Not told of Son's wedding

Person_one

If he's 18-21 and away at uni I'd say its almost definitely a daft joke that he doesn't realise you'll see.

I don't really get why its funny, but the younger people on my facebook are always declaring themselves 'married' to various people, different ones every week. Or 'hacking' into each other's facebook accounts to post embarrassing statuses.

michelle2008

There must be some issues n your relationship because most parents would pick up he phone immediately to ask what is going on.

Ring him tomorrow - if you aren't close enough that you feel you can do this then it is possible he would get married without involving you.

Hope it all works out

faerie~spangles

#1: I'm presuming you saw this on your son's FB page?

He could have been fraped

#2: Do you make regular contact with your son?

If not why not?

#3: Do you have strong religious/moral... views?

LadyMorticia

I didn't tell my dad that I was getting married but then, he's a complete tool and we don't have a relationship.

Seems a bit odd in your case though if you're still in touch and talking!

Also, on Facebook, loads of people say they're married to someone when they're not, a kind of inside joke in a way. Just because someone's relationship status says that they're married, it doesn't necessasily mean that they are. Loads of my friends are married to their best friend on FB etc.

desert_rose

I'm amazed at the assumptions here.

The OP has stated that she is in communication with her son and is naturally devastated at being kept in the dark over his recent wedding.

Does anyone think that quite possibly, the son is out of order here?

Does anyone think that just maybe, his mother has every right to feel upset?

What is it with assuming that she's in the wrong and he isn't?

faerie~spangles

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Also, on Facebook, loads of people say they're married to someone when they're not, a kind of inside joke in a way. Just because someone's relationship status says that they're married, it doesn't necessasily mean that they are. Loads of my friends are married to their best friend on FB etc.

^^^^

Is a well known occurrence on FB.

londonsurrey

It could be untrue, and just a Facebook thing.
It could be that the son is totally out of line here, and simply didn't inform her.

However, the thing that really signals to me that the communication between them isn't all that it could be is the fact that she's posting it here first.

If their communication was anywhere near healthy, a typical person would have simply picked the phone with a "You'll never guess what I just saw on the computer! Haha."

faerie~spangles

desert_rose wrote: »

I'm amazed at the assumptions here.

The OP has stated that she is in communication with her son and is naturally devastated at being kept in the dark over his recent wedding.

Does anyone think that quite possibly, the son is out of order here?

Does anyone think that just maybe, his mother has every right to feel upset?

What is it with assuming that she's in the wrong and he isn't?

The OP read it on a social media site!?!?!

GobbledyGook

Is there anything other than a status change on facebook to suggest there has been a wedding?

Any photos, congratulations from people who would know (i.e. not the 200 people from school/college/hometown that everyone seems to have that they wouldn't speak to in the street) or any hint of a build up to it with good luck messages or the likes over the past few days?

If there isn't then I would think it's a childish prank by his mates or a young thing. My cousin's eldest (who is 16) seems to be "married" to someone new every few weeks. She also has half of her mates added as sisters, aunties and grandparents.

ViolaLass

desert_rose wrote: »

I'm amazed at the assumptions here.

The OP has stated that she is in communication with her son and is naturally devastated at being kept in the dark over his recent wedding.

Does anyone think that quite possibly, the son is out of order here?

Does anyone think that just maybe, his mother has every right to feel upset?

What is it with assuming that she's in the wrong and he isn't?

I think people are working first on the assumption that it isn't true (for all that it may appear to the OP to be true). If he hasn't really got married, then I don't see that he's done anything wrong.