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Failing marriage
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Counselling will only not happen if you both resist it. You can get counsellors that will come to the house.
HBS x"I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another."
"It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."
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dontknowwhattodonext wrote: »Like I was saying, counselling will not happen, if I leave then I have to find somewhere else and pay for both places?
I think you would be best sitting down and talking to her. If you're breaking up then she may realise on her own that she'll struggle to afford the place when she's on no income, or she may decide to stay with family or something for some support.
If she does refuse point blank to leave then you can't make her since her name is on the tenancy, so you would probably be best moving out and speaking to your landlord about taking your name off the tenancy, then you will no longer be responsible for the rent there.0 -
Nothing like a bit of emotional blackmail to keep someone in a miserable situation.
She and she alone is responsible for her actions - not him, and it is disgusting for anyone to suggest that he is responsible for her weakness.
Where have I suggested he is to blame? Exactly, I haven't! But if he loves her he will try and help her recover and won't want to do anything to harm her further.Wins so far this year: Mum to be bath set, follow me Domino Dog, Vital baby feeding set, Spiderman goody bag, free pack of Kiplings cakes, £15 love to shop voucher, HTC Desire, Olive oil cooking spray, Original Source Strawberry Shower Gel, Garnier skin care hamper, Marc Jacobs fragrance.0 -
What about her family? What do they have to say about the situation?0
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Her parents have passed away, her brother said to her she needs to get a job0
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heartbreak_star wrote: »Counselling will only not happen if you both resist it. You can get counsellors that will come to the house.
HBS x
Counselling is not a cure all nor does it work if you aren't 100% committed to the process.0 -
dontknowwhattodonext wrote: »Her parents have passed away, her brother said to her she needs to get a job
side with the brother then? Or work together to get involved with councilling etc. Maybe he can talk to her0 -
That is her point0
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What is her point?
BugglyB...I know counselling isn't a cure-all...but it can be a good starting point.
HBS x"I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another."
"It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."
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OP what do you feel is best for you?
If the shoe was on the other foot how would your wife deal with this kind of situation? Would she walk out and leave you or would she take you straight to the doctors?
I have to say tho, if it was me, I would sit her down, explain what is going to happen if she doesnt change her ways. Give her til September to get her finger out and start dealing with life again, And if she doesnt change, then she knows where the door is.
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