MSE Pregnancy Club 25

lilymay1

That's your opinion pigpen. However, I trust the advice of a qualified specialist more than someone from an internet forum.

I have always been very pleased with the consultants I've had during pregnancy. There are just as many bad patients as bad doctors.

Janey13

lilymay1 wrote: »

That's your opinion pigpen. However, I trust the advice of a qualified specialist more than someone from an internet forum.

I have always been very pleased with the consultants I've had during pregnancy. There are just as many bad patients as bad doctors.

Well said Lilymay. You are quite right do to so. It amazes me how someone with no medical qualifications, and obviously some personal axe to grind, can get away with such derogatory and frankly rather silly statements.

fluffysox

My consultant would prefer me to try for natural labour. (vbac) but is allowing me to make the final decision.
If labour fails to progress however- last time got to 8/9 cm but then stopped dilating so was put on syntosin drip which was dreadful. So tired by that point, and it becomes so much more painful. This time I'm told that if labour doesn't progress I would go straight to c-section. No syntosin drip- which I am happy with. Don't want the same lengthy labour I had last time.

Thought I'd start lurking here a bit ladies, currently 22+5

sweaty_betty

lilymay1 wrote: »

That's your opinion pigpen. However, I trust the advice of a qualified specialist more than someone from an internet forum.

I have always been very pleased with the consultants I've had during pregnancy. There are just as many bad patients as bad doctors.

Janey13 wrote: »

Well said Lilymay. You are quite right do to so. It amazes me how someone with no medical qualifications, and obviously some personal axe to grind, can get away with such derogatory and frankly rather silly statements.

I find this a really difficult issue. Pigpen has had a lot of encounters with midwives/obs doctors etc and some pretty bad experiences. The more you have, the more cynical you become. These experiences are bound to impact on her views on the "expert" opinions and one of the great things about these boards is that we are able to share our opinions and experiences.

I've only had one child so far and have had mixed experiences. My ante-natal experience was great. My post-natal was dreadful, to the extent that now, at 21 weeks pregnant, I am getting stressed about being in the post-natal ward. I honestly struggle to say anything positive about my whole post-natal experience and, on a bad day when it's been on my mind, I may well come out with statements which may appear to be "derogatory and frankly silly". They are valid as they are my experiences, but I do understand that some people may not find them helpful.

I think the best thing we can do is take on board the experiences and opinions of others but also trust our gut feeling on the medical advice we are given to make informed choices.

Back on topic, I had an induction last time (at 38 weeks due to pre-existing condition) which ended up in an emergency c-section. They did offer me a VBAC induction at 38 weeks again this time, but I was adamant that I wasn't going to go through all that again and have practically insisted on an elective section (even if I go into labour spontaneously) which they've been happy to go along with. It's such an individual and emotive subject, but at the end of the day you have to go with what feels right for you.

Toothfairy4

Hi ladies!

Does anyone know if there's anything safe/natural i can take for hayfever? Really suffering thanks

22+2

Janey13

sweaty_betty wrote: »

I find this a really difficult issue. Pigpen has had a lot of encounters with midwives/obs doctors etc and some pretty bad experiences. The more you have, the more cynical you become. These experiences are bound to impact on her views on the "expert" opinions and one of the great things about these boards is that we are able to share our opinions and experiences.

I've only had one child so far and have had mixed experiences. My ante-natal experience was great. My post-natal was dreadful, to the extent that now, at 21 weeks pregnant, I am getting stressed about being in the post-natal ward. I honestly struggle to say anything positive about my whole post-natal experience and, on a bad day when it's been on my mind, I may well come out with statements which may appear to be "derogatory and frankly silly". They are valid as they are my experiences, but I do understand that some people may not find them helpful.

I think the best thing we can do is take on board the experiences and opinions of others but also trust our gut feeling on the medical advice we are given to make informed choices.

Back on topic, I had an induction last time (at 38 weeks due to pre-existing condition) which ended up in an emergency c-section. They did offer me a VBAC induction at 38 weeks again this time, but I was adamant that I wasn't going to go through all that again and have practically insisted on an elective section (even if I go into labour spontaneously) which they've been happy to go along with. It's such an individual and emotive subject, but at the end of the day you have to go with what feels right for you.

I don't disagree with most of your comments but we can't assume that the experience of someone in one small corner of the country who arrived at her conclusions with no medical knowledge is right. Obviously all consultants know a whole lot more than her, although she would never admit it, and the way she seeks to turn everybody against all the professionals is quite frankly dangerous, although I know most of you are too sensible to take any notice. I say this because I have a friend who's daughter is someone who felt a bit like Pigpen, she didn't go for check ups as per Pigpen and as it was her 10th child she thought she knew it all. As a result of this her child died and she nearly lost her own life but she's still determined to have another although she's been told not to. This worries my friend no end and |I can quite understand why.

anderson8

I'm really happy with my consultant, and at the end of the day Having another cesarean isn't the end of the world for me.
My recovery was great last time. I just don't want induced again and I also don't want a really lengthy labour like last time. If I failing to progress then I will go for another section.

BeNiceToMySelf

Hi
it's time for me to join the thread as I'm 24+1. I have a front placenta so have only just started to feel movements - well if it's not indigestion! Feels like little twitches and gas bubbles. I'm nowhere near thinking about the actual birth so can't really comment on previous posts.

IHateDida

This is proving to be interesting to me as I am now over-due (1st baby) with no real sign of baby yet. I'm now thinking induction or C-section might be around the corner (going to try a couple of sweeps first - wish they would have done one at the start of the week but they won't until I am 41 weeks even despite me asking - its not "policy" apparently around here!).

What's a vbac??? The whole intervention thing scares me (I still desperately want a home birth but this is looking less likely as time goes by....:(). Why are people preferring C-sections to inductions???

I really don't want to be pushed into something that I don't really understand. I am next seeing the mw on Tuesday and I think she is a bit more "matron-like" than the mw I have seen before.

40+5

lilymay1

VBAC - vaginal birth after C-section

Inductions are (in my experience) incredibly painful. I think everyone who has posted above has had very bad experiences with vaginal deliveries and most ended up with emergency C-sections anyway. It is safer and easier for some women to avoid all the potential complications again and go straight for C-section.

They aren't a walk in the park by any means, but a shocking delivery is worse. I don't know anyone who lost a baby as a result of an elective C-section. I know many who lost them during long and difficult labours.