27yr old living an old mans life - help!

grex80

rizla01 wrote: »

I think the evidence is that this is a sham.

Unless I am covinced to the contrary, I shall assume the OP to be a sad-lad and leave this thread to die out naturally.

Interesting responses though but equally good detective work all.

I'd love to know how i'm a troll?

all I did was post and ask for some advice, now i'm being accused of all sorts?

if you cant be nice, dont say anything at all thankyou very much

grex80

...and I must add...

are you all conspiracy theorists or what?!?!

I've never even been to glasgow!!!!

lady_noluck

Troll or no troll here's my opinion as a 26 yr old woman who's not a bitter, twisted old hag who's been mistreated by men (well not all of them!)

(sit down, it's gonna be a long rant)

She's really let herself go. Like she doesn't care anymore. She doesn't have any friends, and doesn't want any as she keeps telling me I'm all she needs. If I get mates over, she's always there (I realise it's her house too) and she'll do "wifey" things like turn the music down or tell us all we've had too much to drink. I feel totally trapped.

Sounds like she's got so comfortable with the relationship she can't be bothered to make an effort with herself. She's taking the op for granted that he "must" love her in whatever condition if he's in love with her. It's just not true! Why do people think that? It's just an excuse to not take care of yourself. Now before you jump down my throat, i'm not saying that size 18's don't take care of themselves, I know some very beautiful size18+ women) I'm saying that she sounds like she can't be bothered to make any effort to be her own individual person. This is backed up by the op's sentence about her not wanting any friends of her own and he's allshe needs. NO HE'S NOT!!! Good god woman! Every girl needs friends!!
In an ideal world love between partners would be unconditional but it's not an ideal world is it? Think of it another way. You buy a lovely box of cream cakes and enjoy eating them. They look great. Then after a while they start to go mouldy cos they've been sitting around doing nothing. Would you still want to eat them? Of course not! It sounds like she's quite happy in her comfort zone thus blinded by any problems in the relationship.

The op says he's tried talking to her but she won't acknowledge there's a problem. Of course she won't!! If she did it'd mean she'd have to make an effort and do something! She probably can't be bothered!! I'm not suprised the op's fed up and feeling trapped! I don't think it's a case of her letting herself go because she feels unloved. If she did she'd be willing to talk about the problems.

Should I just stick in this sexless relationship and count my blessings that at least I have a roof over my head?

That's just plain disrespectful to her. If I was her and found out you said that i'd kick your !!! out the door so fast there'd be flames coming off your b******s. You can't stay just because you can't afford to leave. Be a man for christs sake and leave the woman! It's what you want to do and you know it. Don't look for excuses like not being able to afford it. You'd have to find a way to afford it if she kicked you out!!

Get out of the relationship and you can both find people to be happy with. Stop wasting her time and yours.

I give up. If I was female it'd be all "ooh, you go girl" do this, do that....

Unfortunately it's true. As a woman, sometimes i'm ashamed of our double standards and "all men are b*****ds" attitude. Some men are, some aren't. Some women are!

Scarlett1

dont feed the troll