Not told of Son's wedding

freyasmum

julie03 wrote: »

does it just say he is married , because my son has done this and so have many of his friends, none of them are actually married, its just something they say when in a relationship, bit stupid i know but thats what loads of them seem to do nowadays

Lots of the younger ones (god, that makes me feel old! :rotfl:) have 'married to' and then link to their best friends.

I really have to agree - why don't you ask HIM? He's the only one who can actually tell you.

If it's as above, it's likely just an in=joke between friends.

If he really has gotten married and hasn't told you, then I can understand the hurt... but really, you should know if the relationship is in that bad a state?

Seanymph

IF he's married (and like everyone else I think it's probably a facebook thing) - IF he is, it may not be you at all.

It may be that the girl didn't want to invite HER parents, so they agreed to get married with no parents.

Or they didn't have the money for a 'do' - what with being and university and all - so they both went for a small thing with a couple of mates.

Or they didn't want to invite his dad, so they have not invited either of you.

You need to talk to him and find out if it's true first, then worry about being offended - but you shouldn't be. They will have got married in a way that suits them, after all, it's their day.

candygirl

freyasmum wrote: »

Lots of the younger ones (god, that makes me feel old! :rotfl:) have 'married to' and then link to their best friends.

I really have to agree - why don't you ask HIM? He's the only one who can actually tell you.

If it's as above, it's likely just an in=joke between friends.

If he really has gotten married and hasn't told you, then I can understand the hurt... but really, you should know if the relationship is in that bad a state?

Bloody stupid innit:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
OP I hope you find out what the proper story is off your Son, if he has indeed really got married:(

recoverydust

I can understand why the OP is devastated. I found put my Dad had married his girlfriend on F B. We are not that close, and I would not have gone, but it stings.
I hope there is a reasonable explanation for the OP and bridges can be built xx

Becles

If it's just the relationship status on FB, then I'd ask him about it.

My eldest is 15 and is married to his girlfriend on FB, and I know fine well they are not married in real life!

I have my two teen boys on mine plus some of their friends, and they all have various friends listed as random relatives and they keep marrying different people. I'm listed as several of their friends Aunty even though I'm not related to them at all!

maggy50

honeypop wrote: »

How did you find out on the site? See actual photos, read comments about the wedding, or see a relationship status change? Just trying to ascertain if it really did actually happen or something has made you think it has.

Yes photos and when I contacted him he said he wanted to keep it low key!

There is nothing we as a family have done we always have been there for him'

recoverydust

That is very sad, for both you and your son, I think. However I guess that somehow you have to respect his wishes and get on with supporting him.
It's probably not going to be easy though xxx hugs

maggy50

recoverydust wrote: »

That is very sad, for both you and your son, I think. However I guess that somehow you have to respect his wishes and get on with supporting him.
It's probably not going to be easy though xxx hugs

Thank you for your kind thoughts.
Yes I must accept his decision, from the photos I have seen he looks very happy but what hurt was his low key wedding involved 30 of her family it seems that he has shunned his family.

So I have sent my best wishes and today I will find a nice card and hope it is seen as it us meant.

thank you xx

Mojisola

maggy50 wrote: »

Thank you for your kind thoughts.
Yes I must accept his decision, from the photos I have seen he looks very happy but what hurt was his low key wedding involved 30 of her family it seems that he has shunned his family.

So I have sent my best wishes and today I will find a nice card and hope it is seen as it us meant.

"Low key" is the two of you and a couple of people as witnesses or the closest family/friends on each side at the registry office ceremony.

Thirty of her family and none of yours suggests something different. Has he told his new wife that his family background is very different to reality and can't introduce to any of you without the truth coming out?

If I was his wife, I would have had to be told a very believable story to explain why none of my husband-to-be's family could be invited to our wedding.

I would be upset if one our children did this to us. Keep up the strong, adult attitude by sending the card and hope it will settle down.

Charlie23

desert_rose wrote: »

I'm amazed at the assumptions here.

The OP has stated that she is in communication with her son and is naturally devastated at being kept in the dark over his recent wedding.

Does anyone think that quite possibly, the son is out of order here?

Does anyone think that just maybe, his mother has every right to feel upset?

What is it with assuming that she's in the wrong and he isn't?

sorry but why is the son at fault? if HE got married then HE chose the guests and she wasn't invited.
it's his wedding, his choice.
my mil wasn't at the wedding and my fil (they're divorced) was only invited at the last minute because a friend couldn't come.
bride and groom are the people who matter.