MSE Pregnancy Club 25

chonorla

Welcome triangle :wave:

I have a 14 year old, a 4 year old and a 3 year old. So a ten year gap, a 16 month gap and number 4 will be a 3 1/2 year gap - so I appear to have done nearly all variations of age gaps. With each gap there is good and bad bits

As for the measuring over - I always do. I measured 42 cm at 33 weeks pregnant with my last one and 5cm ahead all the way through the pregnancy before.
I was already measuring 5cm over at 16 weeks with this one and am due to see the Consultant at 32 weeks to be reassessed and booked in for a growth scan.

I do have quite heavy babies (9 1/2 - 10 1/2 pounders) but they are all really long so it evens itself out . Last one was induced 2 weeks early due to size - makes my eyes water to think what he would have weighed full term!!! The growth scans are not completely accurate and even my consultant said nobody can tell the true size of baby till it actually arrives, so don't worry about it. And if its any consolation, I have had all of mine naturally with gas and air with 2 of them only. And as I am having number 4 it can't have been that bad......:rotfl:
xxxx

hngrymummy

I always seem to measure small with my bumps, so have to go for growth scans. They've all been fine and it's just a case of baby lying in a funny position, and the fact that my bump is huuuuge when I stand up, but a lot smaller when I lie down. As soon as I walk in for the scan they look at me and say 'you look fine, but we'll scan just to make sure.'

Last time, my 'nice, neat, small bump' produced an 8lb 4oz baby, much to everyone's surprise. This time I'm still measuring small, but after growth scans they estimated an 8lber if I went to term (we're now a week over).

msnigella - I've suffered back ache and pains in my legs with this baby. I went to the Dr and was immediately referred for physio. They decided that it would be best to sort it out straight away rather than wait till it got worse. It was brilliant. I was given a massage, shown some exercises to do to help, and told the best way to sit and lie. I only had two physio appointments and I've been fine ever since, with the occasional twinge when I've sat funny. If they'd not seen me so soon I'd have probably ended up signed off work as I was struggling to drive, and beginning to struggle to even walk.

I really want this baby out of me now, but no 1 son has been a pain most of the day and I'm wondering how on earth I'm going to cope with 2 small children :eek: Can I change my mind please and wait another year??

Bamama

Welcome Triangle! I should really leave this threas but I like the stories and chat too much.

Hngrymummy... too late to change your mind sorry :P

Lazywife... don't worry. From my time here I've learnt that bump sizes can vary enormously. Average is +/- 1 or 2 but "average" means nothing! Enjoy the extra attention and scans x

Lozzy88

hngrymummy wrote: »

I really want this baby out of me now, but no 1 son has been a pain most of the day and I'm wondering how on earth I'm going to cope with 2 small children :eek: Can I change my mind please and wait another year??

hi ladies I just thought I would comment on this, I hadn't realised till my sister mentioned it but I have 3 children under 5 years old dd is 4 ds1 is 15 months and ds2 is 3 weeks and 1 day and honestly its not that difficult...... but on Monday I fell down the stairs and torn the ligaments in my ankle lol so now its a bit tricky especially with the snow, I can't leave the house! You will manage with 2 hngrymummy

Anyways labour vibes to all that want them.

lolamancity

Hello all

Can i join you. I'm 29 from Manchester, and due my second baby on 1st June. So nearly 21 weeks pregnant now.

I have one son, aged 4.5 from my previous marriage, which unfortunately broke down after he was born - i had major issues with him and unfortunately our relationship suffered, so i thought i'd always have just the one but here i am again. Aside from the particularly tricky start, he is utterly a.m.a.z.i.n.g., my best friend in the whole world and i can't imagine my life without him. I am so painfully proud of the life me and him have had together in the past few years, and proud of how i've managed to juggle my own mortgage after my separation and my full time job/nursery fees and all that sh'bang!

