a little bit miffed

heartbreak_star

Hope everyone who has had a birthday recently has enjoyed it, and spoiled themselves a bit

HBS x

DylanO

coolcait wrote: »

TBH, meritaten, I don't really get the impression that you like your husband very much. I think that your upset has its roots in that, as much as anything else.

She's a violent domestic abuser who attacked him because he said something negative about Britain's Got Talent. She's trained in martial arts and freely admits that she wanted to kill him.

She should be locked up with the rest of the partner-beating scum!

notakid

I'm on the fence on this, it is hard, sometimes the presents are so half hearted its like a slap in the face.

Like me, the other Xmas, my husband brought me £50.00 worth of soap from Lush. I went up the wall, I threw the soap at him, a little extreme you may think but for the last 3 years he has brought the wrong item from Lush. Its not hard to listen. I like the bubble bath slices they sell. I don't want anything else, just that and not £50.00 worth! But its the world and its mother he buys instead of bubble bath. I wouldn't mind, but when I have them he uses them because he enjoys a bubble bath, why can't he put two and two together?

Mind you, I'm only repaying back in kind, once I saved up and brought him lots of sportswear for Xmas, I was really proud of all the stuff I got. He opened it on Xmas Day and said he wouldn't give it to a tramp. It was the wrong label. I had to take it all back and make a big fuss that they return it as I'd brought it early for Xmas.

pelirocco

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3695865

coolcait

DylanO wrote: »

....!

I saw that thead too, and it did worry me that that this thread was also started on a Saturday night, with the OP's OH irritating her on his return from the rugby club, and the OP stating that she was going to get bladdered....

However, my impression that the OP doesn't really like her husband comes from the way she talks about him on quite a number of threads. Not just 'that' one.

I'm quite surprised by the number of people who are so demanding about getting the 'right' gifts. A gift's a gift, IMO, and I appreciate it as such.

Newly_retired

I buy my own flowers.
My DH has never bought me any, but sometimes I have got the left over ones from his school at end of term! ( Fantastic quality, better than any I ever buy )
Several of the presents he has got me over the years have been unsuitable, so now we often find something we like during the year, and put it aside until the birthdays. Usually we have forgotten what it was and it is a delightful "surprise".
I hate buying, giving and receiving presents. It's all problematical.
After my mum died I found loads of presents unopened or never used. She just didn't want anything else.
Takes all sorts.

Stephb1986_2

I think what the OP and mintymoneysaver are getting at is that they would of preferred someone to make more of an effort in the thought process rather than a monetry value present?

I'm sick of making all the effort for other peoples birthdays making a big fuss and not getting anything near the same in return. I don't know why I bother sometimes.

Steph xx

chirpychick

Happy Birthday!

Firstly - I would be upset about that too, but my husband would only make that mistake once (because we talk about everything!) tell him how it upset you, Im sure he would be gutted to realise he had hurt you on your birthday.


EDIT: WHoops read replies before replying !

pulliptears

If I want flowers I tend to buy them myself, OH does buy them occasionally but we've both said we would rather use the money towards something more practical.

For example, we've just spent £120 on a new shower pump, if its a toss up between a bunch of lilies for me or being able to have a decent shower we'd both plump for the shower.

Practicality probably isn't romantic I'm aware, but I know he loves me, he tells me a dozen times a day and I don't need gifts from him to know that.

gingin_2

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I'm sick of making all the effort for other peoples birthdays making a big fuss and not getting anything near the same in return. I don't know why I bother sometimes.

Steph xx

I suppose it's how you view birthdays. I really couldn't care less about mine, nor could my husband - my parents never bothered either. We have 7 birthdays in 7 weeks amongst close family so to make a big deal of them all is exhausting. I would hate that someone would feel they have to make a fuss and even more so if it was expected in return. A card and a phone call from close relatives is nice but other than that it's just another day of the year that happens to share the same date that I was born on.