Failing marriage

emweaver

DylanO wrote: »

Where have I said that you did?

On the thread where you quoted my response! :rotfl:

dontknowwhattodonext

What about having an affair? I think I may have found another women as getting very close

charlie3090

op, when did this start?, was there something that triggered this?,
i know its difficult but if you could explain the background to how you got to this stage people may be able to give you some constructive advice.
i had a breakdown last year ,didnt know it was coming but i should have,the signs were there,yes i was going to work but did nothing at home other than sit in a chair,this went on for about 6-9 months i think,went to the doctor,never looked back,feel 100% better now but still have a tendency to shut myself in the house,make excuses not to go anywhere.
you have to be honest with yourself,do you want to stay with your wife if she "gets better" or do you want to split up? ,once you have made that decision it will be easier to plan for the rest of your life,
C x

dontknowwhattodonext

Just a work Colleague and been getting on well as friends, then this weekend got more serious but felt great

charlie3090

im sorry, i didnt explain myself properly,
how long has your wife been like she is now?.
its really easy to start an affair,especially when youve been without affection for a long time,but you need to start a new relationship with a clear head and then it has much more chance of success .
C x

Chakani

I assume you are trolling with the above comment, OP, but just in case you aren't...... however difficult things may be, you owe your wife, your colleague and yourself, the respect to deal with the current relationship (and end it if that is what you want), before moving on to another.

dontknowwhattodonext

Wife been like it now for aroudn 5 years

sb88_2

After reading all these posts, it sounds that you have already made up your mind on what to do, you are just looking for validation.


5 years out of 20, I think you should take the time and both go to the doctors. Go with her, and talk to the doctor yourself. Obviously things can't go on like this. Don't have an affair, sort your marriage out first, wether you choose to stay, or leave.

dontknowwhattodonext

I think I do want to seperate, but don't want put my wife in a situation of homeless but can't afford top pay for two places, guess I need to save up for a few months rent for her