Strapless - yes or no?

PolishBigSpender

aliasojo wrote: »

Is that a given? Or is that your opinion?

Genuine question, I'm not particularly religious and can't remember the last time I saw the inside of a church tbh.

Just wondered if that was something you felt strongly about or if it was up there with the 10 commandments kind of thing.

As someone below said, when you go to Vatican, they will not let you in with naked arms or wearing a very short skirt/shorts. It's not my opinion, it's a fact (no, not in 10 commandments :P). On the door in many churches I've seen signs showing what not to wear. Similarly in a Greek monastery I was visiting I was handed a long skirt and a shawl - otherwise I wouldn't be allowed in.
Of course you can see a strapless dress in a church, in Poland as well - that's because some people only get married in a church because of the tradition or because it's pretty... and some are just be ignorant and see nothing wrong with it. It's all about good taste and respect. Think about your kids, wearing uniforms to school. You wouldn't let them go with half of their breasts in full view, would you? So why do you think it's a suitable attire for the church?
My husband says it's the same in Scottish Episcopalian church, so Catholic church is no exception here.

heartbreak_star

Strapless dresses shouldn't have half your baps out anyway :S

Thanks for the clarification though - I think a lot of the confusion on this thread has maybe come from differing definitions of strapless

I guess it's the difference between this:
http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?um=1&hl=en&sa=N&biw=1079&bih=662&tbm=isch&tbnid=b4AQMZhc0o80YM:&imgrefurl=http://www.zarabridal.com/tags/tasteful-wedding-dress/&docid=GJLwCBbmDAXzeM&imgurl=http://www.zarabridal.com/images/bridal-gowns/beach_wedding_dresses_096.jpg&w=450&h=600&ei=E_riT_iCPJHu-gaouN2oAw&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=221&vpy=124&dur=1388&hovh=259&hovw=194&tx=128&ty=108&sig=111277445074329209298&page=1&tbnh=148&tbnw=109&start=0&ndsp=23&ved=1t:429,r:1,s:0,i:75

And this:
http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?um=1&hl=en&biw=1079&bih=662&tbm=isch&tbnid=qrXvkeXc325-lM:&imgrefurl=http://www.ruethedayblog.com/2008/11/the-10-trashiest-wedding-dresses/&docid=dTlepwj27CHOSM&imgurl=http://www.ruethedayblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/11/dress.jpg&w=480&h=301&ei=X_riT-L3B4TS-gaumITBAw&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=111&vpy=164&dur=364&hovh=131&hovw=169&tx=140&ty=84&sig=111277445074329209298&page=1&tbnh=131&tbnw=169&start=0&ndsp=22&ved=1t:429,r:0,s:0,i:70

lol...to me strapless will always be the tasteful one!

HBS x

picklepick

What makes you think that a strapless dress shows breasts? Mine was strapless and I can assure you that abosultely no breast tissue was on show! And I am deeply respectful. If anything, I have seen dresses with straps that show more breast than strapless ones. To imply that all people who wear a strapless dress have bad taste is just ridiculous.

I went to a Catholic wedding last year where the bride wore a strapless dress. To assume that she is ignorant, has bad taste or lacks respect is an absolute insult. I can assure you that she is none of those things!!

Kids wear uniforms to school for reasons that have absoultely no relevance to this thread. To prevent bullying, to show indentity to a specific school , to prevent peer pressure with fashion. nothing to do with not showing their baps. I can't believe you even made that comparison.

A lot of the replies on this thread have shocked me. No one and I mean absoultely NONE OF YOU have the right to judge someone else and make them feel bad about their choice of wedding dress. That may have not been your intentions, but I think some of the ladies on here who may be a plus size and having a strapless gown have been made to feel very bad, when there was no need for it! Every bride deserves to feel beautiful and special on their wedding day.

heartbreak_star

Well said picklepick.

HBS x

PolishBigSpender

picklepick wrote: »

I went to a Catholic wedding last year where the bride wore a strapless dress. To assume that she is ignorant, has bad taste or lacks respect is an absolute insult. I can assure you that she is none of those things!!

Have a look here: http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_A-UGju9IeOM/TUkidsDXyEI/AAAAAAAAAZc/I11N5wwTitg/s1600/church+dress+poster.bmp
It's not my idea that showing off arms is not appropriate in a church. Most brides I know, if they had a strapless dress, had a bolero or a long veil covering their arms.

picklepick wrote: »

A lot of the replies on this thread have shocked me. No one and I mean absoultely NONE OF YOU have the right to judge someone else and make them feel bad about their choice of wedding dress. That may have not been your intentions, but I think some of the ladies on here who may be a plus size and having a strapless gown have been made to feel very bad, when there was no need for it! Every bride deserves to feel beautiful and special on their wedding day.

We're not judging any specific person, we are expressing opinions on a certain style. Maybe the discussions will help someone to gaze more critically into their mirror and choose a different style?

bellrooster

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We're not judging any specific person, we are expressing opinions on a certain style. Maybe the discussions will help someone to gaze more critically into their mirror and choose a different style?[/QUOTE]

The discussions aren't really helping the people who have already bought and paid for their strapless dress!

I for one could've happily done without that little niggle of doubt re my dress that I now have thanks to the Daily Mails daft article and to be honest I wish I never read this thread.

aliasojo

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

Think about your kids, wearing uniforms to school. You wouldn't let them go with half of their breasts in full view, would you? So why do you think it's a suitable attire for the church?

I'm assuming that's a general comment and not aimed at me specifically?

Given that I have not at any point given an opinion about what is or is not suitable church attire.

aliasojo

bellrooster wrote: »

The discussions aren't really helping the people who have already bought and paid for their strapless dress!

You're being too sensitive if a bunch of virtual strangers you will never meet are upsetting you over a purchase you have already made and are happy with.

heartbreak_star

Religion amuses me so much.

Your wedding day and dress are for YOU, don't let anyone tell you different.

HBS x

picklepick

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

We're not judging any specific person, we are expressing opinions on a certain style. Maybe the discussions will help someone to gaze more critically into their mirror and choose a different style?

I can assure you that as someone who got married in a church and wore a strapless dress, in voicing your opinion on 'a certain style' you have judged me personally. I am not disrespectful, ignorant and nor do I have bad taste, but you however appear to assume that I am. Perhaps it is you that should gaze more critically into the mirror!

Now, I've said my piece, I'm not getting any more deeper into this conversation.