MSE Pregnancy Club 25

dizziblonde

I was desperate to know what we were having - for practicality reasons having a mountain of girls' clothes! Thankfully this one was more obliging than her sister on the scan!

As for visitors - last time my MIL had booked into a hotel nearby around due date, and of course things kicked off early - meaning she came down early and stayed here (while I was in hospital at least) and then the day we were discharged from hospital was the same day all my family decided to come for a visit (not knowing if we'd be in hospital or out and awaiting directions as to where to go en-route) along with MIL being there... busy wasn't the word for it!

This time I think MIL has assumed (don't get me started seriously) she'll be around around due date again, my mum's going to need to be called to look after our girl so the same degree of bedlam as before... I'm just trying to get as much organised as I can in advance and they all know where the kettle lives.

MushyPeas

dizziblonde wrote: »

As for visitors - last time my MIL had booked into a hotel nearby around due date, and of course things kicked off early - meaning she came down early and stayed here (while I was in hospital at least) and then the day we were discharged from hospital was the same day all my family decided to come for a visit (not knowing if we'd be in hospital or out and awaiting directions as to where to go en-route) along with MIL being there... busy wasn't the word for it!

Oh my word - TOO MUCH!!! I couldn't cope with that.

Wasn't it really difficult if only you were discharged? Blimey, I know my mum means well but we have no idea what the next few days are going to be like. but I know it's because I'm still her 'baby' and she's worried about me

Queen_B_3

Dizzi - do you know who the car belongs to? I would be knocking on the door asking them to move if it was me, hate inconsiderate car packers. Where I live is terraced houses and semis with drives across the road. The people with drives do not use them, rage! And the people on my side (terraced) either park up ya bum so you can't move or leave big gaps but not one big enough to fit a car in so causes congestion. :mad:

Mrshaworth2b - we are team yellow. Part if me wanted to find out and DH wanted a surprise, luckily baby wasn't co operative at 20 week scan then when we had the 4D I wasn't bothered about finding out.

Being off work is the best thing, I do not sleep well at night so it's good to know that there is no worry if I lie in a bit or if I feel a bit rubbish, I bet you can't wait to finish, will soon be here!

I think I would have a nervous breakdown if I came out of hospital to a full house, we always keep our door locked and no-one else has keys so if people are knocking at the door I intend to hide if I'm not up to seein anyone.

Best of luck for tomorrow MushyPeas

dizziblonde

MushyPeas wrote: »

Oh my word - TOO MUCH!!! I couldn't cope with that.

Wasn't it really difficult if only you were discharged? Blimey, I know my mum means well but we have no idea what the next few days are going to be like. but I know it's because I'm still her 'baby' and she's worried about me

Because of what our hospital terms their "rooming in" policy and what seems suspiciously convenient to me as an excuse to cut staffing levels to the bone - I was kept in for the entire duration of the little miss's hospital stay (she got out of NICU fairly quickly) and bullied (no other word for it - I repeatedly said I was uncomfortable checking the tube position on my own and was told to just deal with it) into doing all the round-the-clock tube feeds on my own... while living in a corner of the maternity ward as a kind of amusing freak show for these full term giants of babies' parents to gawk at.

Basically meant, unless I was happy to leave the baby in her cot in what was essentially a store room beside the nurses' desk and hope they heard her if she cried, plus happy with the comings and goings into the store room (where all the sterilisers, breast pumps, changing facilities and baby baths were) and the security risks there - I couldn't leave the hospital at all for the entire time (I think I got out ONCE when we arranged for MIL to sit in with her for a few hours - and the hospital huffed and puffed at the inconvenience of having to have a staff member do that one tube feed as well)... are you kind of getting where the PTSD came from here?!

Had some interesting room mates in the time I stayed there as well - from the woman who kept forgetting to feed her baby, and whose husband showed up at 8am the morning after she'd given birth, toddler in tow and dumped him on her to look after the entire day (meaning said toddler spent the day banging all the bins and looking under curtains - leading the other two residents of the room to early discharge themselves against medical advice to get the hell out of there away from the toddler-nado), to the mum who threatened to punch one of her visitors for making digs about her child's jaundice, to various groups that made the place resemble the Jeremy Kyle show but with helium balloons... wasn't exactly DULL by any stretch of the imagination! Considering the bedside telly only had one functioning channel at least it was entertainment being provided!

