One of my workers is pregnant for my best friends fella.

floss2

Padstow wrote: »

I don't believe one single word of it.

Why not? I do - I don't have quite as colourful a life as this, but I certainly know people whose lives are equally as colourful!

OP, if anyone says anything about her changing the locks, she can always plead "pregnancy hormones" and compounded with the double (at least!) life of her husband, I can't see anyone objecting.

Can i just ask, will you be the one holding her hand when the time comes, or her mum?

Padstow

floss2 wrote: »

Why not? I do - I don't have quite as colourful a life as this, but I certainly know people whose lives are equally as colourful!

OP, if anyone says anything about her changing the locks, she can always plead "pregnancy hormones" and compounded with the double (at least!) life of her husband, I can't see anyone objecting.

Can i just ask, will you be the one holding her hand when the time comes, or her mum?

I should believe, as my cheating B of a husband did through 22 years of marriage. While I was having our child and foerever after. This doesn't ring true though.

Padstow

floss2 wrote: »

Why not? I do - I don't have quite as colourful a life as this, but I certainly know people whose lives are equally as colourful!

OP, if anyone says anything about her changing the locks, she can always plead "pregnancy hormones" and compounded with the double (at least!) life of her husband, I can't see anyone objecting.

Can i just ask, will you be the one holding her hand when the time comes, or her mum?

I will be the first to apologise if wrong floss. If I ever read the outcome that is, as as I don't read everything here.

POPPYOSCAR

When I first read it I did think it was true, but I am not so sure now.

GracieP

yvonne13 wrote: »

he didn't realise I was the woman's manager as I work for a very large company.

I thought you owned the company as you kept calling this woman your employee rather than a member of your staff. If I'd known that I'd have given different advice. As you work in a bigger company I think you need to consider protecting your own back here. If you haven't already I think that tomorrow you should probably contact someone in your HR department and fill them in on what's happened. You will want to have your version of events recorded with someone because it wouldn't be outside of the realm of reason that she does make a complaint against you. Especially as her 'fiance' is quite likely to be telling her all manner of lies about you right now and egging her on to get you in trouble as revenge.

You spoke to her on company time, in your office, a setting where you are very much her superior. It could be construed you were attempting to speak to her in that capacity, even though this was a personal matter. You could actually find yourself in hot water here so you need to start damage limitation.

You might also consider the fact that this website is read by a lot of people. The people involved are fairly identifiable to themselves or to people who know them. And you have posted many times from your work computer making it simple to confirm that this was most certainly written by you and about them. If that happens, and it has happened on this board before, any argument that you make that you were acting out of concern will be blown out of the water considering that you have mocked the woman for her national accent and current residence and actually stated that you were doing so when you worded the title.

If this is real, and the way you have behaved toward your staff member makes me wonder, you could have jeopardised your standing at work in quite a big way. And you need to prioritise damage control now.

Padstow

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

When I first read it I did think it was true, but I am not so sure now.

I'm not thinking malicious, more like waiting for the punch line.

Padstow

yvonne13 wrote: »

The most I have said to him is hi and bye, like I said I don't have anything to do with this man and he and I have never been close or even had a conversation about where I work.
He may of worked it out at Christmas or he didn't realise I was the woman's manager as I work for a very large company.

Best friend and she's pregnant, but only say hi and bye to her partner. How strange!

duchy

Almost as strange as the dozens of other things people do on here you wouldn't do ? Not sure with what being pregnant has to do with only saying Hi and bye though ??????

Do get over yourself-Not everyone is the same as you. I have close friends whose husbands wouldn't have a clue where I work or what I do-not everyone talks about work in a social setting or defines others by how they earn a living-and some husbands aren't in the least interested in their wives girlfriends .

I do agree the OP should speak to HR quickly though.

NickyBat

Padstow wrote: »

Best friend and she's pregnant, but only say hi and bye to her partner. How strange!

I haven't seen my best friends husband for probably well over 12 months, i see her weekly and text or speak daily but rarely see him.

mrs_sparrow

Nope, and I do not know many of my friends husbands either - it's them I am friends with, not their husbands, if the husbands socialised with us then it would be different but as they do not, they do not know each other. I meet them if they come to a school event or something like that, but otherwise I do not know them at all. I go to lunch with my friends and we meet when the kids are in school, why would the husbands need to meet each other??

However, I know WAY too much about some of them, LOL.