Real life MMD: Should I pay for Grandma's 'gifts'?

Idiophreak

I just can't imagine why anyone would do this.

The closest I have would be if the mum was out shopping and saw this stuff in some amazing sale and it was cheap as chips...but even then, she'd be aware that her buying it for you was a punt and you may not need it - so she shouldn't be surprised is you don't want to pay for it.

drjustice

Nice mum !
Give them back to her .

When I bought my first house my parents helped me out or so I thought until they deducted it from money left to me from my nan .

Sounds like she thinks you are not grown up enough to shop yourself as my parents also wrongly thought .

AngelsMadv

Can't believe this has even made the daily dilemma!?

Do as all the other posters have described - diplomatically.

batsy

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say to your mother in as nice a way as possible could you have the receipts as they are not what you want and are a bit expensive for you budget return the items and give her the money back and invite her to come shopping with you ( IF YOU WANT HER TO)

batsy

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cloughja

Is it just me or are these dilemmas getting more ridiculous as time goes on? What next, a mugger takes all my money, should I ask for it back?

roaminn

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I would return all of the items to her, thanking her for the thought but politely telling her that you can't afford them and are shopping around/buying second hand. Hopefully your mum will be able to return the items. It is my opinion that she should have asked first before spending your money.

Totally agree with Planet Ganet :T- if she was thinking of buying items she should have consulted you first - perhaps this is a control thing........who knows. Start as you mean to go on and let her know that this is not acceptable or this may lead to further domineering behaviour once the baby is born, which is no good for anyone involved. Good Luck

pennypinchUK

For the umpteenth week, this is essentially the same "dilemma". Just speak to your mother (good grief, she's your mother, surely she's one person you CAN speak to about anything, especially if she's trying to bond with you over your pregnancy!). Tell her you want to keep some bits and return the others, and why.

Why is is so difficult for people to speak to their family and close friends to resolve these little issues?

Martin, please lets have something different - or accept you've run out of dilemmas and replace this section with something else.

Cloudane

Strange thing for her to do!

Yeah, unless it's going to cause some huge family rift or something.. then +1 on returning them to her, thanking her for the effort but politely explaining that you can't justify the cost and would rather buy second-hand / cheaper / alternatives.

If we were to get technical, some things might be non-returnable because you've used them. I'd say the most peaceful thing to do is count those as losses and look this gift horse in the mouth in future

fairynuf

Once again we have an mmd which is utter nonsense! What even is "baby stuff" and why would anyone buy it for someone else's unborn baby without consulting them if it wasn't to be gifted to them? Makes absolutely no sense at all! :mad: