should she share it?
dandy-candy
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A bit of a weird situation has come up the DH and I disagree on!
We have 3 kids and my FIL bought them all equal amounts of Premium bonds a few years ago. DD is 13 and last month she had a number come up and won £5000. I cashed it in and told her to buy something special (she got an Ipod) and the rest i've put in her building society savings account.
DH has twice now said he thinks she should share her win with her brothers but I disagree, I think what she wins should be hers.
They have all won odd £25 - £100 pounds before and they have all kept what ever they individually won as more bonds. Because this was a large win I thought it better in the savings account.
What do you think? Should each kid keep what their bonds won or should it be pooled and shared equally?
We have 3 kids and my FIL bought them all equal amounts of Premium bonds a few years ago. DD is 13 and last month she had a number come up and won £5000. I cashed it in and told her to buy something special (she got an Ipod) and the rest i've put in her building society savings account.
DH has twice now said he thinks she should share her win with her brothers but I disagree, I think what she wins should be hers.
They have all won odd £25 - £100 pounds before and they have all kept what ever they individually won as more bonds. Because this was a large win I thought it better in the savings account.
What do you think? Should each kid keep what their bonds won or should it be pooled and shared equally?
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I don't think she should be made to share it nor feel guilty if she doesn't volunteer to.2014 Target;
To overpay CC by £1,000.
Overpayment to date : £310
2nd Purse Challenge:
£15.88 saved to date0 -
I don't think she should share it equally but she could maybe treat both the others to a small gift as a way of sharing her good fortune?Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)
December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.100 -
It would be nice if she were to treat them to a pizza hut/mcdonalds or something, but not be made to share it.
It's a valuable life lesson, sometimes your siblings or friends will have more than you, and it might not always seem fair in circumstances of a random win, rather than reward for hard work. But that's life.
Congrats to her, may she always be so lucky.I ave a dodgy H, so sometimes I will sound dead common, on occasion dead stupid and rarely, pig ignorant. Sometimes I may be these things, but I will always blame it on my dodgy H.
Sorry, I'm a bit of a grumble weed today, no offence intended ... well it might be, but I'll be sorry.0 -
Your DH might be well-intentioned but he's still an interfering git. They are not his premium bonds to meddle with.0
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gravitytolls wrote: »It would be nice if she were to treat them to a pizza hut/mcdonalds or something, but not be made to share it.
It's a valuable life lesson, sometimes your siblings or friends will have more than you, and it might not always seem fair in circumstances of a random win, rather than reward for hard work. But that's life.
Congrats to her, may she always be so lucky.
^^^^^^ This0 -
If previous wins haven't been shared then it isn't right to start now, just because your daughter has had a bigger win than usual.
I agree with her sharing a little of her good luck with her brothers with a small gift or treat but the win shou0 -
I certainly think that your daughter should keep it and not feel guilty for doing so.
If it was one of my kids I would encourage them to keep it, after all it could come in really handy for her future.
Gravitytolls is right in saying that kids have to learn that during life there will always be other people with more money than you.
Well done to her :T.
Just wondering if it was it ever discussed beforehand what would happen if one was to have a big win?0 -
She won it, it's her money, simple. Yes it would be nice to share, or treat them but equally I don't think it should be mentioned to her or expected of her.
I personally think if it was my daughter, I'd ask her to save it for uni or a car or something when she's 17 or 18, at the end of the day it's her money though.
Everyone should just be happy for her and not begrudge her the win xx0 -
I think it's a bit late to make her share it now - if you were going to do this, the time to do it was immediately. You now have a de facto situation of "winner keeps all" so you need to explain this to all three children...who knows, one of the others might have a win? Also make very sure they all understand how premium bonds work; I certainly didn't fully understand until my late teens!
HTH
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I don't think she should share it equally but she could maybe treat both the others to a small gift as a way of sharing her good fortune?
Whilst I can understand this sentiment, she shouldn't be made she has to do this either.2014 Target;
To overpay CC by £1,000.
Overpayment to date : £310
2nd Purse Challenge:
£15.88 saved to date0
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