Fast forward and i met someone else 3 years ago and after a particularly hardcore Ibiza holiday in September (i'm an Ibiza addict and have been every year for a decade!) here we are expecting a total surprise baby together. Finding it quite hard in spells due to immense fears of the past experiencesccoming back to get me a 2nd time round, and additionally because my tiny tiny 2 bedroom terrace, literally has no room for another human - my sons bedroom can't even fit a single bed in it, he's still happily in his converted cotbed, so desperately trying to sell my house to absolutely no avail! Have also found this pregnancy completely polar opposite to my last - i breezed through my last, no sickness really, slight food aversions, no complications or many memorable aches or pains - this time, everything under the sun, leaving me feeling desperately depressed at times. And to make matters worse, my relationship (or rather my feelings towards it) is constantly on rocky ground. my boyfriend floats through life, and thinks everything's great, whereas i just see every part of his personality as an unlivable clash with me and find myself boiling with irritation even at merely looking at him in recent weeks - plus in the past year, we've had some of the worst rows i ever thought possible (opposed to not one row in 8 years of marriage previously!) and i've called time on the relationship numerous times, including the night before we flew home from Ibiza (and then subsequently found out i was pregnant 2 weeks later!) many rows, equals subconscious emotional distancing eventually, in my eyes anyway. So, hardly ideal at 21 weeks pregnant, but i am trying to look at the positives, ignore all my gripes and remember what will be will be!

Anyway i'm rambling... looking forward to 'seeing' you all around... hoping you're all having better experiences with midwives than i am at the moment - i've boycotted mine because they're indescribably awful/pointless, and will 'manage' myself as much as medically possible... probably will have to go and see her when i'm about 34 weeks, but for now......

hngrymummy

Welcome and Congrats Lolamancity :j

lolamancity wrote: »

i've boycotted mine because they're indescribably awful/pointless, and will 'manage' myself as much as medically possible... probably will have to go and see her when i'm about 34 weeks, but for now......

Please don't boycott your MW. A friend did, as she didn't get on with hers. She ended up with undiagnosed pre-eclampsia and lost the baby late on. Even if nothing else, the MW will be checking your BP and wee to ensure that you and the baby are safe.

lolamancity

Thanks

Re; the BP and urine testing.... i've discovered a sneaky way of getting that done - at my 20 week scan at the hospital i asked them whether i could stick my head round the midwives office door to test my urine because i hadn't had a community midwife apt since 16 weeks (and it was beyond terrible anyway) and my next one wasn't scheduled until 28 weeks, and i've been getting pretty harsh braxton hicks since Xmas - and they tested it without even asking, and even gave me my MATB1 seeing as i was there! just going to play dumb and claim i couldn't get an appointment around 30 weeks (and possibly 34 weeks) and do the same thing and just drop into the hospital :0)

chonorla

Welcome lolamancity :wave:

Sound like you are having a pretty rough time at the moment so big hugs for that.

Can totally empathise with the Midwife thing - I am on baby number 4 and just don't seem to ever see them and when I do it is for about 2 minutes and make me feel like I am wasting their time :think: I am 29 weeks tomorrow and I have seen them twice (including my booking in appointment and my second appointment lasted max 5 minutes!). Just see them when you can, I do worry things will be missed with me.

Our house is small and 3 bedroom and I will soon have 4 children in it! We have a box room which is the length of a single bed which my 6ft 3 in 14 year old has to himself. We may need to dig a whole in the wall over the stairs soon as his feet will have no where to go otherwise :rotfl:
The largest bedroom is shared by my two littlest age 3 and 4 and baby will also go in there when he arrives in April. It is a largish bedroom and we will eventually partition the room so my daughter has her own space when she is a bit older. They love sharing at the moment and I often find them snuggled up in bed together in the mornings, which is very cute They are close.

