School Prom vent....

notakid

looby75 wrote: »

I was actually a bit jealous, I've never been in anything like that, I think the poshest car I've ever been in my my FIL skoda octavia :o:o

I get travel sick so its all the same to me. Rolls or fiat I'll be sick on your wheels!:eek:

POPPYOSCAR

geoffky wrote: »

Stretch limousines are pure crass....why anyone would ever get in one i will never know..

I agree, not my sort of thing but a lot of the kids seem to like them.

Give me a vintage rolls any day.

RuthnJasper

notakid wrote: »

Thanks for asking!

This is her dress!


And this is her necklace.


She has also got a sequinned shrug to cover her arms! As I'm a fuddy duddy!

WOW!! You and your DD have fabulous taste - that is an exquisite dress, and the necklace & ear-ring set adds an amazing touch of individuality. It positively shouts "I'm an elegant lady with a vibrant sense of fun and mystery!"

Utterly beautiful. And there's nothing AT ALL "fuddy duddy" about the shrug, as it'll be chilly at the end of the night and your DD will be glad of that to keep her arms and neck warm.

Just wish I had the figure for such a gorgeous dress!

RuthnJasper

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I am not saying that all the girls are like that but quite a few of them are.

And you would be surprised how much money was spent by some of the girls, it not just a competition for the girls but also for the parents.

It was my daughter that showed me the article because they were all talking about it at the prom, she knows the girl in question and apparently she and others are like that all the time at school.

POPPYOSCAR, you are quite right and sum up here why I commented (don't usually venture into the waters of this part of the forum). It wasn't ALL girls about whom I remarked - only the (relatively few) particular girls in the (mostly male) college along the road.

Most girls at their leavers' events are beautiful, elegant, and a credit to their own characters and to the parent or parents that raised them.

Alas, I have had the gross misfortune of witnessing at first-hand (and not via colleague gossip but with my own ears) the conversations of the girls to whom I made reference - most of which consisted of laughter at the fact they were suspended for engaging in s*x during work experience or in public view at their college premises and/or open, highly descriptive, conversation of physical encounters with various (often more than one-at-a-time) "boyfriends". That is why I referred to these particular girls (being characteristic of the type defined in the newspaper article who are more concerned with artifice than substance) as "sl*ppers"

Thankfully, these types of 15/16 year olds are very much in the minority. I am sorry that I inadvertently said anything to attract several :mad:s or to warrant being called "vermin".

Please accept my sincere and unreserved apologies for having unwittingly caused offence.

Best wishes. xx

poet123

Sadly, I too, have heard these conversations, enough to make your hair curl.

wondercollie

Delurking to give a Canadian version of "Grad", we don't call it Prom.

We see it more of a mark of adulthood, I guess sort of like a combination of graduating high school and debutante ball.

I have sons. Now you are thinking suit purchase and new shoes. Hell no. My gift (and that's how I look at the expense) was their kilts, sporrans, socks, shoes, belts, buckle, sgian dhu, and kilt pin. Oh, and my last son had a plaid and pin added to his stash. They paid the jacket rental themselves.

Unfortunately, I won the prize for the parent who spent the most on their child's outfit. But as I told the school Principal with my first son, I'll never have to pay for a white wedding dress.

Pollycat

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Of course they are,but how many parents though, could not afford it but felt pressured into spending more than they could really afford I wonder.

The whole point of my thread was the way society views such things now and in my opinion has got out of hand.

No longer a fun night out but instead trying to outdo each other and in doing so looking much older than their years, something I personally do not like.

Is it any wonder that anorexia is on the increase in young girls?

My daughter wants to grow up and look older than she does but as a parent I feel it is my duty to guide her in what I feel is the right direction. I am a parent first and friend second.

PoppyOscar
I totally got your take on this and 100% agree with your viewpoint.

looby75 wrote: »

One of my daughters friends comes from such a family, her mam is a lone parent who works p/t due to health problems she doesn't get any support from her dad and money is VERY tight. She still went to the prom, her dress was borrowed from a friend and she was planning on getting the bus to prom but when dd and her friends found out she couldn't afford to chip in for the limo the other 7 said they would pay her share for her birthday present between them as prom fell right by her birthday.

It really really doesn't have to cost a fortune.

One of my earlier posts included 2 extracts from the article about 2 girls who couldn't afford to go to the prom.
One was offered the loan of a dress but she knew certain girls would be looking at her and she would be embarrassed if they found out she'd had to borrow a dress (how nice - not).

From the article:

I think if I hadn’t been able to get a nice dress, I probably would have stayed at home.

This is really how some girls feel.
Rather than go in a less showy dress, she wouldn't go at all.

As PoppyOscar says in her very first post on this thread:

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

My daughter has just had her school 'prom'.

It just goes to show what kind of society we are living in now.
Some of the girls looked about 30 instead of 15/16. Fake tans, hair, nails, teeth in abundance.

One girl even got in touch with the papers and had an article printed about how much she had spent, £775 I think it was. She talked about how much competition there would be and how everyone would be talking about who was the best and worse etc.

I find it very sad the direction our society is heading in.

POPPYOSCAR

Pollycat you are right.

Some seem to think my thread was against young girls dressing up and having fun but nothing could be further from the truth.My daughter had a beautiful dress, hair done at hairdresser, and sparkling necklace earrings and bracelet.

I did not as a teenager have the same pressures around me as the girls today to be so 'beautified'. We did not try to outdo one another like this.

15\16 is a vunerable and impressionable age I do not want my daughter and other young girls to develop thinking that to be of any worth they must look like a celebrity.

One good thing that has come out of this is the discussions I have had with my daughter about her own self-worth.

candjsmum

It was my daughters year 11 prom last week and it was a fantastic night. The venue where it was held organised it superbly with all the transport waiting for its turn to drive up to the red carpet so all the students had their 5 minutes of fame. We hired a vintage car for my daughter and her friend to go in, (there was a few of these), and there were a couple of limos, tractors, rally cars, American Jeep, prom buses and a couple of lads even skate boarded in. They all looked fantastic, had a fab time and it was a lovely way to end their school years. They are all given a cd with all the photos on as a momentum. Her dress did cost a bit but it was bought by some of the money my late mum in law left her as she always said she wanted to buy her prom dress. I know I am bias, but she looked gorgeous.

jane130

It was may daughters Prom last Thursday , we didn;t get sucked into the spend as much as you can to make your daughter looks 30 hype

my daughter had a beautiful but modest gown that we bought on ebay for £35, a very subtle fake tan that cost £15 , shoes were £24 and her makeup and hair were done by her big sister and cost £13 jewellery was borrowed from an aunt - so a grand total of £87

I might be biased but there is no way my daughter could have been called tarty or any other abusive name you can think of and I was or the more special as she never wears make up and is very much a jeans and t-shirt type of girl. she got lots of admiring comments as she went to show her dad who was in hospital how she looked before prom