MSE Pregnancy Club 25

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hello all

Just sticking head round door as I noticed in Dorothy Perkins sale started today there are maternity trousers £7 black eg
http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=33053&storeId=12552&productId=2321884&langId=-1&categoryId=&searchTerm=Maternity%20trouser%20&pageSize=20

Mrshaworth2b

Morning ladies

Struggling to keep my eyes open at work and still another 7 hours to go Worked till 11 and then had to be at work for 8.. didn't get much sleep. Woke up to little one led funny again and making me uncomfortable, had some gaviscon and all my tablets and now trying to keep them down

Not a great start to my day!

morocha

ohh bamama that is so sweet !! you are really close to hold your baby very soon.

MrsW, hope your day goes quick.

Aida, congratulations and please post a pic so we can see baby AND ur little belly before u had her, cos 8lb is a big baby gosh !!

ml, i am glad MW is helpful to you, mine just decided that she couldnt be bothered and everything i was doing was fine:eek: and being a 1st time mother with pnd, dont really think i was doing ok and could have done with some help.

Dizzie, i remember you and your story, you used to post here quite a bit, dont you ? i remember the story of your hospital stay.

Rups, you are so close, my lovely, that babby will be here so soon, cant still believe you havent have a look at that envelope. Get a tens machine, in my last stage of labour, i thought my back was breaking, it was so painful but they wouldnt give me anything, so i had a tens machine and it was bereable. hope you dont have a back to back labour.

Pea... all the best !! xx

Marta, Do not feel bad, most newborns are attached to mums boob 24/7, mine was, and they also lose their birth weight, you are a very inteligent woman, just remember the BF things that we analized and discused here. It is normal, she was establishing your milk supply, you said yourself that ur boob was leaking... Wherever YOU decided to do, it has to be your choice, i know all these hormones do not help but i am sending your big hugs.

welshgirl78

Massive congrats Aida and cupcake, how exciting you have made me number 6! Good luck today mushy, how all goes well for you today.

Marta, i have no experience but well done so far it must be so hard. If you want to carry on trying please get in torch with your local la leche league ( Google!) They should be able to offer you some proper support. From what I have heard lords of measures talk the talk with the best intentions but ultimately we're just bothered by weight gain which isn't allayed the same for breast Fed babies. Try and get hold of a breast feeding councillor who will be trained to help you. Obviously if you decide not to breast Fed it is your choice but you sound so sad about it. Good luck with whatever you do.

I feel I am getting closer with 2 weeks to go, braxton hicks getting more painful and midwife says fully engaged and ready so we dtd last night to help things along! Was very awkward, it's been a while and didn't realise how much my bump would get in the way Going for a walk in a min to keep the pressure up!!

Mrsh2b, 10 shifts to go! Dizzi, thanks for all your tips also x

hotbern

martafdz wrote: »

Midwife came today for day 5 visit and weighted my lo, she's lost 14% weight, which meant we had to put her on formula. I just want to cry, I feel really bad I wasn't producing enough milk and that was the reason she kept asking for milk so often and dud not sleep very well. I just feel they've taken a bonding experience from me. I tried to bf afterwards in the following feed as advised, but she completely ignored the breast. I've tried to express to give her that, but I'm suddenly dry At least the peaceful face of my lo was priceless when she finally got some food. But i still feel bar

please don't feel bad. There is so much pressure on us all to breastfeed, with everyone saying 'breast is best' which really really doesn't help mums who want to but can't for whatever reason. I was unable to feed my son after 3 days and was generally made to feel like a bad mother for not giving him 'the best start in life'. You don't need a breast to bond! Maintain eye to eye contact when bottle feeding, your bond will be the same.
Formula has come on a long way since the early days, and is on a par with breast milk. You can also let your partner feed, which aids bonding for him. I found it (eventually) a Godsend, but only after I'd cried my heart out because I felt I'd failed.

