Not told of Son's wedding

PinkLipgloss

Whilst I agree that it is ultimately the choice of the bride and groom who attends their wedding......I think it is outrageous that the grooms mother found out through a social networking site!

I think he should have AT LEAST informed his mother of the marriage. If this happened to me I would be taking issue with not being informed as well as wanting to know why I wasn't invited.

gingin_2

Do you know what work hours they keep, could you sent it so that she receives it at a time that you know he won't be in and address it to Mr and Mrs **** in the hope that she opens it?

I would keep the sentiments warm and supportive and hope at least it might cause her to question the stories she might have heard about you.

HeatherintheHills

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

Whilst I agree that it is ultimately the choice of the bride and groom who attends their wedding......I think it is outrageous that the grooms mother found out through a social networking site!

I think he should have AT LEAST informed his mother of the marriage. If this happened to me I would be taking issue with not being informed as well as wanting to know why I wasn't invited.

^^^ This.

No matter what his reasons for not inviting his family, if there is any form of contact between them, which there obviously is, there is no excuse at all for not having ensured he personally told his mother about the wedding, either before or after the event.

He knew his Mum would see his FB page, he didn't sever the connection on there with her. To let her find out that way was cruel and cowardly (so sorry to have such a low opinion of your son OP).

DUTR

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

Whilst I agree that it is ultimately the choice of the bride and groom who attends their wedding......I think it is outrageous that the grooms mother found out through a social networking site!

I think he should have AT LEAST informed his mother of the marriage. If this happened to me I would be taking issue with not being informed as well as wanting to know why I wasn't invited.

From the other side though, why would you be taking issue as in approaching it gung ho style? Would you wanting to be saying how the ceromony should proceed? Perhaps the partner is of another ethnicity or religion, or for whatever other reason the mother may have disapproved, in anycase it is done now and Mummy does not hold all the cards, let by gones be by gones.

HeatherintheHills

DUTR wrote: »

From the other side though, why would you be taking issue as in approaching it gung ho style? Would you wanting to be saying how the ceromony should proceed? Perhaps the partner is of another ethnicity or religion, or for whatever other reason the mother may have disapproved, in anycase it is done now and Mummy does not hold all the cards, let by gones be by gones.

That is one hell of an assumption isn't it?

Whatever his reasons, letting his Mum find out via Facebook is, quite simply, either seriously cowardly or an indication of total self-absorption if it didn't even occur to him that this would cause great pain to his family.

londonsurrey

The son could be a totally selfish so-and-so, unthinking, uncaring, inconsiderate.

It could be indicative of what he thinks of the OP.

It could be indicative of how little they plan to involve the OP in their future lives, that the DIL didn't insist on meeting his both parents before marrying him.

I do realise that my mother is not at all the norm, but if I ever married again, I would not tell her. It would be foolhardy to do so, as I have taken her to court to get her to stop harassing me. So there are really bad relationships out there.

poet123

DUTR wrote: »

From the other side though, why would you be taking issue as in approaching it gung ho style? Would you wanting to be saying how the ceromony should proceed? Perhaps the partner is of another ethnicity or religion, or for whatever other reason the mother may have disapproved, in anycase it is done now and Mummy does not hold all the cards, let by gones be by gones.

So, his mum should just accept without question and move on? It all seems a bit one sided when two adults are involved. Parents are people too and deserve consideration.

DUTR

HeatherintheHills wrote: »

That is one hell of an assumption isn't it?

Whatever his reasons, letting his Mum find out via Facebook is, quite simply, either seriously cowardly or an indication of total self-absorption if it didn't even occur to him that this would cause great pain to his family.

It is cowardly for the Mum to be snooping at his facebook to find out, it is not all about the son to blame, the Mum could simply phone him and ask him why, in all honesty I think she already knows why and perhaps the disclusion was intentional.
I have not noticed a single post yet as to why the couple cannot have their own day and invite or not invite whom they choose.

DUTR

poet123 wrote: »

So, his mum should just accept without question and move on? It all seems a bit one sided when two adults are involved. Parents are people too and deserve consideration.

I agree to a point, but the fact that some are ranting about the disclusion, gives me good cause to not have wanted such characters available on a special day, with their strong one sided view, there is a good chance they may spoil the one time occasion.

HeatherintheHills

DUTR wrote: »

It is cowardly for the Mum to be snooping at his facebook to find out, it is not all about the son to blame, the Mum could simply phone him and ask him why, in all honesty I think she already knows why and perhaps the disclusion was intentional.
I have not noticed a single post yet as to why the couple cannot have their own day and invite or not invite whom they choose.

So it is snooping to read the status changes of a facebook friend is it? Are you for real? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

This isn't about how the couple chose to organise their wedding, it is about the way her son chose to let the OP find out about it. Can't you see the difference?