wives, how would you react if....

Faith177

Really pleased your wife laughed Zaffi it is a funny subject :T

I would love to know what pyschobabble London could come up fo me. My ex from when I was 17 lives with us. I still go to the pictures, shopping ect with my ex before OH. I regularly leave OH on his own to go away (if I waited for him to get leave I would never go on holiday). I let OH take burlesque photos and go to Bristol for a guys weekend or into London whenever he wants lol

As I said before if they are going to do anything they will regardless of how strict you are with them lol :rotfl:

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If my husband wanted to go anywhere without his ring I would wonder why as he has never taken it off since we got married. It shouldn't easily come off anyway so that seems like an excuse to me.

my wedding ring comes off in my glove when my hands are cold, and sometimes if my fingers feel sweaty in very hot weather, i take my ring off my finger and put it in my purse. OP if you really do think theres a chance you might lose your wedding ring on holiday, leave it at home, take a cheapie one with you to wear.

candygirl

If she was going on a hen do to Benidorm and asked you the same question, or didn't take her wedding ring, would you be ok with it?;)
Have a good time anyway:beer:

cottonhead

Its the stag do thing that would bother me not the ring. My husband actually doesnt wear a ring and Im fine with that but if he went away on a stag do I would be bothered ring or not. Why would it suddenly fall off anyway if it doenst normally ? ! Sounds like you dont want to wear it and have thought of a cunning plan and want some validation because deep down you know its wrong !

kerrypn

I would be more worried if he wanted to take his trousers off than his wedding ring....just a thought

Seriously though, it is symbolic the ring to people and it depends on the way the wife feels about it.

I wouldnt be so bothered especially because my DH probably would lose it or be persuaded to swap it for a donkey or something whilst inebriated.

loulou123

I also wouldn't be partically bothered if hubby took his off - as he'd properly swap it for something or get it stolen once drunk!

If someone's going to cheat, they will wedding ring or no wedding ring. My husband had his stag weekend last year and was brutally honest with me about what happened on it, and showed me pictures! But it didn't go beyond a strip club, accidently chatting to a prostitute (he was very drunk and thought the lady was just being friendly!) And various alcohol related incidents.

I honestly don't think that going on a stag night will make a man tempted to cheat, if he's going to he will - stag night or not.

zaffi

candygirl wrote: »

If she was going on a hen do to Benidorm and asked you the same question, or didn't take her wedding ring, would you be ok with it?;)
Have a good time anyway:beer:

previously covered, wouldn't bother me

cottonhead wrote: »

Its the stag do thing that would bother me not the ring. My husband actually doesnt wear a ring and Im fine with that but if he went away on a stag do I would be bothered ring or not. Why would it suddenly fall off anyway if it doenst normally ? ! Sounds like you dont want to wear it and have thought of a cunning plan and want some validation because deep down you know its wrong !

There have been a good few posts similar to this along the lines of "it doesn't fall off normally, why would it fall off on the stag"

Here's a fairly straightforward rationale

water desiccates the skin, shrinking oh say your fingers. I remove my ring when i swim, shower even wash the dishes.

The hotel we're staying in has been at it's best described as "great for stag parties" so no inroom safe, if we're at the pool a few beers deep and some clown pushes me in or if i just want to go in, what to do with the ring? same applies to the beach.

a poster on page 1 suggested something i'd not thought of, taping it up. but the general premise in the OP was based on this fear of loss when near water and to guage opinion on something that had the potential to be quite interesting

as for those who'd be angry at their OH for simply going to a stag do, a relationship with no trust, or trust only going in one direction i simply could not do

edit: i don't need the internet for validation

ViolaLass

hippyadam wrote: »

As a man I think that is simply practical thinking.

As a married man I think saying it to the wife is practically suicide...

And you chose to marry this person?

GobbledyGook

I think it would entirely depend.

If you normally remove your ring for swimming and you are going to be spending a lot of time in the water and have no safe I would see the logic in it. If that was suggested to me and you brought up buying a cheapie I'd probably say to just leave it behind and not bother.

If I had a husband who never, ever removed his wedding ring in X years of marriage, yet suddenly decided he was going to leave it behind for a stag do it'd raise questions in my mind. Especially if there was no mention of buying a cheap replacement.

Though my ex cheated whilst wearing his wedding ring so I maybe have a different train of thought than I would have before.

suki1001

zaffi wrote: »

previously covered, wouldn't bother me



There have been a good few posts similar to this along the lines of "it doesn't fall off normally, why would it fall off on the stag"

Here's a fairly straightforward rationale

water desiccates the skin, shrinking oh say your fingers. I remove my ring when i swim, shower even wash the dishes.

Well if it's something you normally do anyway, then it's an irrelevant question.

The hotel we're staying in has been at it's best described as "great for stag parties" so no inroom safe, if we're at the pool a few beers deep and some clown pushes me in or if i just want to go in, what to do with the ring? same applies to the beach.

a poster on page 1 suggested something i'd not thought of, taping it up. but the general premise in the OP was based on this fear of loss when near water and to guage opinion on something that had the potential to be quite interesting

as for those who'd be angry at their OH for simply going to a stag do, a relationship with no trust, or trust only going in one direction i simply could not do

edit: i don't need the internet for validation

It seems a bit of a pointless survey really. I know couples that have a trust issue, that it would be a problem (in one case - he would remove his wedding ring for exactly that reason, however his job and his wedding ring are probably enough to get plenty of women on a night out anyway), however I also know other people it wouldn't matter.

I think you may have had more people say, I wouldn't mind, if you'd have mentioned you remove it as a matter of course on with day to day tasks, such as washing up - if you never ever removed it for swimming or holidays then why would you remove it for a stag weekend? If it were my oh, he probably wouldn't even think to mention it anyway.

My oh is past the stag night phase anyway, and when he went on stag nights not many people went abroad - it went about as far as the strip club.

Having never owned a wedding ring, we've never had that issue anyway. I'm not quite sure why people wear them, they are just a piece of metal - is it supposed to warn other people off?