All pregnancies are different and my symptoms have been different with each one! Number 1,2 and 4 I have had HG and medicated for the whole 9 months. Number 3 baby - nothing -not one whiff of nausea at all. Mixture of boys and girls so no theory as to what I was carrying working for me there! It really is pot luck how you will feel, carry them etc but you are over half way there now, so keep positive

As for the relationship you are currently in, that must be difficult to know what to do at the moment I was a single parent with my eldest DS from before I found out I was pregnant , and you will manage - us women are very resilient when we need to be! :T I returned to work 6 weeks after my sons birth as financially I had no choice, but I understand it will be a bit more of a juggle with your other little one too. xxx

I have just been to pick up my Bounty and Emmas Diary goodie bags - I completely forgot to get them with my last DS2 3 years ago Have to say, the Emmas Diary ones are hugely improved to when I had my DD 4 years ago. You only got one and it was full of leaflets and zip all else!!! We have a good foot of snow and me and the little ones walked 15 minutes into town and 15 minutes back, I don't mind the snow when its still nice and soft, its when it goes to thick ice that I become housebound! Haven't told DH I have been out in the snow he will go mad with me being 29 weeks pregnant!! But since when did I ever listen to him anyway :rotfl:

Hope everyone else is keeping well and is not snowed in xxxxxxxxxxxxx

The_Bride

Hello ladies, May I join you?

Im currently 24 + 4 and due on the 6th May with a pink bundle This will be my 4th baby. DD1 is 11, DD2 8 and DS is 6, bump wasn't planned at all but these things happen for a reason so after the initial shock me and DH are really excited

Must admit I have had a !!!!py time so far, hyperemesis, numerous UTI's and SPD which has left me with crutches and signed off work since 18 wks but Im sure she will be worth it!!!

elisabeth854

Hi ladies,

I've not posted for a couple of weeks...been super busy. Whoever said Maternity Leave is for rest was wrong! I think everyone thinks i'll be bored at home soeveryone has wanted tosee me...catch up for a cuppa, or pop round. It has been lovely though.

Welcome to all the newbies, and labour vibes to the boldies -i know we have quite a few at the moment! (i may even attempt the list in a minute!)

Last week me and DH had some lovely bump pictures taken, really chuffed with them. We have also booked to have some newborn pitcures taken too, although the pgotographer said they are best taken within the first 10 days -so i'll probably look like carp!

Had a baby shower last saturday...was amazing. We all went to the local tea shop and had a lovely afternoon tea..i ate scones and cake and loads of cream. Me and bump got thoroughly spoilt too.

I've managed to get the babys room all ready and sorted -not that it will be in there for a while - but all clothes have been washed and put away and sheets on the bed/moses basket.

I've finally packed the babys bag and have just a couple of bits left to put in mine...it all feels so real now!

I'm slightly annoyed by the snow today though....i went and had my lady bits waxed yesterday and my eyelashes tinted (so i look half awake in pictures), and whilst i was there i booked in for a facial and foot massage this morning as a treat (was free with my loyalty card)...so last night i changed the sheets on our bed, cleaned the house and made DH hoover, showered and hair washed so that this morning i could go and have my treats and chill for the rest of the day....well it got cancelled because of the snow!!!! rubbish....i could've done the cleaning today instead and taken my time.

My due date is Tuesday, and it feels very scary that it could literally happen any day now. I had a bit of a moment on Wednesday night....was laid in bed for 3 hours unable to sleep telling myself i wasn't ready and getting scared of going into labour -bit too late for that now!!!

I've had no real sign of anything happening yet...get period type cramps most nights, but just ignore them thinking that the real thing is going to be 10 times worse...the only thing that has happened is that i've been feeling really really sick again the last 2 days, not sure if this is pregnancy related or not though.

Anyway, i feeli have written an essay again...sorry!

me (39+3) x x

PS. Bamama, its nice that you are still around...hope you and little one are well. Have you heared from Rups? Is she and Andre doing ok?

PPS. Marta, if you still read this thread...did you get your tummy band? any good? x