a little bit miffed

missprice

OP your not alone my OH sometimes buys me flowers when we do the weekly shop, so I see them going in the trolley. but just on the odd occasion he buys them for his mum instead, so there I am happy as larry when we are on the way home thinking ooh some lovely flowers for meeeeeeee!!!!
then he says oh no I bought you some last week (try 2 months ago honey) these are for my mum
arrrrggggghhhh.
:rotfl:

rachbc

How lovely that your children bought you flowers - my friend always takers her own birthday flowers and puts them on her daughters grave.

And how lovely too that you were able to get a gift from your own mother - I'm sure your husband would much rather receiving a gift from his than taking them to her grave.

Hope you enjoy the rest of your birthday weekend.

mintymoneysaver

shellsuit wrote: »

She'd been saving hard for a present for her boyfriend. That is a lovely thing to do, especially at the age of 18, where she could have spent it on herself or pished it up the wall.

An 18th is a big deal, and it's her boyfriend, so of course his birthday was going to take a lot more thought and expense than yours.

It was lovely, and I don't begrudge the money at all. She's worked hard for it. What I do begrudge is the total lack of thought that went into mine! This isn't a case of her thinking what does my mum want or need, it's a case of her thinking " I have to buy my mum a present, where's the cheapest shop, and what will do...?" Unfortunately, much as I love both my daughters, the eldest is definitely one who wants, but doesn't give much back...

jackieb

Happy birthday Meritaten and Minty. :beer:

I don't really care if I get anything or not, although if I do, it's a bonus. But one year my OH bought me a Dyson for my birthday - I could've thrown it at him. I'd rather not have had anything! And another time my MIL put an ashtray in with my Christmas present (i've never smoked but her son, my OH did, and he didn't get an ashtray!)

Person_one

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

Unfortunately, much as I love both my daughters, the eldest is definitely one who wants, but doesn't give much back...

At 18, whose fault is that?

SophieCat

What's wrong with receiving gifts from Primark? It's the thought that counts! Some people are coming across as very ungrateful. Why not be thankful for/appreciate the gifts/money you did receive, rather than focusing on what you didn't receive? Birthdays are supposed to be about celebrating the gift of life (the day you were born), not about how much somebody spends on you.

jackieb

SophieCat wrote: »

What's wrong with receiving gifts from Primark? It's the thought that counts! Some people are coming across as very ungrateful. Why not be thankful for/appreciate the gifts/money you did receive, rather than focusing on what you didn't receive? Birthdays are supposed to be about celebrating the gift of life (the day you were born), not about how much somebody spends on you.

I agree, but I still didn't like the Dyson or the ashtray. I'd rather have had nothing. :rotfl:

KiKi

On my 30th (few years ago now) a very good friend invited me over on my birthday, which she'd never done before. I truly believed - and emotionally invested in the fact that - she had organised a small party tea or similar. I turned up and found out she wanted me to help her clean her garden. I did, but I went home and cried my eyes out. Not because I had a right to even believe she had organised something (I didn't!), but she hadn't even remembered my birthday, and I truly talked myself into thinking she'd been that kind! I've never fallen into that trap since!

Last year, the same friend gave me a 'late' birthday present in November (5 months late). It was a blu-ray disc of a national geographic programme. I have no interest in the subject - and I don't even have a blu-ray player. When she gave it to me she said "I wasn't sure you even have a blu-ray, but if not you can watch it when you do". I couldn't even exchange it for a DVD of the same - because she'd bought it on holiday in the USA.

My point is that although you're disappointed the flowers weren't for you, as you yourself said, he never bought anyone flowers during their lifetime anyway, so there was no reason to think he'd begin now! He gave you a card and some money to treat yourself; the kids bought you flowers.

It's my birthday tomorrow, and I've got one card from work, and one from my parents. I don't have any gifts to open, so I've treated myself to some nice chocolates. I'd love to be in your position of having some money as a treat and flowers from family!!

KiKi

luxor4t

McKneff wrote: »

If my OH (not just someone) was in the supermarket with me and they bought flowers, and it was my brithday tomorrow, I would automatically assume they were for me.......

Snap .

shellsuit

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

It was lovely, and I don't begrudge the money at all. She's worked hard for it. What I do begrudge is the total lack of thought that went into mine! This isn't a case of her thinking what does my mum want or need, it's a case of her thinking " I have to buy my mum a present, where's the cheapest shop, and what will do...?" Unfortunately, much as I love both my daughters, the eldest is definitely one who wants, but doesn't give much back...

Try and see it from her point of view though, instead of being ungrateful about what she did get you. (I would have been quite happy with what you received)

She's 18 now, a grown up and you're not the centre of her universe, her boyfriend is.