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A bit of a vent :(
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I felt the same about living alone after my last relationship ended, but now I love it!!
I am actually now quite worried about meeting someone and having to share 'my' space again!
I did the transition to crazy dog lady in no time at all, and have made some amazing friends through dog training classes etc so it isn't all bad
I have learnt that rather than thinking that being with somebody is better than being alone, actually being alone is often a lot better than just being with a somebody!
You will get through it, tea solves all problems0 -
True, I can wear glitter eyeliner again, and start singing again! (Always told me I couldn't sing for toffee!)
I do hope feeling rubbish passes soon, I've drank gallons of tea and my cats are getting sick of me fussing them...
Ok, before I go any further than this post, as a person who has been there, done it, and is still baring the scars, DO NOT EVER let a man try and change you! If you are not good enough for him the way you are, then he is NOT the one for you, and you are probably too good for him.
My ex husband was like that with me, shot my confidence. That was 12 years ago and I still don't believe I can sing in front of people. Truth is these people will destroy your confidence, will mock you to make themselves feel better, to big themselves up. No good can come from such a relationship.
If you love somebody, why would you want to change them?
Back to reading the rest of this threadLBM: August 2006 £12,568.49 - DFD 22nd March 2012
"The road to DF is long and bumpy" GreenSaints0 -
He's going to get nowhere, the more I think about the rubbish he's put me through, the more I think he can do one!
That's better.
And living alone is great.
I moved out of my parents' home 2 years ago at the age of 35 (I'm only a secretary so it took sooooo long to save a deposit) and I was really worried I couldn't cope after being so used to having someone else around - but it's surprising how quickly I felt at home - literally!!!
My house is MY home. Mine, and nobody else can tell me how to make it look. As my other half is busy this weekend (we don't live together - neither of us does "domestic"), I am having one of my legendary pyjama weekends. It's great. Busy people, or people with kids think I'm nuts/evil* (*insert not so friendly jealous insult here), but I'm chilling out nicely, not hurting anyone and enjoying my cup of tea, watching trashy telly while tapping away on t'internet.
I love it. I'm not sure I could share a house with anyone else ever again if I'm honest with you.
Gogette0 -
I did find it very weird at the time when he kept asking me to not bother with makeup, and not get contact lenses (which I actually need for medical reasons!) as why would you say those things?! Smacks of immaturity and insecurity, but love is blind I guess...
Yes, you'll find love is particularly blind when you don't wear your glasses!Men mature at a slower rate than women, and it sounds like you've been dumped by a toddler, so you've had a lucky escape. Don't waste your tears, you've got a lot of learning ahead of you, enjoy it!
Bern :j0 -
Ahhh, he HAS been slagging me off to people at my old job (we used to work together). Ever so nice of him!
Literally don't know what I've done to deserve this in the slightest, fair enough dumping me, but do you really have to try and turn my old work mates against me?
I did buy teal eyeliner today thoughEvery cloud!
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If the opportunity ever comes up, one thing you can try is to say "Anyone who believes him is very welcome to try going out with him". And smile.0
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It's just weird that he's doing this as well =s0
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Insecure morons have a habit of doing this. They believe that keeping up appearances is much more important than actually simply being a half decent human being.
Let's put it this way, a gentleman (or actually anyone with a shred of humanity) would have split up with you if they wanted to, but still escorted you back home/to a safe place (albeit in an uncomfortable silence) before vanishing into the night.0 -
Makes sense, he did make up a lot of stuff about me.
Goddddd how did I get into this mess?0 -
Honestly, if he acts like this, you're far too good for him. Most people understand that just after a break up one partner, or both, may begin to act like this and take it all with a inch of salt.
Try not to take it to heart and maybe arrange a girls night. If you don't want to live alone, you could try a house share, it's cheaper than living in a flat alone.
In truth I think it's better not to slag him off and if people ask about what he's saying then just try to remain calm about it.
Have fun being single : )0
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