A bit of a vent :(

bethanyg_2

True, I can wear glitter eyeliner again, and start singing again! (Always told me I couldn't sing for toffee!)

I do hope feeling rubbish passes soon, I've drank gallons of tea and my cats are getting sick of me fussing them...

bethanyg_2

I'm 20, and fairly mature for it (had to be!)

I'm currently still living at home, but we were looking at flats to move into - one option is forcing my sister to live with me, but I doubt she'd be too happy with that one!

It just winds me up - not a month ago he asked me to marry him (I declined very kindly) then he suddenly decides he'd rather prat about and dump me.

Grr!!!

jolfc

some of the best years i had were living alone in my flat, my own space, my choice of decor and bits and bats i loved it. :jgot my 1st flat at 16 and moved in with my partner at 22.
thats not to say i dont love living with my partner, but we have been together 19 years,

bethanyg_2

I suppose at least I can have everything pink and cat related - he said it had to be uncluttered, but where's the fun in that?

I'm starting to cheer up a bit after my eight-billionth cup of tea and reading all your nice comments I'm not one to stay miserable thankfully!

Mrs_Arcanum

bethanyg wrote: »

I'm 20, and fairly mature for it (had to be!)

I'm currently still living at home, but we were looking at flats to move into - one option is forcing my sister to live with me, but I doubt she'd be too happy with that one!

It just winds me up - not a month ago he asked me to marry him (I declined very kindly) then he suddenly decides he'd rather prat about and dump me.

Grr!!!

20 is an awkward age to get dumped. However, look on it as a catalyst to get your life moving in the direction it needs to go.

Book yourself a holiday & let your hair down.

Sagaris

Time spent with a loser is never wasted - you learn from your mistakes, and won't pick someone so shallow next time round!

Whatever you do, don't go out looking for someone - especially when you are vulnerable after a recent break up - you may decide that anyone is better than no-one if you dread being alone, and could make a bad choice. As another poster said, it's valuable time spent on your own - you can do what you like, when you like and with whom you like - no being dicated to about contact lenses etc! And when the time comes, you are much more relaxed and will settle for nothing but the best - because you have had time to reflect and know what you want (and more importantly, what you don't want!)

I speak from experience - was married for 16 years and went straight to another relationship - big mistake! It wasn't 'right' for so many reasons but stayed because it was better than having no one (I thought). Got fed up eventually when I realised I was being taken for a mug - so I ended it. Had a lovely time with the TV remote, chocolate, bed etc all to myself and was resigned to staying happily single. Then I met up with my now DH - no plans for anything serious - but it just happened!

Wishing you all the best OP!

bethanyg_2

He's actually older than me too, yet the most childish person I think I've ever met.

The awkward thing is, I'm quite shy and don't drink either, so I can't even go get hammered to get over it!

jolfc

bethanyg wrote: »

I suppose at least I can have everything pink and cat related - he said it had to be uncluttered, but where's the fun in that?

I'm starting to cheer up a bit after my eight-billionth cup of tea and reading all your nice comments I'm not one to stay miserable thankfully!

thats the spirit, find a nice little flat for yourself. decorate to your liking. invite your friends round for a flat warming, :j
to think you would not have been able to have the girls round for d.v.d nights and coffee if you had got a flat with your ex by the sounds of what you say about him. a lucky escape i say.

bethanyg_2

Aww thank you Sagaris

I'm very much the type of person who falls in love too easily, with him I did take it very slowly at first, didn't want to get into a relationship too quickly etc. He didn't give up though

He's just a complete and utter... something that rhymes with 'hunt'!

I did find it very weird at the time when he kept asking me to not bother with makeup, and not get contact lenses (which I actually need for medical reasons!) as why would you say those things?! Smacks of immaturity and insecurity, but love is blind I guess...

bethanyg_2

jolfc wrote: »

thats the spirit, find a nice little flat for yourself. decorate to your liking. invite your friends round for a flat warming, :j
to think you would not have been able to have the girls round for d.v.d nights and coffee if you had got a flat with your ex by the sounds of what you say about him. a lucky escape i say.

Yeah, films always did have to be his choice...

You're all cheering me up so much!! :j