27yr old living an old mans life - help!

jazzyjustlaw

Is your partner tall I am 6ft plus and I am a size 16, if you saw me youd never believe it.

I have been with my partner for 7 plus years we dont have sex everyday. We are so close and we love each other. Its not like it was when we were first together, I am a stone heavier he is about 6 stone heavier and a bit chunky but its because he is satisifed and thats what I like. I have been out with a "six pack" and had sex every day but they wear off after a while and I prefer intelligent men then great bodies and before I am slated I know you can have both.

Being good looking is just one thing that should attract you not the only thing. Before you say it I am good looking and slim but I would avoid someone too good looking. I find average must more sexy and I dont care that my OH is not rich either. I feel so happy I could shout if from the rooftop. Sometimes, we are so busy we dont have time for more than a peck every other day. Sometimes we go nearly two weeks without sex - sometimes we do it everyday. We spend quality time together, and we spend it apart. I go out several times a week and the odd weekend. My OH never gets jealous and hes only romantic occasionally but he does things like clean the house when I have had a hard week. He makes me a cup of tea every morning.

Some of you may feel like brother and sister in our relationshp but perhaps that is what true love is like. I dont know but I have never felt anything like it before. I hope OP has another look at his life and sees whats important.

I think people expect too much from their partners. However, please do not stay in a relationship which is not happy but dont think the grass is definately going to be greener . . .

jazzyjustlaw

hsgamboy wrote: »

Grex80 mate, next time you seek advice on these threads, you should clearly state that 'woman advices are not welcome'

I recognise most of the women on this thread attacking you rather than helping you with some constructive advice. People such as Rachel_B and Zara are the angriest feminist that you will ever come across.

There are lot of bitter and twisted women on this site, theyt will jump at most blokes necks and start squeezing without fully understanding what us blokes are going through.

They are just men-haters, who possibly have had some bad experiences with men in past and are still carrying those emotional scars. Simply ignore them.

Mate, Couples should try and maintain the stuff that made them attracted to one another in the first place. We all have these tendency to let go and stop trying once we are in a comfortable relationship. Love is a footy game that has to be played a full 90mins, once a player stop trying, he will let the whole team down and possibly end up throwing the game away.

Have another word with the missus and tell her what exactly you need her do to help the relationship work. Revisit the gym topic again with her and let her know that she needs to lose some weight, get fitter and you need her to be more attractive to you. Some men like bigger women (so no argument there) but you my friend and other many of us aren't attracted to big women and that will just put a strain on your relationship.

I am 36 with a well built body - six packs and all that, my wife is an attractive slim 25 year old woman. One of the reasons we were attracted to one another was our looks and bodies - this was before we got talking and found out we have a lot in common. Bang, we got married and have been together for two years now. I regularly work-out and play sports to maintain my shape because my wife just loves it and it will keep her happy. So as well as I enjoy my sports, gym sessions and looking good, I am purely doing it for my wife because i love her.

Like wise she maintains her good looks and body for me and we are very happy with eachother. I know this will not last forever as we all grow old and lose our nice bodies and good looks. Until then mate we are going to maintain them just for one another.

Once we lost the nice bodies and good looks, then we still have the other stuff that we have in common to keep us going until we die:beer: Talk to your dear lady and explain stuff, one thing you should never do mate, is shacked up someone you are no longer attracted to and they refuse to do anything to change that. Leave if that ever happens and start over - you are still young mate.

Ps - your sex life is wasted mate -- We doing it everyday and more than once. Except when the woman bodyclock system doesn't permit it:rotfl: :rotfl:

When I saw your post I just knew you were goint to say your OH was a lot younger than you!

pennypuppy

Listen, first of all you do only have one chance at this life Make the most of it. Assess just HOW much you love her. If you were away would you miss her - how would you feel if she met someone else? If our feelings are still strong then explain to her that for your relationship to work she has to get counselling and lose weight and even if its not sex you must make time for.....a snog!!!! Seriously, otherwise all intimacy disappears and it gets harder to get it back. I thankfully have been with my partner since I was 18 (soon will be 40) and have coped with him being depressed twice. If its love you will work at it and it will come right. However, you are still very young - don't think she is the only girl in the world for you. It sounds like you would appreciate being in that madly in love situation, you have no kids so I would say if you feel you don't love her enough break free and let your heart soar. As for your debts, you CAN manage them. Go to citizens advice if needs be.
Maybe you would do the girl a favour if you parted, maybe she is subconsciously chasing you away. Have a big heart to heart - don't be afraid of the future, grab it and enjoy it.I wish you the best.

