Boyfriend/husband and lap dancing clubs..???

raven83

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Why though? Was it because he might enjoy seeing naked woman?

How are you planning to police his thoughts from now on?

I think we as human beings are programmed to look at people we find attractive and feel a bit turned on, that is normal and people that think that their OH's don't do this are in denial. Also some people would class it as "cheating" which in my book is ridiculous.

PrincessPlaty

jayII wrote: »

You're talking about a totally different thing to PrincessPlaty and you know it. You're also trying to twist her words, which really isn't very nice.

I'm not going to post the obvious conclusion as to why you feel the need to bait someone and try to get a rise out of them, but is it really necessary to behave like that? I may be wrong, but I'm getting the impression you have a real axe to grind towards women. Or is it just people in general?

Reading back through some of his other posts it seems to be just people in general, he didn't get a rise out of me though. He just confirmed the fact that I thought he was an idiot.

No harm done

VestanPance

jayII wrote: »

You're talking about a totally different thing to PrincessPlaty and you know it. You're also trying to twist her words, which really isn't very nice.

I'm not going to post the obvious conclusion as to why you feel the need to bait someone and try to get a rise out of them, but is it really necessary to behave like that? I may be wrong, but I'm getting the impression you have a real axe to grind towards women. Or is it just people in general?

Oh dear, can't debate properly so try and play the you're baiting them card. Unlike you I'm not belittling her by claiming she can't answer for herself.

I'm debating the claim she's made and what she interprets as mine. There is no axe or grinding at all.

jayII

raven83 wrote: »

I think we as human beings are programmed to look at people we find attractive and feel a bit turned on, that is normal and people that think that their OH's don't do this are in denial. Also some people would class it as "cheating" which in my book is ridiculous.

It is pretty normal according to western culture, but that doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with people who veer from the norm.

Everyone is entitled to manage their relationship in a way that works for them and their OH, and if they are both okay with 'no strippers, !!!!!! etc then that should be respected in my opinion. Live and let live and all that.

janninew

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Why though? Was it because he might enjoy seeing naked woman?

How are you planning to police his thoughts from now on?

Surely what her OH thinks about is slightly different to having a naked lady dancing on his lap! Just out of interest are the ladies totally naked or do they keep knickers on? Never been to a strip club before!

Has anyone on here ever been to a male lap dancing club, I've never seen one before!

PrincessPlaty

janninew wrote: »

Surely what her OH thinks about is slightly different to having a naked lady dancing on his lap! Just out of interest are the ladies totally naked or do they keep knickers on? Never been to a strip club before!

At the one that I worked at they have to keep their knickers on.

raven83

Has anyone on here ever been to a male lap dancing club, I've never seen one before![/QUOTE]


:rotfl::rotfl: i can't think of anything worse. A man dripping in oil withering around in the buff, wouldn't do anything for me in the slightest, i think i would go more the comedy side of it not the sexual

janninew

jayII wrote: »

It is pretty normal according to western culture, but that doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with people who veer from the norm.

Everyone is entitled to manage their relationship in a way that works for them and their OH, and if they are both okay with 'no strippers, !!!!!! etc then that should be respected in my opinion. Live and let live and all that.

Def agree with you. Though I'm sure an awful lot of people (male and female) enjoy looking at !!!!!! it doesn't make the folk who don't enjoy it abnormal or strange. Also I can understand why women who have poor body image feel upset and 'not good enough' when their OH's look at !!!!!!. I use to have terrible self esteem when I was in my early 20's, now I'm in my late 20's and I've got a small baby I've got loads of self confidence, quite strange really!!

janninew

raven83 wrote: »

Has anyone on here ever been to a male lap dancing club, I've never seen one before!

:rotfl::rotfl: i can't think of anything worse. A man dripping in oil withering around in the buff, wouldn't do anything for me in the slightest, i think i would go more the comedy side of it not the sexual [/QUOTE]

Me neither, got better things to spend my money on, but some ladies might like to go and have a gander and in the interest of equality and all that!

jayII

jayII wrote: »

You're talking about a totally different thing to PrincessPlaty and you know it. You're also trying to twist her words, which really isn't very nice.

I'm not going to post the obvious conclusion as to why you feel the need to bait someone and try to get a rise out of them, but is it really necessary to behave like that? I may be wrong, but I'm getting the impression you have a real axe to grind towards women. Or is it just people in general?

VestanPance wrote: »

Oh dear, can't debate properly so try and play the you're baiting them card. Unlike you I'm not belittling her by claiming she can't answer for herself.

I'm debating the claim she's made and what she interprets as mine. There is no axe or grinding at all.

PP not able to answer for herself? That's a good one. :rotfl:

I can't see where I've claimed that, but maybe you know something I don't.

You're attempting to debate a statement she never made, just as you've claimed I said something I never did.

Oh well, never mind, life and love goes on and all that jazz.