Rups32

good luck tomorrow peas. xx

ouch my back..

Mrshaworth2b

OMG Dizziblonde - I am already worried about giving birth in hospital - I think you have just confirmed my fears!!

I'm not too bothered about who wants to turn up and when (although my OH did say "do you think we should go and stay with my parents for a few days after the birth" errrrr NO!!) if they get on my nerves or I need my space I won't feel obliged to tell them.. I can moody so I'm sure they'll get it lol. I don't think it will be a prob with my family, they know what I'm like but I think mil might be overbearing. I'm sure it'll all be fine! Fingers crossed

dizziblonde

Mrshaworth2b wrote: »

OMG Dizziblonde - I am already worried about giving birth in hospital - I think you have just confirmed my fears!!

To be honest - if we'd had a straight in and out (pardon the phrasing) birth it would have been fine - not the greatest post-natal ward in the world but if you're just there overnight and till the docs do their rounds in the morning - totally bearable with the aftereffects of the "woo I've got a baby" high... it was just being stuck there for weeks that really was awful, coupled with having to do NG tube feeds and endless hours of pumping blooming breast milk (she was too small to latch so was being tube-fed and attempting to breast feed till we later just gave her bottles of expressed milk). Having that length of time, without the flurry of visitors that the "normal" births got to distract you tends to give you time to dwell on things and people watch a lot more! Hell the actual birth bit was relatively ok - because they didn't dare check me because I had waters leaking, no one actually figured I was in proper labour because the Magical Trace Machine didn't decree I was - so I did 0-8cm dilated on two paracetamol and not even the fun of gas and air - which was doable!

Friend gave birth at the other hospital in town a few months ago and was out in three hours - didn't even SEE the post-natal ward!

babymonster2

rups if you're already having back pain I'd recommend getting a tens machine.

You can hire, but I bought mine last time on special offer, it's the boots one (sorry no idea how to do links!), when it cost the same to buy as it was to rent! I decided I was glad did that as went 12 days overdue and didn't want to be worrying about getting it sent back within the required time frame. My little monster moved back to back and it just about made things bearable until they let me go in to delivery room and have better pain relief!

Congrats to those with babies (sorry baby brain, can't remember who!) and welcome newbies

dizzi that's rubbish about the parking my grandparents had a similar issue once and called the police to see if they could help. They couldn't but discovered that the owners were wanted for crimes in another county so ended up arresting them anyway! Oh, and then the cute policeman came back at the end of his shift and asked me out on a date :rotfl: not sure that helps you much though!

Rups32

see i think i wouldnt mind some help from my mum but this dh of mine was like no way we want anyone in the house.. if my mum wants to come and his parents was to come to the hosp, they can but that is it. no home visits etc.. i dont know i think in terms of cleaning etc some help would be nice as in the first few days we wil be a mess.

dizziblonde

Car's moved now so at least in the morning I can get the baby to and from it a bit easier - I feel like a broken Barbie with the legs hanging loose on it at the moment with this SPD... only going to get worse as well I know - least I knew it was likely to be coming this time around I guess!

Spent half the evening trying to see if I can buy a replacement newborn head hugger for the side-by-side buggy for chucking in the car from anywhere (got one of those "funky" Cosatto ones cheap off Gumtree) - not too bothered if I can't find one - the buggy's still suitable for teenies since it has full lie-flat and it's not ever going to be our main buggy anyway since we've got a proper all bells and whistles tandem with carrycot and carseat and everything (apart from the proper manufacturer cosytoes cos I wasn't paying £50 a pop for those and bought some pretty fleecy ones) but if I could have picked one up I woulda done. Need a raincover for the cheapo buggy as well - since it's just an umbrella fold that shouldn't be hard to find and that'll be sorted - especially since that one has cosytoes and spare hoods and everything already with it.

Just need to get motivated to sell my singles on - been meaning to sell my beloved iCandy for about 2 months now!