27yr old living an old mans life - help!

Zoetoes

Where has the troll admission gone?

He's now calling himself maryotuam.

stebiz

croboy wrote: »

Someone once said that ending a long term relationship is like pushing a coke machine over. You wont do it in one clean sweep-it will rock backwards and forwards then eventually topple!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I like that one. Not that I'm belittling your situation. Just never heard it said like this before. Good luck!!

Stebiz

Rachie_B

zoeleigh wrote: »

Where has the troll admission gone?

He's now calling himself maryotuam.

whatve i missed ? :rolleyes: :rotfl:

owner

It was suggested that I could always get it elsewhere, but It'd feel wrong, and I couldn't bear to hurt her.

You sure about that greg, or have you 'moved on' already ? :rotfl:

http://www.theplacetodate.com/newmembers.html

Name grex80
Ethnicity White / Caucasian
Located in Glasgow,Lanarkshire,United Kingdom
27 yr old male seeks 18 to 37 yr old female for any type of relationship

shellsuit

owner wrote: »

You sure about that greg, or have you 'moved on' already ? :rotfl:

http://www.theplacetodate.com/newmembers.html

Name grex80
Ethnicity White / Caucasian
Located in Glasgow,Lanarkshire,United Kingdom
27 yr old male seeks 18 to 37 yr old female for any type of relationship

If that is the OP then that is bang out of order.

Don't USE your GF, if you are that unhappy that you have to offer yourself on the internet, LEAVE HER.

Do the decent thing and be HONEST with her and mostly yourself!

rizla01

grex80 wrote: »

Thanks. That's exactly what I need to hear.

I really regret posting this thread now. I didn't realise how much abuse I would get.

Greg.

what you NEED to do is go thru this thread and pick out the Positives and study them.

Totally ignore all of the NEGS. They are mostly posted by insignificants that have nothing better to do than give their own like mindeds a 'bit of a larf'.

Learn to differentiate between these idiots and the ones that are trying to help you.

Your glass is half full and it's time to top it up!

Good luck, no matter what you decide.

Perhaps we shall hear from a more positive greg in the near future when you have faced your difficulties.

sjpkgp

mr218, pinkdiamond, bigpaws and croboy give good advice, so I won't repeat it.

But if the spark has gone, you need to move on. If you had no debts, I would advise you to move on completely (another town, another place, holiday job etc.) but it looks like your debts are keeping you there. I would agree with other posters, see how you can resolve these, even if it means going bankrupt. Whatever comes, you shouldn't continue to live your life with someone who you love but you see as a sister - before you know it, she might be pregnant and then there will be serious responsibilities to consider before you can move. Get out now, and good luck.

jon_E_begood

Feel for you because i'm in a slightly similar situation. Think the advice above (SJKP) is good but i know its not easy advice to follow..

Wish you the best of luck whatever you decide to do..

J

Lusignan

Edited: I was confusing two separate threads.

Morglin

grex80 wrote: »

Thanks for all the advice so far, I've got a lot to think about.

I guess the thing that really gets to me above all is the lack of sex. I'm not hideous by any means, but with every rejection I get, i feel more and more unattractive.

Anything nice I do these days is met with being accused of just doing it to get sex. I'v always bought her presents, and did other nice stuff so I really don't understand where this is coming from.

I could almost take this kind of treatment if I was retired or whatever, but to be living in a sexless relationship at 27 is too much to bear, particularly when my mates who are in similar longterm relationships quite openly admit that they "get it" more than four times a year...

I realise that sex is not the be all and end all, but I do believe that physical intimacy is a very important part of a relaionship.

It was suggested that I could always get it elsewhere, but It'd feel wrong, and I couldn't bear to hurt her.

I feel like i'm going round in circles with nothing getting better.

If you no longer love her (and it sounds like it), then you need to move on - you're much too young to live the rest of your life as a compromise.:rolleyes:

It doesn't matter WHY the spark has gone - the fact that it has, is all you need to think about.

If the old feelings were still there, then you would feel the same, whatever weight she was - no one stays the same (physically) for ever - women's bodies change, men go bald (or whatever), but if you love someone, you don't even notice.........;)

Physical intimacy is vital - it doesn't have to be full blown sex, but a relationship without any form of lovemaking is doomed to fail.

Organise your finances, explain (gently) to her that you feel differently, it's over with the pair of you and want to move on with your life, and then go out there and do it.

Lin