wives, how would you react if....

zaffi

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

Some of you say that if a man is going to stray he will do so with or without a ring on.
Perhaps that is true but a man who specifically tells his wife prior to the trip that he will not be wearing his ring because he thinks he might lose it is trying to convince his wife that he is genuine.

I think any wife would have more to worry from the men who say up front they wont wear a ring.

don't really get your logic, why would "a man" (me) need to try and convince his wife of anything?

As others have said a piece of metal on a finger isn't going to stop someone who wants to cheat

If anything by mentioning it upfront rather than not at all i'd say i'd be less likely to cheat, my wife seems to agree, despite many protestations on her behalf by stangers on a forum

Lunar_Eclipse

zaffi wrote: »

how would my wife see it?

I doubt many women would believe your rationale.

I only know one person who has deliberately left their wedding ring at home before going out for the evening and it was because he was hoping to get lucky, whilst away on a business trip.

If you're genuine, replace the ring.

zaffi

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I doubt many women would believe your rationale.

I only know one person who has deliberately left their wedding ring at home before going out for the evening and it was because he was hoping to get lucky, whilst away on a business trip.

If you're genuine, replace the ring.

So because one person you know did that, i'm going to do that?

Also i don't really care how many women believe my rationale. My wife does and her view is the only one i care about.

I started this thread out of curiousity and it's played out much as i'd thought.

Rational people saying it's a piece of metal it plays no part in dictating whether someone is going to cheat

And reactionary people drawing potentially on bad situations in their own lives to say i'm going to cheat or want to cheat

And LondonSurrey and their psych 101 which was as off the mark as it was hilarious

Wootball

Funnily enough I was in this situation this weekend just gone. I'm married and was going on a stag weekend. I planned to wear my wedding ring to the entire thing, with one exception - we went paintballing on Saturday, and I asked my wife if it was OK for me to not wear my wedding ring during paintball.

The reason is specifically that I didn't want to lose it - the ring is slightly too big since I've lost plenty of weight since we originally bought it 18 months ago. I've had it resized once and now it needs to be done again, but I haven't yet. So to be crawling through cold mud and rain with no gloves on would be a surefire way to lose it - which I wouldn't notice until afterwards, at which point it would be impossible to find.

When I'm at home I take it off whenever I'm doing any DIY, playing football or hitting the gym so it's not like the thing is glued on for every waking minute and this is out of the ordinary - but I asked her if it was ok. If not, I would have bought some gloves or worn tape. Her answer was 'you had bloody well better take it off, if you lose it paintballing or drunk we are getting a divorce'

Took it off before paintballing, left it in my wallet at the hotel, put it back on as soon as I'd had a shower before hitting town with the lads. Easy peasy.

pink68

If ny hubby wanted to take his ring off it wouldnt bother me, after 22 years of wearing it constantly he would be left with a white ring round his finger and an indent.

I leave all my jewellery behind when i go on holiday, except for my wedding ring.

And if it he's going to cheat i dont think the one night stand would worry if he was married or not!

*Louise*

My hubby only seems to wear his at weekends or when he's going out with his workmates - because of his work he can't wear a ring during the week.

We were together so many years without rings that it really doesn't make any difference. If he didn't wear it going out, then I'm nt that bothered.

It's the people who are intendng to try and pull that are unlikely to mention the ring to their wife and will just discreetly leave it off when they go out. I believer the OP is genuinely just asking a question and his wife won't be bothered at all.


That said, it would be interesting to know how many married men go on these stag weekends abroad and DO cheat (ring on show or not) because I work with a lot of men and the mentality is very much 'what happens on the stag do stays on the stag do' and it's like home doesn't even exist for the weekend and they get up to all sorts that they wouldn't normally.

(Not saying the OP is like that, just a general observation)

zaffi

*Louise* wrote: »

My hubby only seems to wear his at weekends or when he's going out with his workmates - because of his work he can't wear a ring during the week.

We were together so many years without rings that it really doesn't make any difference. If he didn't wear it going out, then I'm nt that bothered.

It's the people who are intendng to try and pull that are unlikely to mention the ring to their wife and will just discreetly leave it off when they go out. I believer the OP is genuinely just asking a question and his wife won't be bothered at all.


That said, it would be interesting to know how many married men go on these stag weekends abroad and DO cheat (ring on show or not) because I work with a lot of men and the mentality is very much 'what happens on the stag do stays on the stag do' and it's like home doesn't even exist for the weekend and they get up to all sorts that they wouldn't normally.

(Not saying the OP is like that, just a general observation)

Probably quite a few, i've heard some stories from guys at work who've went on "golf holidays" playing only one round but taking 5 t shirts on the course with them changing t shirts most holes and taking photos to look like it's a different day, freeing them up to spend the majority of the holiday chasing women at the bar!!

robpw2

i love this thread,
firstly the man could have gotten to the airport and taken his ring off left it in a secure locker whilst he was away wife wouldnt know anything . or he could tell his wife and she suspects he wants to cheat even thought he may not but omg a ring means he won't cheat ...(ha)

have you all thought about getting your husbands a chastity device then you coud all control thme and make sure they don't do anything or you could just TRUST them , relaitionships without trust will go sour eventually

Lotus-eater

robpw2 wrote: »

i love this thread,
firstly the man could have gotten to the airport and taken his ring off left it in a secure locker whilst he was away wife wouldnt know anything . or he could tell his wife and she suspects he wants to cheat even thought he may not but omg a ring means he won't cheat ...(ha)

have you all thought about getting your husbands a chastity device then you coud all control thme and make sure they don't do anything or you could just TRUST them , relaitionships without trust will go sour eventually

What the women aren't saying is that they have a tracking chip complete with camera in the wedding ring.

Obviously I'm not saying they don't trust their husbands :rotfl:

pleasedelete

My ring had to be stretched when I bought it and was always tight. When I was pregnant it almost had to be cut off. A bee stung me on the finger and only a quick thinking gp with me who pulled it off and made me swig piriton from the bottle saved it that time. I haven't worn it for 7 years. I was a bit upset as last month I realised I didn't know where it was (I suspect child dressing up has lost it!)

Point being a relationship isn't about a ring. Wear it , don't wear it.
The relationship is in your heart not your ring and only you know how ypu feel about tht.