MSE Pregnancy Club 25

MissKeith

Hi ladies, I'm currently 30 weeks and 3 days and I'm really struggling. Last week, I started getting shooting pains in my back and the Braxton Hicks contractions I've been having suddenly started becoming like painful period cramps. I called the midwife who told me to go to the hospital to get checked out. They ran some tests and said that I had a 40% chance of going into labour in the next 48 hours so they kept me in for two nights. I was having mild contractions but my cervix hasn't softened or dilated so they gave me steroid injections and discharged me.

I'm still having mild cramps, I've been suffering rib flare and severe back ache throughout my pregnancy due to scoliosis and I'm being monitored for obstetric cholestasis because I've been so itchy I've been drawing blood. I'm low in iron and for some reason, I've been craving chewing on Wellington boots! I'm so tired and run down and I feel guilty for taking so much time off work. I just feel so run down, tired and shaky I just want to curl up into a ball. I feel so, so frightened that I'm going to into labour, it's awful.

Is anyone else feeling the same?

Rups32

hi misskeith. hope you are ok hon.. you poor thing. try and take it easy. i know easier said than done, but try. is there anyone round you to keep an eye on you as well just in case? at least you went and got yourself checked out. i faff around a lot before ringing anyone. i suppose if those pains continue, go back to the hospital. xxx hope you feel better soon hon.

ahh bamama, that is so sweet. it is lovely that he is like that. can i borrow him? hehe i am trying to have that relationship with my mum, as when i was born i was given up for adoption, so we didnt really bond but when my biological dad passed away and she decided to move here to the UK, i came backto her and it has been very hard. i stayed away at uni and did my own thing. we are trying now esp as there were grudged held against me when my older sister died 2 years ago from cancer.

morocha in terms of religion/cultures, i so agree with what you say.. now i am married and it is those decisions between me and dh that should matter. he will get paternity leave and if that was me and my wife went off with the baby, i would be upset too. its all about spending time with the new baby wth your family right? now dh is my family and my baby so if he will be upset i will have to explain to my mum. that is all. if she doesnt get it, then she doesnt. sometimes i try pleasing both parties but also need to be on dh's side. he feels i never support him when it comes to stuff like this. i feel bad now..

Bamama

Ofc you can borrow him Rups! It sounds your mother is making a lot of effort to be in your life. While you've been talking about staying with her... you haven't actually said if it's what you want or not?

MissKeith hang in there sweetheart. I can't pretend to know what you are going through. At least the medics are on the case... make sure you phone them if something happens, no matter how small! Don't worry about being a nag or anything, it's what they are there for!!! Get plenty of rest and some rubbish tv We're all here if you ever want to chat and take your mind off things or just vent away *cwtch* xxx

Rups32

so true bamama. i feel under pressure to do it for her, but to be honest i want to stay at home with dh and baby. i just asked him via email and asked if he would be hapy for me to go with baby to hers, and he said no, esp as he was taking pat leave, and he said he wants it to be us just us. so i understand and also have to make him happy as it is our baby. my mum will have to understand. i dont mind going to her but this time i want it to be us and so we can get used to it. also told him dont want so many visitors in the 1st month or so as need that time, and not worry about who to give tea etc.. you know? i feel for dh as there are times he has said i worry more about these tradition things and i agree now he is my family first with bubba.:) bless him.

Cake4brains

Lots of luck moneypuddle, hope all is going well and you are getting lots of cuddles xx

Newcook, so sorry to hear your news xx

Will pop back on later for a proper post, can hardly keep my eyes open!

LittleMoog

MissKeith, that sounds really scary, no wonder you're so worked up big hugs, don't worry about work, it's not important at the moment. When are you due to finish for ML?

Nephthys

Afternoon!

Rups - you do tie yourself in knots over things! Bless you! Your last post is right - you, DH and bubba are your own family unit and marta is right - make your own traditions. My DH would have been very hurt at me upping and going to my mums for any length of time after DS was born. Mums are important but so is your DH and he would miss his time with you and his child. And it is time that he would never ever get back. Those memories/bonding time are very special and you can't do them again!

Let your visitors make their own tea - and yours as well while they are at it!

Re delivery room - no way would I want my mum there at all! Or my dad and they are both brilliant. I had pethidine for DH and i have no idea how he dealt with me as i don't remember but my delivery notes for DS very clearly stated that he was a great support throughout. He is also very squeamish (as in won't watch anything hospital related on tv etc) but he saw DS crowning and coming out and he then cut the cord. He says he wouldn't change it for the world and he will do the same with theis baby if he can. It hasn't changed his feelings for me in any way except to make us closer. (thankfully!)

Nephthys

MissKeith - hope you are doing ok. LittleMoog is right - work is irrelevant right now. You have to think of yourself and baby.

Lots of luck moneypuddle - hope things are progressing for you!

newcook - many hugs. have posted on the other thread.

Bamama

I'm sure she'll understand Rups. Thanks for that post Nephthys... I'm probably the worst person for talking about things too much and allowing people get stressed out *zips lips*

How did you find the pethidine? Apparently it can't make you very... out of it. Also, doesn't it make the baby drowsy for a few days?

Nephthys

Bamama - yes it can - DS was very sleepy for about 24 hours afterwards but he was perfectly healthy. I liked the pethidine. Apparently it doesn't take the pain away - just takes you away to a place that makes it easier to handle. I must confess my memeories of DS's labour go a bit fuzzy from when i got the pethidine until it wore off. DH asked if i could have some more and they said I was too close and would be too out of it for pushing. Midwife made a good call. I remember every detail of his actual birth but not much of the labour after I got the shot. In short - i will be asking for it for this baby too if I need pain relief! All in all I had a good positive experience of it but I know others haven't.

To be honest I think the best thing i did was to go with the flow. Just explore your options beforehand and remember that what works for one woman will not work for others. Your DH (or whoever is with you) needs to be strong minded enough to question anything neither of you understands or has agreed to at the start. Not sure what your local place is like but over here is it one midwife with you the entire time you are in labour and for delivery so it was easier for DH to question things.