Remember, don't feel bad about whatever feeding you can do. As long as you love baby and look after her to the best of your ability, you will be an amazing mum :T

LadyMorticia

Congrats to those who have had their babies. I'm going to post my birth story when I have the energy!

kavics17

martafdz wrote: »

Midwife came today for day 5 visit and weighted my lo, she's lost 14% weight, which meant we had to put her on formula. I just want to cry, I feel really bad I wasn't producing enough milk and that was the reason she kept asking for milk so often and dud not sleep very well. I just feel they've taken a bonding experience from me. I tried to bf afterwards in the following feed as advised, but she completely ignored the breast. I've tried to express to give her that, but I'm suddenly dry At least the peaceful face of my lo was priceless when she finally got some food. But i still feel bar

Marta, exactly the same thing happened to me. Baby kavics lost 12%by day 5 and they asked me to put her on formula. I also did not have any milk till day 11 because of retained placenta. What i did and still do is: put her on each boob for 15 min, than give her 2-3 oz formula every 3 hours. She refused the boob several times and i have been in tears. I also expressed after every feed but only got a max of 0.5 oz a day, so like couple of drops per session per boob. I started to drink fennel tea 4-5 times a day, also got fenugreek tablets from holland and barrett to boost my supply. Baby kavics is 4 weeks old and she gets still 2oz formula after each feed but i can now express 4oz a day so twice i offer her the expressed breastmilk. It is hard work and breaking my heart when she screams for more milk after being on boob but i don't want to give up. I cried many times and i have doubts whether i am doing any good to myself or to her but i keep trying. I have given myself another 4 weeks to see the difference if i won't have more milk i will switch to formula as this routine takes over my life. I have nothing against formula but wanted the bonding to be special between her and me. Breastfeeding is very hard work and not everyone is lucky. What i want to say is please be gentle to yourself, don't feel bad, nothing to be ashamed of. sending you virtual hugs.

Rups32

hi ladies. hope you are all well.

marta lots of hugs for you.. dont be hard on yourself please? so many people have told me to be weary of that as well and it may not happen for everyone so dont think anything negative. you looked after your little one in your belly for 9 months and now you have yout lo with you so you can bond in other way. lots of hugs..xxxx

ahh congrats aida darling. cant wait to read your birth story and see a pic..:) hugs and enjoy those cuddles..

bamama what a sweet message you wrote. nearly made me cry. hugs.. we are so close now. i am actually starting to get excited and less scared now. i think i am 5th now.? lol.. lets get there together!! *virtual holding hands with the ladies above me*.

still coughing and feeling yuck. have some olbas on a tissue and sniffing that. as having a bit of a rubbis evening yest with dh being selfish etc and this morning was similar but have managed to calm myself down and concentrat on meeting bubs.. dh just feels he needs his space etc and already planned a trip next year to scotland alone so i got very upset as i feel he is panicking about his life ending - well social life. yest as well he got upset with me as his friend invited him for drinks and he must go for one. i just felt cant he just stay with me in case i need him? oh well hey?

so was upset and just being mad at him internally and sent him an email.. of course i didnt get a response. i seem to be just washing up etc and he goes to work , comes home, eats and dumps plates in the sink. so have been feeling sorry for myself. when he is good he is so good but when he has these moments, he can be such a pain!!! why are men so weird?

anyway enough moaning.. lol. i will go and eat something shortly as the in laws want to pop round later and i can be botherd as i am in my pjs.. grroooann. lol
hope everyone is fine. xx

got-it-spend-it

kavics17 wrote: »

Marta, exactly the same thing happened to me. Baby kavics lost 12%by day 5 and they asked me to put her on formula. I also did not have any milk till day 11 because of retained placenta. What i did and still do is: put her on each boob for 15 min, than give her 2-3 oz formula every 3 hours. She refused the boob several times and i have been in tears. I also expressed after every feed but only got a max of 0.5 oz a day, so like couple of drops per session per boob. I started to drink fennel tea 4-5 times a day, also got fenugreek tablets from holland and barrett to boost my supply. Baby kavics is 4 weeks old and she gets still 2oz formula after each feed but i can now express 4oz a day so twice i offer her the expressed breastmilk. It is hard work and breaking my heart when she screams for more milk after being on boob but i don't want to give up. I cried many times and i have doubts whether i am doing any good to myself or to her but i keep trying. I have given myself another 4 weeks to see the difference if i won't have more milk i will switch to formula as this routine takes over my life. I have nothing against formula but wanted the bonding to be special between her and me. Breastfeeding is very hard work and not everyone is lucky. What i want to say is please be gentle to yourself, don't feel bad, nothing to be ashamed of. sending you virtual hugs.

I think this is great advice to try baby on the breast first, then top-up to help with the weight gain. You are doing a great job Marta, so please don't be hard on yourself. Make sure you are eating and drinking plenty to help with supply, and the more baby goes to the breast, the more your supply will be stimulated.

Congratulations Aida :j. Glad it all went smoothly and that you are enjoying baby.

Bamama

Quiet around here today, did I scare everyone off with my soppy message?

Taking on all this bf'ing advice just in case it doesn't go smoothly for me.