MSE Pregnancy Club 25

morocha

Thank you, it is really helps to share my problems here, i am quite private and do not want to share too much with people around me.

Elisaneth, i am sorry u had to go through all of that. Hugs for you.
Rups, hope they find what it is what is making you burn down there..
Bamama, i hope u can nap or rest a bit this afternoon..

Rups32

i know how you feel sweety and yes def the hormones. i get panicky at times and like yest i just wanted to cry as DH said something and raised his voice.:( i think we all go through it n different stages. am feeling ready to meet little person but i am still scared as i dont want random events happening, and wished it happened in some order. i hope you know what i mean. my stuff is packed. still have silly things like shaving to do and making sure i am clean on the day but who knows hey? people keep saying bubs will be early but let us see you never know..

(38 weeks)

Rups32

be strong morocha and it def helps to chat on here.

morocha

ohh elisabeth, that happened to me aswell ! I dont want to seem shallow but with DD, i had stretch marks at the end of the pregnancy, all around my belly button and felt so bad about them, it really made down, it took a while to be ok with them. So far this pregnancy , hasnt got any more but iam actually growing now ( 32+3) and my coat does not fit, my MIL gave me one of hers cos i really dont want to spend money buying one for a few weeks, maternity clothes are so expensive !...

elisabeth854

Rups, i know what you mean about order...i like tobe organised, but the sometimes things never go to plan! As for the shaving...i tried shaving my legs on saturday night...had 1 leg on the edge of the bath and had all my weight on the other leg...was the most difficult thing i have done in ages...got cramp in my foot and hurt my leg..probably missed loads as well...i've told DH he will have to do it from now on!

Morocha..We're always here to listen...you can always PM me if you want. I think you are being incredibly strong and brave, esp with your DD. I had my DH to support me through last year, and my dad at other times in my life...x

elisabeth854

Morocha...you've hit the nail on the head....! I feel like if i moan then i sound shallow. I've have worked so hard all my life to stay slim and exercise and eat healthily...my flat stomach was always something i was proud of...now i feel like its ruined and i'm worried my DH wont fancy me as much after the baby. He's says i'm beig silly and will love me just as much if not more...I just can't seem to get my head around the changes in my body.

Rups32

i actually feel the same, which is why i intend to lose weight after as i worked hard.. ok i never had a flat tummy but i worked so hard at the gym and now i look like a whale.:( dh hasnt even come near me and i feel already he is not fancying me. he said last night he does want me and will wait till bubs is born but i need to happy with my body first:( sadly it is all shallow stuff but its the society we live in.:(

i am annoyed at him actually. he is a bit bored at work so he has come home to 'work from home'. so as soon as he came in he saw me having my lunch and made a comment on me always eating so i said its lunch.. then he saw that i hadnt finished the xmas tree (am doing it in stages) and he said i can see you have made progress there. i lost it and shouted at him and now he has the cheek to get annoyed at me, and said i gave him some welcome.. grrr. men are so stupid!! the house is clean too as the cleaner has been. it will take him a few seconds to mess it up i bet.. wish he was still at work.sorry ladies needed a rant.

elisabeth854

feel free to rant whenever rups. Men just don't understand the feelings we have at the moment, or what a major change our bodies are going through. I also don't think they get that a flippant comment can ruin our day or bring us to tears.
My DH is a home worker...his head office is in Manchester and only goes there 4 times a year...i'm lucky that he has his office in our box room, so once he's in there and shuts the door i forget he's there!

morocha

We all want a baby, but not so much some changes that comes with it. I was proud of my flat stomach before DD too, and after she was born and felt into pieces thinking that i was ruined and it did not matter if i lost the weight or not because the stretch marks would still be there... it took me time and they do not bother me anymore. OH never had a problem with them.
Rups, i really do not know many men that fancy their pregnant wife, i think they just see you in a differnt way, more of a saint carrying this beautiful child, it is not prsonal, dont feel bad. My oh was the same.

martafdz

Bamama, it's not all the time, I don't think it's thrust but I do not know, it is not itchy it does not burn or anything like that. Mixed with my normal discharge and only sometimes I can see a thicker creamy one with more of a beige or pinkish colour, but it has been only occasionally so far.

Morocha, do what is best for you and your DDs. If you feel you can give him a chance if he really changes, then it's up to him to prove it to you. Tell him that's what you need and expect, to be again the person he relies on, not the one he pushes away. And he cannot show you he's changed in a few weeks, so if he wants to work at it, he's got a few months ahead to try, that will also give you time to be in your own and recover. I think the counselling or a psychologist would be a good idea, I went to one in the past for other emotional stuff and it helped me a lot to focus, to stop feeling guilty, to understand myself, etc. The NHS must have one you can go to.

DH is on holidays now, so went for a walk to the Christmas markets, didn't buy anything but had some nice food there and lovely weather, so now back home resting and playing with DH at the PS3.