Do you think sex is important in a relationship?

charleybear

In my relationship with my boyfriend,
Its not really important but it certainly helps us keep
the romance and I find it helps us to get rid of stress &
Helps keeps us closer.

zagfles

Gingham_R wrote: »

Zagfles, if you can demonstrate that pressure from the media actually helps people lose weight I'd love to read it.

Are you seriously suggesting it "helps" anorexics to lose weight but nobody else? You think only anorexics are influenced by the media? :rotfl:

Try asking 100 random people whether they think they're underweight, overweight or "normal". The vast majority (especially women) will say overweight. And in the majority of cases, they'll be correct.

Gloomendoom

Gingham_R wrote: »

Is that how she sunbathes?!

I must admit, after I posted that comment, I checked the picture again and asked myself... "Who the hell sunbathes in a dark, damp cave?"

However, the point I was trying to make is that most bikinis are not intended to be practical swimwear (certainly not the one in the pic) so does it really matter in what pose the model is photographed? Bikinis are about sun tans, flaunting what you've got, or just staying cool in hot climates. Maybe even a combination of all three to greater or lesser degrees.

Gloomendoom

charleybear wrote: »

In my relationship with my boyfriend,
Its not really important but it certainly helps us keep
the romance and I find it helps us to get rid of stress &
Helps keeps us closer.

So it is important then!

Gingham_R

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I must admit, after I posted that comment, I checked the picture again and asked myself... "Who the hell sunbathes in a dark, damp cave?"

However, the point I was trying to make is that most bikinis are not intended to be practical swimwear (certainly not the one in the pic) so does it really matter in what pose the model is photographed? Bikinis are about sun tans, flaunting what you've got, or just staying cool in hot climates. Maybe even a combination of all three to greater or lesser degrees.

Good question. In my opinion the answer is yes. Look at the difference between the women in the bravissimo catalogue and the ones in the link. They are all posing and looking their best. The bravissimo girls though are relaxed, happy and vibrant looking and the other girls look like they've been photoshopped to ridiculous lengths and are posed in sexually provocative ways.

All well and good if they're selling sex, but they're not really meant to be doing that.

And that is my overall point. Men are not used in this way. Men are not expected to be sexual all the time. Women are displayed in this way and children are exposed to this notion constantly. Women are for sex. Men - well they can be anything.

Gingham_R

Re the photoshopping - it's hilarious when it goes wrong, but it does highlight what is happening as clearly this woman's arms have been elongated and slimmed with hilarious results. (Not to mention her torso.)

Gloomendoom

Gingham_R wrote: »

Good question. In my opinion the answer is yes. Look at the difference between the women in the bravissimo catalogue and the ones in the link. They are all posing and looking their best. The bravissimo girls though are relaxed, happy and vibrant looking and the other girls look like they've been photoshopped to ridiculous lengths and are posed in sexually provocative ways.

All well and good if they're selling sex, but they're not really meant to be doing that.

And that is my overall point. Men are not used in this way. Men are not expected to be sexual all the time. Women are displayed in this way and children are exposed to this notion constantly. Women are for sex. Men - well they can be anything.

Don't be daft! My wife occasionally buys Cosmopolitan. There are blokes in their pants all over the place.

Pots and kettles.

For example. Cosmopolitan Jan 2012 Australian edition, provocative pant blokes on pages 31, 70, 77, 88, 94, 100-104, 138-140 & 144. I feel quite inadequate. Boo hoo

Gingham_R

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Don't be daft! My wife occasionally buys Cosmopolitan. There are blokes in their pants all over the place.

Pots and kettles.

What do you mean by pots and kettles?

I understand that cosmo has started putting naked men in their magazine. There have also been other publications that print semi naked and naked pictures of men and there have been a small number of adverts making sexist remarks about what men should be like and what women should be looking for in a man.

That doesn't make the slightest difference to what I'm saying. Men are represented in a range of ways, women are predominantly represented as sexually alluring - that includes in cosmo.

How many overweight or mature women or women with acne scarring are there in hollywood for example? Compare that to the number of similar men.

Gloomendoom

Pots an kettles was referring to your comment about men not being portrayed as sexual all the time. They certainly are in Cosmopolitan and similar magazines. Magazines made by women for women.

Gloomendoom

Gingham_R wrote: »

That does look daft. Presumably, it is a mistake made while altering another part of the image, but what?