One of my workers is pregnant for my best friends fella.

lostinrates

I am somewhat dismayed at the pleas for the op to hurry up with updates. Captivating and compelling reading though this is, its simply not our 'right' to know, even if we want to. Its people's lives, not our entertainment.

I am glad your friend has you OP. i hope the other woman is ok too. I think her reaction is pretty understandable.

poet123

lostinrates wrote: »

I am somewhat dismayed at the pleas for the op to hurry up with updates. Captivating and compelling reading though this is, its simply not our 'right' to know, even if we want to. Its people's lives, not our entertainment.

I am glad your friend has you OP. i hope the other woman is ok too. I think her reaction is pretty understandable.

You are right of course,:o it was just that having posted it seemed odd not to at least update the basics.

maryroberts

lostinrates wrote: »

I am somewhat dismayed at the pleas for the op to hurry up with updates. Captivating and compelling reading though this is, its simply not our 'right' to know, even if we want to. Its people's lives, not our entertainment.

I am glad your friend has you OP. i hope the other woman is ok too. I think her reaction is pretty understandable.

It's not our right to know, agreed, but yesterday the OP posted many times during the day, going into great detail about the situation. It's only natural that all of us would like to know what happened, having offered various advice. So far the response has been pretty vague, but maybe the OP is in the middle of something else right now.

yvonne13_2

balletshoes wrote: »

that could have come from your best friend as well, its not an unheard of reaction to being told your fiance is already married and about to become a father to another child.

True, I told her to take some time of so she can gather her thoughts.

marisco_2

yvonne13 wrote: »

She asked me if I knew who the other woman was and when I told her yes she hit the roof, I was really concerned that she might do something silly so I told her she was to stay with me until the morning.

Does your friend realise, that the other woman has been messed around by her husband, almost as badly as she has been? That this isn't a woman who has started an affair with her husband, seeing as it is most likely your employee knew nothing about your friends existence, or any of that side to her fiancees life!

Is your friend aware now that her husband has lied to your employee too, pretended to be someone else, got her pregnant, proposed to her and got engaged to this woman? I understand that would be an almighty lot to take on board in one evening. However if she isn't informed of all of it then there is the potential that his web of lies and deceipt will continue!

Desperado99

At least now everybody, who needs to know, does know. I think you seem to have it all in hand and have managed to deal with it really well. Now all you can do is continue to support your friend while she deals with it and has her baby.

Hopefully your colleague will also be OK (and not get sucked into any lies her 'fiance' will spin).

lostinrates

maryroberts wrote: »

It's not our right to know, agreed, but yesterday the OP posted many times during the day, going into great detail about the situation. It's only natural that all of us would like to know what happened, having offered various advice. So far the response has been pretty vague, but maybe the OP is in the middle of something else right now.

Of course its natural to wonder, and to hope for more info, thats why i checked back. Sometimes its easy to forget its other peoples lives, and in this case someone else reporting secondhand on someone elses lives. Even though we are all intrigued, and read yesterday and today, op really can be as vague as she likes and imo does not deserve reproach for it.

yvonne13_2

marisco wrote: »

Does your friend realise, that the other woman has been messed around by her husband, almost as badly as she has been? That this isn't a woman who has started an affair with her husband, seeing as it is most likely your employee knew nothing about your friends existence, or any of that side to her fiancees life!

Is your friend aware now that her husband has lied to your employee too, pretended to be someone else, got her pregnant, proposed to her and got engaged to this woman? I understand that would be an almighty lot to take on board in one evening. However if she isn't informed of all of it then there is the potential that his web of lies and deceipt will continue!

I told her everything what happended yesterday and I just felt like I was breaking up everything that she had worked so hard for.
As for my co-worker I cannot comment on that as I still don't know the full story as she told me today she has been with her fiancee for well over a year:eek: and I am not telling my friend that bit as she is really shocked hurt ect and the baby is due within two weeks

looby75

yvonne13 wrote: »

I told her everything what happended yesterday and I just felt like I was breaking up everything that she had worked so hard for.
As for my co-worker I cannot comment on that as I still don't know the full story as she told me today she has been with her fiancee for well over a year:eek: and I am not telling my friend that bit as she is really shocked hurt ect and the baby is due within two weeks

I thought she met him when he came to pick you up at the christmas party? that would only be 7 months or so ago.

19lottie82

If she's been with him for a year then why did she not say anything when she saw him picking u up at the Xmas party?