One of my workers is pregnant for my best friends fella.

marisco_2

I would just like to say how well I think you have handled this situation op. It must be extremely difficult to be in the middle of a situation that overlaps your personal and professional life.

You have told your friend all you know and it is now up to her to move forward as she chooses to. If I were in your friends shoes though, I would seriously be wondering whether I was the first Mrs XXXX, or if I could be one of many.

I have been flabbergasted by what you have described of this mans life. I wonder how long he would have kept up these lies for (I was going to say double life, but I have my suspicions that it may be even worse than that). Would he actually have walked down the aisle with this other woman, raised a kid with her etc, all behind your friends back?

yvonne13_2

19lottie82 wrote: »

If she's been with him for a year then why did she not say anything when she saw him picking u up at the Xmas party?

I have no idea, I asked her where had they met and she said at the Christmas party, she must have been lying or just saying that today to save face

peachyprice

Perhaps she meant the one in 2010?

Either that or she's only too well aware that he was married and was happy to have an affair with him, with him trotting out the oldest stories in the book that he's left his wife, hasn't been sleeping with her yadda, yadda, yadda.

yvonne13_2

peachyprice wrote: »

Perhaps she meant the one in 2010?

Either that or she's only too well aware that he was married and was happy to have an affair with him, with him trotting out the oldest stories in the book that he's left his wife, hasn't been sleeping with her yadda, yadda, yadda.

It was 2011. I am not going to carry anything I hear from her to my friend as it could be lies or anything and I don't want to get anymore involved than what I already am.

My loyalty is with my friend so I will do whatever I can to make sure I am there for her at this difficult time.

yvonne13_2

My friend has just rang and she's changed the locks and packed his bags for him.

RAS

The awkward bit is that you may now have more contact with him, as your collegues partner? If he collects her from work etc?

amus

Im just flabbergasted as to how he though he wouldnt get found out!

I mean surely he knew his 'fiancee' was working for you!

What a horrible person.

marisco_2

yvonne13 wrote: »

My friend has just rang and she's changed the locks and packed his bags for him.

I can understand why your friend has taken this action. However by law she is not allowed to lock her husband out of his own home. He could get that overturned relatively easily.

If she decides that all this has brought about the collapse of her marriage then she needs to act smart. Rather than bothering with locksmiths she should seek the advice of a solicitor. Not what anyone expects to be doing so near to giving birth. This is such an awfully sad predicament for your friend to be in. She is going to need her friends and family very much over the next few weeks and months.

yvonne13_2

I told her to focus on the baby and sort him out after the birth, I guess it's easy for me to say that as I am not in the situation.

BitterAndTwisted

marisco wrote: »

I can understand why your friend has taken this action. However by law she is not allowed to lock her husband out of his own home. He could get that overturned relatively easily.

"By law" a lot shouldn't happen but they do, and this has. She may not have an absolute right to lock him out of his own home but she has. And meanwhile he's no bed to sleep in and his clothes are in the front garden. I'd say that was fair enough under the circs regardess of what his legal "rights" might be.