a little bit miffed

Person_one

meritaten wrote: »

I know its a bit petty - but I feel as if MIL and SIL got MY flowers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seriously? You can't be saying you're jealous of his dead mother?

meritaten

marisco wrote: »

Maybe your husband had spoken to your kids and knew they were giving you flowers for your birthday, so didn't do so himself. Normally any gift given for a birthday is a surprise. As you were with him when he bought them, I should think he didn't consider you would think they were for you.

I doubt very much that he meant to hurt your feelings, he sounds like a thoughtful type to buy flowers for a grave and your SIL. Hope you have had a very special day and enjoyed celebrating your birthday with your family.

thoughtful? rolfl - er no. this is the guy who bought me an electric knife for christmas one year and almost every christmas gift from him has been something I dont like! he couldnt get things more wrong if he tried!

as he never bought his mum or Sil flowers while they were alive I can only think he does it as HE thinks that is the convention or ettiquete.
I am always saying I prefer to get my flowers while I am alive and enjoying them - but I want lots of flowers at my funeral because it will be pretty bleak without them! in fact that is written down in my 'after I am gone instructions''!

Ive had a very quiet day actually - two grandkids slept over last night and they left about 11.00am. (OH went down graveyards then).
went up shop and in a new charity shop and got loads of books for next weeks hols. Yay!!!!!!!!!!!! even a Stephen King hardback I havent read for a £1!!!!!
Son, DIL and grandson arrived about 1.45 with flowers and cards and left soon after two as she had to go have her hair done. for tonights hen night.

OH bu99ered off down rugby club so I read a book this afternoon.
No2 son popped in for five minutes with GD to give me cards.
DD literally ran in with flowers and cards at 6.30 and ran back out again as she was going to hen night too.
OH came home at 8.15 and immediately carped on that I had left baccy all over the worktop. so I dont feel much like a deep and meaningful discussion on why I didnt get flowers but MIL and Sil did!
I now intend getting bladdered and will prob go to youtube and play heavy metal oldies for a while! (headphones on - I AM considerate like that).

first I have to go down to the Arms and annoy the peeps down there!

PS - I am sure I couldnt have left baccy on the worktop (or not more than a few strands - its so expensive I make sure I get every bit)

londonsurrey

Person_one wrote: »

Seriously? You can't be saying you're jealous of his dead mother?

I suspect that jealous is too strong a word.

Having gone through about 24 hours with the expectation of being presented with the flowers, to see them go elsewhere would evince a moment of "Oh, but..."

I've certainly experienced that feeling in restaurants, slightly famished, and hungrily eyeing up my dish finally being borne from the kitchens by a waiter.

It is at that moment when the waiter sails past me, and I realise that the dish wasn't destined for me that I experience that "But it was MINE" thought.

Logically, I know it's not mine. But emotionally, for a while, I'd claimed it as my own.

Person_one

londonsurrey wrote: »

I suspect that jealous is too strong a word.

Having gone through about 24 hours with the expectation of being presented with the flowers, to see them go elsewhere would evince a moment of "Oh, but..."

She got a card and money, he didn't forget.

To be honest, chucking a bunch of supermarket flowers in the trolley with the rest of the food shop would not exactly be enough to create 24 hours of giddy anticipation in most people surely? I wouldn't have assumed they were for me because I'd have thought birthday flowers would have been bought a bit more tactfully!

McKneff

Have a few glasses of wine, youve had so many positives today, you are so lucky to have family popping in throughout the day with cards flowers etc. Not only presents but they spent the time looking for gifts/flowers etc. Bet your OH loves yu to bits really.

Go on, give yourself a hug and say after me "lucky, lucky me":j:j:j

I guess mad passionate sex is not on the menu tonight then, but then again............

londonsurrey

Person_one wrote: »

She got a card and money, he didn't forget.

To be honest, chucking a bunch of supermarket flowers in the trolley with the rest of the food shop would not exactly be enough to create 24 hours of giddy anticipation in most people surely? I wouldn't have assumed they were for me because I'd have thought birthday flowers would have been bought a bit more tactfully!

I'm totally with you on the point about the tact.
But having resigned to the gracelessness of the presentation, I would imagine that to then not get them at all would be simply the icing on the cake, and I'd then want to vent,
... hence the OP's posting.

beautiful_ravens

Happy birthday!

I would have taken the non-secretive flower buying [putting them in the trolley where you could see] as a sure sign they werent for me.

meritaten

Person_one wrote: »

She got a card and money, he didn't forget.

To be honest, chucking a bunch of supermarket flowers in the trolley with the rest of the food shop would not exactly be enough to create 24 hours of giddy anticipation in most people surely? I wouldn't have assumed they were for me because I'd have thought birthday flowers would have been bought a bit more tactfully!

You don't know my OH! he has done this before - which is why I thought they were for me!

honestly - I do not begrudge my MIL or my SIL flowers - its usually me who reminds OH when their birthdays were!

I just felt a bit miffed this morning cos there was no reason for him to take flowers to the graves - and it is unusual of him to take flowers without one - IYSWIM?

I am not in a rage, or angry - just a bit miffed thats all! apart from the flying visits by the kids and the lovely flowers and mum thinking I am 60 this year (jeez I kept her secret that she was actually 80 TWO years ago! and not last month). roflmao. its been a normal day!

Bennifred

Happy Birthday, meritaten!:bdaycake:

I think many husbands share traits with yours, including mine! :rotfl:

londonsurrey

meritaten wrote: »

mum thinking I am 60 this year (jeez I kept her secret that she was actually 80 TWO years ago! and not last month). roflmao. its been a normal day!

Awww, she was giving you the change, i.e. the two years that you spared her.

Please do give her the the £2, and tell us about it!