Not told of Son's wedding

usignuolo

Looking at it from the other side, if my daughter got married I would expect my new son in law to invite at the very least his parents. I would wonder why my daughter had not met them.
Unless my son in law told me they were estranged or some other stories to explain their absence.

Boys are often bad at keeping in touch after they leave home and my son did not come home much when he was at uni, but he did bring his fiancee to meet me just before they got engaged and we were invited to the wedding.

It sounds like son has reinvented his past for reasons best known to himself which means he does not want his new wife and her family to meet them.

purple.sarah

SandC wrote: »

It's very interesting that a lot of people are wondering if the OP hasn't told the whole story with regards to her relationship with her son and yet when someone else comes along with a very similar scenario only it involves the bride and not the groom not inviting her side everyone seems to think she is being controlled by her new husband!

Why doesn't anyone think this is likely with the OP's son?

I think it is because in the OP's situation, her son said he wanted a low key wedding, whereas in the scenario where the bride's family were not invited she said it was because her groom was uncomfortable around them, which makes it sound like there was more pressure on her. Also her family is very worried she is being abused, whereas the OP didn't mention that concern. I wouldn't rule out the possibility that he could be in a controlling relationship but it seemed more likely in the other situation.

Mojisola

euripidesralph wrote: »

Im really sorry OP but I do wonder why you are so insistant that there couldnt be anything up with the relationship.

In the nicest meant way no families are perfect, and no parents as well, is it possible that its worth reavaluating things?

Perhaps your son does have an issue with his relationship with you, but has not been able to say as you insist all is ok?

I dont mean to kick while you are down, but I know my mum has a tendency to insist everything is fine when its not, so I often just give up and get on with my life

I really hope you find some peace with this

But it wasn't just his Mum - he didn't invite any of his blood relations.

A neighbour's daughter refused to have her 21st birthday celebration at home because she had joined in with a posh crowd at uni and thought her family would be an embarrassment if her new friends were to meet them! Her father gave her the money to have a do at uni which is more than I would have done.

She had to relent when she wanted to get engaged unless she was going to invent a catastrophe that had wiped out all her living relatives.

Blackpool_Saver

Perhaps it was a shotgun wedding and the brides Dad didn't want to give anyone chance to object....