A bit of a vent :(

bethanyg_2

So, I got dumped last night!

It was all going swimmingly, we were saving for our first flat, then his friends decide they don't like me (possibly because I grew up and they still think they're teenagers?) so he decided to dump me.

Apparently I wasn't making enough effort with his friends - I was chatting with some of them, whilst the rest slagged me off openly to my face!!! :mad:

I am unbelievably upset and angry, I just need to vent a bit.

So now I'm faced with living alone, and dealing with all the rubbish him and his friends have now started saying about me to everyone I know from my old job.

Fantastic!

ailuro2

Better to find out now he is a child disguised as a grown-up than to wait till the ink is dry on the mortgage / property deeds etc.

You're worth more than that, aren't you?

bethanyg_2

I guess so yeah, it's just gutting

I suppose I'll save a lot of money though? He was quite expensive, more money for make up, clothes...

Pollycat

Whilst you'e obviously hurting right now, as an outsider looking in, it sounds to me like you've had a lucky escape.

He (and his friends) sound very childish.

His loss, not yours.

bethanyg_2

Best thing was I apparently "forced" him to dump me!

Really not keen on the idea of living alone

nonnatus

Living alone is GREAT! You get to learn all about yourself, about how strong you are and resilient and fabulous. Then you will have enough self-worth not to fall into another relationship with another "loser" just so you can avoid being on your own...!!!

Your Ex sounds vile - In a couple of weeks, the only thing you'll be gutted about is that you didn't get to dump him first .

Get some rest, spoil yourself (not your man-child) and don't give him another thought.

bethanyg_2

Been having a quick think, and tbh some of the things he did were weird anyway - like lying continuously, trying to get me to stop wearing make up or get contact lenses...

And I suppose at least now I'll get to properly flirt with the nice Prince Harry lookalike at work!

I just can't believe that he'd drop me like that, just cos his "mates" decided I wasn't enough like them.

Chaos_Monkey

Hmm, sounds like a lucky escape to me! And also perhaps that you're more miffed at being dumped than the end of the relationship. I think that's a good thing, as it's easier to let go of. I'm still miffed at being ''unfriended'' by someone I didn't particularly like on FB, because she beat me to it!

Better that than to be upset over a loser, no?

bethanyg_2

I think I'm more upset because I tried so hard to make it work

I know it's his loss in the end (he was aiming way too high, if I do say so myself!) but it's just gutting to know that yet again somebody has made a complete fool out of me.

Chaos_Monkey

You'll be alright. We all live and learn

And just think, you don't have to try so hard to make it work - all that energy/time/money can go on yourself now Enjoy it!

Pollycat

Bethany
I know from another post that you're quite young.

Was it a long relationship?

Can you get someone else to share your current place?

Don't look at it as he's made a fool out of you, he's the fool. Unfortunately, it sounds like he's backed by a group of fools.
Try not to let what they are saying about you affect you.
If anybody believes any lies they are told about you, then they aren't really worth much as friends or aquaintances.