MSE Pregnancy Club 25

Bamama

I'm not sure if I'll have the same midwife throughout. I've not really had the same midwife for my checkups. That's partly down to the fact I moved and had to change surgeries. They've told me I may see some of the midwives from my old surg, as they are one large team. So god knows.

I'm just going with the flow now... too much planning will drive me nuts. Do you think pethidine will affect the babies ability to breastfeed? I'd think I'd rather the pain than struggle to BF due to a drowsy baby.

Rups32

thanks nephthys. yes i seem to have woken up about some stuff and i feel for him and want to side with him because i feel that is right. its not getting myself into knots. its just so much is expected in this culture. i just have to say no, as i am not religious nor do i beleive in following all this. i mean yes, the significance of this would be so she can look after me, but i am sure dh can too and i can get on with knowing bubba. its too much. i agree with dh on that one..so we shall all be staying at home. i think i worry about pleasing mum but she knows who i married etc etc. it will be ok as i have to tell her no.

thanks for your post on pain relief too. my cousin said people say such negative about pethidine, she took it and she said to be honest you are glad that you are going through some sort of relief and she said not to beleive midwives who say no one needs drugs lol

Nephthys

Bamama - I will be very honest with you and say that DS struggled to feed but we're not so sure that was from the pethidine. It may have had an effect though we'll never know. He was very much alert when he was born - he slept a good bit later on but this can be normal for any baby. However, he struggled to latch on as his lower lip was pushed inwards. We sorted it out but it took a good few days before I was confident on my own. In the hospital the midwife helped me hand express and we put the colostrum into him with a syringe. It worked for me. The community midwifes were awesome and really helped with the whole bfing process.

Rups - Good for you! You'll get there. Someone said the few weeks are hard - they are. no point in telling you it will all be moonlight and roses - it won't. But the rewards are amazing. Nothing beats that wee fuzzy glow you get when you catch your DH talking silly nonsense to your baby at odd moments when he thinks no one is listening!

Bamama

I'll just take it as it comes then I'd much prefer an injection to an epi. I'm determined it'll all go how I want it. Nice, easy and stress free! The chances might be slim but it happens for some.

Rups32

ah i bet. i have seen dh with his niece and with mine and he is amazing. he just sings silly stuff and makes them laugh. ahhh. when its his own as well it will be amazing.

i think i just think if i need pain relief i am going for it. i would like to use the birthing pool but if things dont work then i will be up for stuff as i am a wimp when it comes to pain. i wont say i am good with it when i am not lol.

Gillyx

Pethidine for me, made me feel drunk and out of control which I hate. It didn't take the pain away and I still felt everything, despite being unable to even communicate as my words were slurred so badly. A slept for almost 48 hours after the birth, and wouldn't even wake to feed no matter what we done, wet wipe to the face and feet, holding, stripping off. Dead to the world.

I know for some others though it works brilliantly, at the time you will know yourself if you need pain relief or not. I ended up with an epidural because after 36 hours I'd only progressed to 4 cms and they said it'd make an emergency c sect easier if I needed it. Luckily I didn't. I got On fine with the epi and it had worn off by the time it came to push, but I know others didn't. I think when it comes to pain relief it's swings and roundabouts really, what suits one won't suit another, and tbh when you're in the situation you don't care :rotfl:

I had a detailed birth plan and it all went to pot. Xx

savageHK

Gillyx wrote: »

Pethidine for me, made me feel drunk and out of control which I hate. It didn't take the pain away and I still felt everything, despite being unable to even communicate as my words were slurred so badly.

This is why I don't want to take it, it's not something I'd like to find out the hard way (and it can also make you nauseous I believe).

Gillyx

savageHK wrote: »

This is why I don't want to take it, it's not something I'd like to find out the hard way (and it can also make you nauseous I believe).

What I found dangerous was the fact I was on a ward not the delivery suite, and it was just me no one else, ward was empty, no one came around to check on me, and they tried to send my OH home, luckily he ignored them. When I had to go to the toilet My OH said I was almost walking into walls and tripping over my own feet, and if he had gone home who would have helped me? To me it was like being very very drunk, not in a nice way. G&A was good drunk though lol

Nephthys

Gilly is right too - everyone reacts differently and its all swings and roundabouts. You make your decision based on how you are at the time. And it can make you feel drunk. In my case it was no worse a feeling than the gas and air was and I wasn't too bad on it. I didn't really want an epi but if the midwife had said I needed it then i would have done it.

Savage - some women can be sick. I wasn't nauseous with it which is probably one of the reasons I would have it again.

Not only is every woman different but every pregnancy. I have my fingers crossed it goes the same for this one but I know it will be completely different and the pethidine may not be the right choice this time. Am keeping an open mind!

Nephthys

Gilly - that sounds really rough and a little scary. I was on the delivery suite at the time under the constant care of a midwife so maybe that was a positive thing for me. Who knows. I guess no one really knows how they'll react to a particular drug until they are in that situation.