MSE Pregnancy Club 25

Aida_2

morocha wrote: »

My arm is hurting too i feel so tired, did not manage to do anything today. BTWv today is V-DAY for me !!...

:j:j:j Happy V- Day Morocha.

Aida_2

Rups I haven't done my bag yet and nor washed anything. I still think that it is too early as I still have 11 weeks to go.

Is your little one kicking properly now? Mine is moving a lot these days and also she got hiccups the other day :rotfl:.

Rups32

Hi Aida how have you been? glad to know you are ok and your blood tests came back ok? you could ring the gp or see him/her to ask about the low count? it could be nothing but better to ask about it. also def mention any pains. at least it is better to be told that its nothing to worry about rather than not saying anything. i know i can talk but i usually end up telling the gp or midwife everything. like with my side pain (i am not sure if it is related to this pelvic pain) i will def do something about it tomorrow if its still there.

i have packed (almost) my hospital bag and am sorting out baby clothes and washing them. just to make sure they are packed in case bubba decides to come early? a girl at work was telling me her sister was in labour earlier and her bag wasnt packed, so she had to go to her house and pack stuff quickly. lol

btw we saw a buggy today, and we both likes it. what do you guys think?

http://www.mothercare.com/Graco-Evo-Pushchair---Sand/529043,default,pd.html?cm_sp=ProductFeatures-_-Category%2520landing-_-Graco%2520Evo%2520Pushchair%2520-%2520Sand

scottishchick27

*Twinkle* wrote: »

baby is arriving on wednseday and i still have no name chosen

missbunbury wrote: »

We haven't got any names either, we are kind of hoping we'll just look at the baby and *know* what its name is!

Thank god I'm not the only one! We aren't even discussing it any more, there just isn't any boys names I like. Hopefully I'll have some inspiration once I see him.

moneypuddle

martafdz wrote: »

... the thing is I am worrying about the change in lifestyle and how it will affect our relationship, I am not worrying about the birth or anything like that, but about my husband looking at me like "mother of my kuds" instead of "friend, lover and wife", please tell me I am being plain silly and it is just hormonal worries. I do feel stupid, everybody here worries about labour and things going well and I am worrying about losing "couple time"

This is my BIGGEST worry too. I love my OH to death and am worried about us not being the same as a couple anymore :-(

Rups32

reallY? i think having a baby will bring all couples together. i know there wont be times to have that personal time, but it is possible. ahh i am sure that your OH's will see you as their lover, other half too. i didnt think of that actually. well tday i did get upset about us not being intimate anymore.:( dh said i go to bed grumpy. ;(

moneypuddle

I think the pressures of a baby would put a strain on the strongest of relationships. Yes you might be amazed by the little life you have created together but I think that's the rose-tinted-glasses/honeymoon-period stage and when 'real life' sets in things could be very different. Where my OH is my top priority at the minute, I'm sure the baby will take priority as soon as he's here and OH and our relationship will have to take something of a back seat!

martafdz

Thanks moneypuddle, it is good to know I am not the only one. I can't really explain it, we spend all of our free time with one another, he is my best friend and I am his, I worry I won't have time for us, or I will be too tired, or I won't feel as playful around him iykwim. I worry I will end up talking only about the baby and what the baby did that day, which I think it will be exciting and great,.I just do not want to forget that we are also a couple, beside being new parents. I worry I will be defined in his brain as the mother of my children as a replacement to what I am now and not as an add up, which is what I would like it to be.

Oh, Rups, I do not think a baby brings a couple together, nor do I believe a baby splits people up either, I think it depends of the relationship, the couple, how ready each of them is, how mature they are, how prepared they are, how realistic their expectations are... My ex split up with his wife months after the birth of their baby, he was not ready, they had the kid to try to sort things between them and he thought it was going to be easy peasy, he could not deal with not being the priority in the house and resented her for being all time with the baby, the family or friends. Maybe that is why I am so paranoid now, I do not want my husband to feel like second place, I want him to understand that the baby is our baby, not just mine. I want him to be part of everything, or at least to make him feel as part of it, but I also want to know we will be able to have "me time" together, and I am not talking about sex but just watching tv, go for a meal, talk about the day, Idk... I can't really put it into words, I re-read what I've written and it does not really explain accurately what I mean. It is a fear of losing my current role, instead of adding a new one to it, and losing.what it is important for me about our relationship in the process.

janninew

Try not to worry to much ladies, it is tough after your baby arrives and all other things do take a back seat but this doesn't last forever! If you are strong and happy now, chances are you will become even closer and sharing parenthood really is the best feeling ever. When you get baby into a routine and they start sleeping through the night things get so much better and easier! I can honestly say mine and hubby's love life is better than ever now! X

JT100

moneypuddle wrote: »

I think the pressures of a baby would put a strain on the strongest of relationships. Yes you might be amazed by the little life you have created together but I think that's the rose-tinted-glasses/honeymoon-period stage and when 'real life' sets in things could be very different. Where my OH is my top priority at the minute, I'm sure the baby will take priority as soon as he's here and OH and our relationship will have to take something of a back seat!

I found it was the ultimate test of our relationship. If the relationship is not stable before, then a baby will certainly not bring you together (just my opinion/experience.)

OH may feel neglected, jealous etc and they might not like coming second after a demanding baby. OH may also be envious of your relationship with baby ... esp. if breastfeeding or when you are still on maternity leave and they are out at work every day (again just writing from experience.)

Sometimes it's difficult to agree on how you will parent .. particularly if one of you already has children from a previous relationship. Then there's all the 'practical' relationship stuff that goes out out of the window when post birth bleeding and leaky b00bs get in the way!