27yr old living an old mans life - help!

Zara33

MABLE wrote: »

Put those claws away girl. The guy needs help.

I'm afraid i say it as i see it, it's that simple really. Subtle as a sledgehammer

Rachie_B

you say you love her BUT are you still IN love with her?! theres a difference

i still loved my eldest sons dad,but that didnt stop me finishing with him as i couldnt see a future between us

IMO once the love has gone you cant get it back,once you get to the "brother and sister" stage

and you say you dont know if there was ever a spark to begin with ?! so what have you got to work with ?!

be honest tell her how you feel,you may find she feels the same but as everything is "ok" she hasnt wanted to rock the boat and mention anything.......

you only get one life,dont be unhappy
be honest with yourself and your GF

tomstickland

The grass is always greener.
I was out on my bike this afternoon doing wheelies and I thought "hey it's great being 34 and single. I can afford to do all the things I ever wanted to do and I can play as much as I want."

Anyway, you need to talk to your woman. 10 years ago I lived with a girlfriend and started to feel very trapped. You need to go and work out all the fun/silly things until you are ready to settle down. Your girlfriend needs to understand this. Things can only get worse if you don't speak to her about it.

Oldernotwiser

Rachie_B wrote: »

you say you love her BUT are you still IN love with her?! theres a difference



IMO once the love has gone you cant get it back,once you get to the "brother and sister" stage

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Of course there's a difference between being in love and loving someone. Loving is what lasts, what you build a life together with. Being in love is great but it wears off . It's the people who keep looking to be "in love" all the time who're largely responsible for all the divorces in the world!

wageslave

Grex, it takes courage to leave a long term relationship, its easier to stay and bemoan your lot. You've a long life ahead of you.

lewt

grex run off in the night. that'll sort it all out. live in a camper van it'll be great.

grex80

Well, i'm not IN love with her, haven't been for a long time.
They say there's a soulmate out there for everyone, I don't think I've found mine yet...

wageslave

I'd worry less about a soulmate and more about finding the rent money.

aurora_borealis_2

hex2 wrote: »

Grex,

A few years ago I read an article about making relationship decisions, and basically you need to ask yourself a question. If you could wave a magic wand and make her go away without any problems (financial or otherwise) then would you do it? If the answer is yes then it needs to end regardless of the problems.

Very wise :beer:

moanin'minnie

grex80 wrote: »

Well, i'm not IN love with her, haven't been for a long time.
They say there's a soulmate out there for everyone, I don't think I've found mine yet...

I think that maybe you have answered your own question, although it took some time to get there ,I think its time you faced up to the reality of your situation "you're not IN love with her". I dont think you are being fair on either of you in staying together. You are obviously not happy with the way things are and it sounds to me in reality shes not that happy either so make a clean break before you start to resent each other and love turns to hate!!