Zara33

hsgamboy wrote: »

Grex80 mate, next time you seek advice on these threads, you should clearly state that 'woman advices are not welcome'

I recognise most of the women on this thread attacking you rather than helping you with some constructive advice. People such as Rachel_B and Zara are the angriest feminist that you will ever come across.

I think you will find this is a public forum in which any gender can participate in :rolleyes: it's not exclusivly a "men's club"

:rotfl: :rotfl: I'm touched, so by stating the obvious that makes me a angry feminist :rotfl:

Rachie_B

hsgamboy wrote: »

I recognise most of the women on this thread attacking you rather than helping you with some constructive advice. People such as Rachel_B and Zara are the angriest feminist that you will ever come across.
There are lot of bitter and twisted women on this site, theyt will jump at most blokes necks and start squeezing without fully understanding what us blokes are going through.

They are just men-haters, who possibly have had some bad experiences with men in past and are still carrying those emotional scars. Simply ignore them.

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waaaaaaaaaaaaah :rotfl:

I dont hate men !

And neither am i bitter / twisted

Quote me what I have said to make you come to this conclusion ?

Just because I dont agree with trying to make the OPs GF jealous, by making comments about other women to "keep her on her toes" ! doesnt make me a raving,bitter & twisted feminist :rolleyes:

and of course your advice is sooooooooo helpful :rolleyes:

hex2

Grex,

Whatever you have decided I agree with previous posters about going over to the debt free wanabes and posting a statement of affairs. They are usually very positive about helping people, especially if you take the emotional stuff out, eg stick to the facts about incomings and outgoings.

It should be a lot easier to make a decision about what you do want to do on the relationship side if you have made a sensible plan for your finances.

Don't let some of the posts on here put you off. It is your life at the end of the day, and hers too. If I thought that my OH stayed for financial reasons then I would be devastated.

and by the way, despite the deliberate ambiguity of my user name and the calm responses I too am female....

hsgamboy

One more thing mate, don't not stay with her for financial reasons, if that's the case you are wasting your precious time and at the end of the day it's only money mate. At the end of the day no one will lay on their dead bed thinking I wished I had more money or saved more, it's your great memories that will stay with you and take you through a nice death.

Give her a chance, talk to her and get this sorted out. Give it all your best and if things don't work out, then leave mate. Post your SOA and the positive and nice people on this site will help you reduce your outgoings. You will even find that you can cope living on your own should things not work out with your missus.

Don't stay put for the dosh but do what's going to make you happy. Sounds like you are a cool,sensible and a dude who will not let himself go. You can easily start all over again - beside you're only in your 20's.

Good luck mate and I hope you get some positive advice for the rest of these postings.

You only live once and so does your woman - so give it another go and I hope things work out and you two can live happily ever after.

You might even start getting more action in the bedroom department:beer:

SoozieSoo

rizla01 wrote: »

Hi Greg,



Talk about the girl in the office that made a pass at you (Laughing it off).

Make her realise that she is under threat of losing you.

Perhaps that'll make he pull her socks up.

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A 27 year old who is up to ihs eyeballs in debt and cannot even afford to support himself.

I am sure the size 8 girls in the office will be lining up round the block.

grex80

SoozieSoo wrote: »

A 27 year old who is up to ihs eyeballs in debt and cannot even afford to support himself.

I am sure the size 8 girls in the office will be lining up round the block.

Thanks. That's exactly what I need to hear.

I really regret posting this thread now. I didn't realise how much abuse I would get.

SoozieSoo

Rachie_B wrote: »

waaaaaaaaaaaaah :rotfl:

I dont hate men !

And neither am i bitter / twisted

Quote me what I have said to make you come to this conclusion ?

Just because I dont agree with trying to make the OPs GF jealous, by making comments about other women to "keep her on her toes" ! doesnt make me a raving,bitter & twisted feminist :rolleyes:

and of course your advice is sooooooooo helpful :rolleyes:

Don't rise to it.
Men always play the feminist card when they don’t have justification for obviously sexist behaviour.

It shocks me quite deeply to hear some of the things said in this thread. If they were being racist I am sure their posts would be removed. However, sexism, and reducing women to the size of her t*ts and ar*e are still ok.

Shocking.