wives, how would you react if....

pinkclouds

zaffi wrote: »

This got me thinking, my ring is far more expensive and in some respect is irreplaceable regardless of value. With all the booze and water and general hijinks that will go on, should i take it with me? and secondly how would my wife see it?

Can't answer for your wife but I think that is a logical reason. I wouldn't wear very expensive jewellery on a drinking night out in case a stone fell out or got bashed or whatever. That's what costume jewellery is for. Mind you... we don't wear our wedding rings in the first place! They are mementoes of our wedding and tucked away in jewellery boxes. My parents don't wear their wedding rings either. I only wear jewellery when I feel like it. I don't wear rings very often.

koalamummy

Suki you took the words right out of my mouth The vows you make when marrying are the important bit, the ring in all seriousness is just a decoration with no real significance. If you lost your ring tomorrow OP would you be any less married or committed?

My DH lost his about 7 years ago when he took our oldest son to feed ducks in the middle of winter. I oddly enough have not felt less married to him since, nor him to me. Back then it was a pointless piece of metal, and today it still just is an overpriced pointless piece of metal at the bottom of a loch

pinkclouds

koalamummy wrote: »

today it still just is an overpriced pointless piece of metal at the bottom of a loch

Surely an annoying loss of an asset though? Gold is gold at the end of the day.

koalamummy

pinkclouds wrote: »

Surely an annoying loss of an asset though? Gold is gold at the end of the day.

It was actually platinum However our son had just been discharged after a stay in hospital so its value was minuscule compared to the joy that day brought him!

Mindless_Clone

On the OP, if I were the wife in this scenario, I think I'd probably be royally peed off at the suggestion. Even if I understood and agreed with the logic and trusted my DH implicitly... I'd still be peed off.


BUT, I'd be even more peed off if you didn't tell me and then took it off anyway.


OR completely peed off if you left it on and then lost the damn thing.

Women Logic... face it you're going to be damned if you do or damned if you don't.

FBaby

If I was the wife I would think my hubby had way too much time on his side to come and start such a pointless thread on a public forum and would be building up a long list of chores for him to do before he goes on his holiday!

onlyroz

It's just a bit of metal. Get a grip guys.

PolishBigSpender

First of all, the stag do takes place before the wedding, so how come you already have your wedding ring? (ETA - sorry, now I see it's not your stag do).

Secondly, my husband wore his once - on the wedding reception. Now it's nicely in the cupboard cause he hates all jewellery on his hands. Oh well.

Thirdly, I've just came back from holidays in Egypt. I took off my ring on the first day, placed it in the safe. I was afraid of losing it in the pool, or worse even, in the sea. So for a week I looked like an unmarried woman :P It didn't make me any less married though.

Seanymph

Of course a ring doesn't matter, and doesn't keep people faithfully - it's not secured around the top of the trouser.....

However if someone has CHOSEN to wear a ring as a sign of their commitment to a marriage - and then is CHOOSING not to wear it for a specific event on a specific weekend, I'd wonder why if they were my spouse.

I worked on a building site in my younger days, I was the receptionist - traditionally Thursday nights were the night to go into the local town and get hammered. As receiptionist I was keeper of the wedding rings, they went into a dish on my desk Thursday afternoon, and I handed them back out Friday morning. One Friday i had 12 rings to hand out, I counted them.

Those men wore the rings home at the weekends, wore them the rest of the week on site - but on Thursday afternoon last thing they came off.

it's not the wearing or not wearing of a ring - I am getting married in October and OH won't wear a ring and I couldn't be less bothered.

It's the act of removing something that is usually worn that looks so suspect.

QuackQuackOops

Some of you say that if a man is going to stray he will do so with or without a ring on.
Perhaps that is true but a man who specifically tells his wife prior to the trip that he will not be wearing his ring because he thinks he might lose it is trying to convince his wife that he is genuine.

I think any wife would have more to worry from the men who say up front they wont wear a ring.