Not told of Son's wedding

Nicki

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Jehovahs witnesses do not cut everyone off, that's total rubbish, there are over the top fanatics in all religions but not all witnesses are like that

Is this not the party line then? It looks like a fairly JW sympathetic site to me.

http://thejehovahswitnesses.org/friends.php

System

If i get married won't be telling my bio dad or inviting him. We have no relationship and i have no desire for him to be there. I couldn't care less what he thinks.

But i will have my mum and stepdad and siblings there. And i wouldn't go off without telling them.

But i don't agree that just cos someone is related by blood it gives them some automatic right to be involved

Blackpool_Saver

or you could have been in my situation where neither parent could be bothered to show up !

janb5

Gigglepig wrote: »

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The religious angle is interesting - some people are "searching" when they go to uni, others are really lost and are easy pray for spiritual 'special interest groups' ...

OP good luck to you and please do come back and let us know how you are getting on after speaking to your son.

I think you meant `prey` but the similarity is interesting!

Gigglepig

janb5 wrote: »

I think you meant `prey` but the similarity is interesting!

Yes - funny typo :-)

DUTR

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

If i get married won't be telling my bio dad or inviting him. We have no relationship and i have no desire for him to be there. I couldn't care less what he thinks.

But i will have my mum and stepdad and siblings there. And i wouldn't go off without telling them.

But i don't agree that just cos someone is related by blood it gives them some automatic right to be involved

Heh heh , you sound like my daughter, but then I would decline the invite if there were one

Ivrytwr3

Your son is a tool.

A 'low key' wedding? Fair enough, but to me 'low key' is not inviting your 19th cousin removed etc, not your own mum!!

However, he is young (we've all made stupid mistakes) and hopefully in a few years he will realise the huge mistake he has made and apologise (i don't mean married, but not inviting mum!)

kerrypn

I would be far more concerned that my son hadnt introduced me to this incredibly important person in his life than not being invited to one day. I think the fact you dont even know her is more indicative of something amiss than not being invited to the wedding.

Have you met his wife yet OP?

I didnt invite my mother to my wedding. She hasnt been involved in my life since age 6 and caused so much upset when she left she had no place there, and I make no apology for it. I imagine she wasnt very happy when she found out, but you cant just pick the bits you want to be involved in.

I think if I was OP and I genuinely hadnt done anything wrong or fallen out with my son, I would be happy for him but I would want to meet his wife and welcome her into the family.

Maybe you could suggest a nice meal out OP?

euripidesralph

Im really sorry OP but I do wonder why you are so insistant that there couldnt be anything up with the relationship.

In the nicest meant way no families are perfect, and no parents as well, is it possible that its worth reavaluating things?

Perhaps your son does have an issue with his relationship with you, but has not been able to say as you insist all is ok?

I dont mean to kick while you are down, but I know my mum has a tendency to insist everything is fine when its not, so I often just give up and get on with my life

I really hope you find some peace with this

SandC

It's very interesting that a lot of people are wondering if the OP hasn't told the whole story with regards to her relationship with her son and yet when someone else comes along with a very similar scenario only it involves the bride and not the groom not inviting her side everyone seems to think she is being controlled by her new husband!

Why doesn't anyone think this is likely with the OP's son?