Dealing with an irrational wife

elantan

bluenoseam wrote: »

who's NEVER left the house with a window open?

me ...i have never left a window open and would never leave a window open ... i even have to door locked when i am in ... safety is paramount

19lottie82

But the OP has said it's not "just" the window, she often loses the plot over small issues. I think it is a much bigger problem.

elantan

i agree there and as i said she has no right to speak to him like that ... but maybe they need to deal with one irrational thing at a time ... some she will be right on and others he will be ... that's why they are a couple ... to work these things out

he did say though she likes to play everything safe

tasha-debt

Err thats totally OTT of her........ We never close our bedroom window fully as I hate the room be hot and like the room to smell fresh.

But if you have agreed to always close it and you forgot this time then that just makes you human. Is your wife 100% perfect all the time, I doubt it. No one is.

Tell her its really not worth sttessing over the little things, she told you, you aplogised, end of discussion. But as another poster said there could be something else on her mind but rather than talk to you about that she is over reacting about the window.

Would drive me mad if my BF picked me up on everthing I forgot to do lol as I have a terriable memory at times.

Cat501

19lottie82 wrote: »

But the OP has said it's not "just" the window, she often loses the plot over small issues. I think it is a much bigger problem.

I get that feeling too.

Any more examples, OP?

Blackpool_Saver

Are you generally a bit irresponsible, do you tend to forget things? does she have to mother you? be honest

andymc29

Thanks guys. I know it seems trivial but she's like this about loads of things.

I tell her I've got a bad memory and am trying hard but she says that's no excuse because she never forgets anything.

She says not remembering to do things is showing disrespect for her and that I'm being irresponsible. There's really no winning most of the time.

Lunar_Eclipse

Those texts are completely unacceptable. Her response is irrational (very OTT) as you describe it. I'm wondering if she's under a lot of (post wedding) stress or perhaps depressed. I was recently told that over reacting is a sign and honestly, what possessions are worth more than (the way she treats) you? Your apology isn't good enough?! It seems she wants the impossible: for you to guarantee it doesn't happen again. Actually I suppose leaving your window/s closed at all times would solve the issue.

I'm shocked at her utter lack of respect, despite her anger. If she really 'can't trust you' and thinks you are 'stupid', I'm really not sure what foundation your relationship is based on. And if she doesn't think these things are true then she needs to think before she acts. I would be very upset, disappointed & angry to receive texts like that from a spouse and her response to your mistake is out of proportion.

On a practical note, perhaps your household contents insurance needs upgrading.

Blackpool_Saver

We need to be balanced about this, what other things does she get upset about?

elantan

i think she needs to understand you have a terrible memory but i think you also need to be more aware of getting the important things right ... maybe get into a habit of checking things before you go out? maybe write a note somewhere to remind you?

you cant just go through life saying oh i forgot, my memory is shot ... the insurance company dont really care about that if your making a claim