Let the fun and games begin...

Ames

Dad doesn't have a share to reduce, he has nothing to do with it all legally! Which is what makes it so much worse that he walzed in and started replacing the kitchen.

As for their share reducing, I think they're just incapable of seeing it. They both have a habit of 'saving' money which costs them far more in the long run. One of the reasons dad hates solicitors is how much it cost him to get divorced. In particular, he lost his job and couldn't afford to keep paying mum's mortgage as per the financial settlement. Instead of seeing a solicitor and getting it changed legally, he just stopped paying. Which led to a long court battle costing him thousands.

In fact he now goes on about how we should be grateful that he's not going after a share of the estate! He even said that in the crisis assessment at A&E last week.

Sister also keeps talking about the 'principle' of me choosing a solicitor, and I really do think she'd carry out her threats just to get her own back at me.

I was talking to a fellow crazy at the hospital today and he was saying the same as you lot, that I shouldn't let them get to me. He said something interesting - although it's a simple solution, it's not an easy one. Which is spot on. But I'm getting stronger, and if I cut them out I'll be stronger still. I'm definitely at that point with my sister, not quite there with dad. But I'm not going to let them make things worse anymore.

It was a good day today. I've been off my anti depressants for a few days because I lost them, I had all the other boxes of meds but not those. I got a new script yesterday though so started taking them again last night and got the best night's sleep I've had in months. Then at the hospital I heard of a few other things that I'm going to ask for a referral to, which'll hopefully help in the long run. I've also decided to take the extra meds that were suggested.

So I'm feeling a lot better this evening.

Yorkie1

So pleased you are feeling better tonight Ames. If taking the extra meds which have been suggested, make you better quicker, then it's worth doing.

I think every time you have contact with your dad and sister it is affecting you negatively. You've got lots of evidence on this thread about how they really don't care about anything except their own skins and purses. Keep looking back on it when you feel as though they have a right to intervene in your life.

I do wonder whether having them present at any medical review meeting is a good idea. By the sound of it, they will undermine you either then, or store information up to use against you (whether validly or not) at a future date. You might want to consider barring them from matters which are personal to you and could end up backfiring on you.

I hope you get a good night's sleep again tonight. x