A bit of a vent :(

Mrs_Imp

Go out and be successful, that's the best revenge - it shows that you don't need him in order to be fabulous. Don't slag him off - it'll really annoy him if you don't rise to the bait he's currently laying. My ex told people I was chasing him with letters, calls, and following him. I just told them 'don't be silly'. It made me laugh, because that's what he told me about his previous ex. If you ever miss him, picture the sulky face and whiny voice he used to give when he didn't get his own way. Worked a treat for me.

Try having a pint too....of Ben and Jerry's. Now THAT'S therapy!!

You'll be fine OP.

Stephb1986_2

Bethany I was single at the age of 20 I had a few dates with a few guys nothing more nothing less I had just come out of a serious relationship and was hurting really bad, I went out with mates and had a good time.

I then decided I wanted something more than a few dates and to go out with my mates all the time so I joined online dating 3 months before I was 21 I met a guy we had been talking for a few months before we met but when we met it was fantastic, needless to say nearly 6 years later we're still together and getting married soon.

What I'm trying to say is don't give your heart too easy protect yourself from getting hurt hold back a little.

The right guy is out there for you forget about this loser and his mates they aren't worth your time. Pull yourself together and forget him he certainly isn't worth your tears.

Chin up love we're here for you at the times of darkness

Steph xx

broke101_2

You will look back on this thread in years to come when you have found a lovely chap and wonder what you were ever thinking being with him. Sounds like you have you're head screwed on and will find the one!!!

Angelicdevil

P.S. if you haven't already, pop over and have a look at this thread:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4020057

hbloomers

Hi Bethany,

Just wanted to say I've recently been dumped too. (Don't want to go into the details, suffice to say he didn't go about it in a very nice way). A week later and I feel amazing. Yes, I miss him but I can honestly say it was for the best. Plus, I don't have to watch the football on the TV, which is always a bonus.

You need to grieve, so cry if you have to. But keep your chin up, be the dignified party and live your life well. If you have an approachable mum talk to her. Mine has been amazing, as have my friends. The way I look at it is, I'm 22 and have my whole life ahead of me so why wallow? There's nothing I can do to change the situation, so why worry?

And I second the tub of Ben and Jerry's. If there's a time you're allowed to pig out, it's now

bethanyg_2

He's contacted me, saying he regrets it and he was just angry, and that we need space and time apart so he can sort himself out.

Not sure what to think really. :S

londonsurrey

He wasn't just angry.

He put his mates before you.
He put you in danger.
He slagged you off to old colleagues.
He's putting you on hold while he does his own thing.

These are not the actions of someone mature, considerate, decent.

Give him his wish for space to sort himself out - give him 20 years to hopefully mature, and go live your own life in the meantime. Meet up for a drink in two decades, and have a laugh over old memories.

I_wanna_live_for_free

londonsurrey wrote: »

He wasn't just angry.

He put his mates before you.
He put you in danger.
He slagged you off to old colleagues.
He's putting you on hold while he does his own thing.

These are not the actions of someone mature, considerate, decent.
Give him 20 years to hopefully mature, and go live your own life in the meantime. Meet up for a drink in two decades, and have a laugh over old memories.

Exactly right.

Cat501

londonsurrey wrote: »

He wasn't just angry.

He put his mates before you.
He put you in danger.
He slagged you off to old colleagues.
He's putting you on hold while he does his own thing.

These are not the actions of someone mature, considerate, decent.

Not to mention the controlling behaviour

bethanyg_2

I reallyyy don't know what to do.

He needs to grow up.