School Party invite - how do I deal with this?

seven-day-weekend

I agree it's the fault of the mum for over-booking, but providing he isn't the only child left out it's no big deal.

Kid's parties are ridiculous these days anyway, what's wrong with a few friends and an ice-cream party at home?

It's just the parents wanting to show off imho.

ailuro2

Keep the money you'd spend on the present and use it to take your son somewhere really special (maybe horse-riding or a laser zap zone type things) then he will have a bigger story to tell.

Explain to the mother who thinks she is such a good friend that this is why her little Tyke only got a present from the pound shop!;)

mom23

Hi Rio
This makes my blood boil:mad:
There is no excuse to let a child down.
Planning a party is not rocket science!!
Book venue(Max say 12 children) invite 12 children
It has taken the mother long enough to realise she has overbooked!!
Maybe as has been said the boys have had a little "tiff" and birthday boy doesn't want your son to go and mother does as son say's:rolleyes: (my 7yr old changes his "best friend" as often as his underwear!!!)
It does seem strange that your son found out before you.
But i would as suggested take your son for a special treat,he will soon forget .
In cases like this i think as a mum it hurts you more than the child, and would not have liked to have posted my initial thoughts

Having said this I WOULD buy a little pressie (wrapped in lot's of paper) and give it the boy in front of his mother

Lyndsay_21

A similar situation has happened with my daughter she'd stayed for lunch after nursery and they where all sitting in a circle waiting to be collected and she was crying her eyes out because she and another girl didn't have a party invite and all the other children did, it was horrible to see he so upset. I personally think its better to either put the invite in the childs tray discreetly or give to the parent if your not inviting everyone.

lab-lover

This sort of thing is really common when they start school, that mother should be ashamed of herself really. I would tell my little one that there was a mix up and a few children couldnt go anymore, i would also say that it was basically the other mothers fault. I take it that if a kid going to the party suddenly falls ill and cant go that your son will automatically be re-invited?
My dd has been left out of parties a few times in the past and all i can say is that it hurts you probably more than your child but the feeling passes. I would try and rise above it and hold my head high. Take you son out somewhere he really likes. Mothers like her really make me sick, bet shed be furious if it happened to her little precious.xxxxx

victory

I think we have all had this kind of situation....my son thought he had been invited to a little ones party at the clown zone and was really pleased, when I asked for the invitation and what date time etc it was he could not give me the piece of paper....turns out he had heard a lot of talk about it but he had not been asked to go....

We ended up promising him that we would take him (not very MSE!!) but he was so upset at the time....now the party has passed he has also forgotten about it and has not asked us to take him but it does upset the kids.....

wokkies

oh rio i have experienced this as well when mine were small many atime the whole class had been invited to parties and my children not included, Maybe as others suggested take your little one out for a fun day, and if he wants to buy a pressie just a cheap one.

mom23

A bit OT
But just out of interest i have checked out prices at our local fun factory
Max 25 kids 7.25 per head =181.25:eek: this does not include a cake.
Some people must have more money than sense.
You could hire a hall for less than that and invite as many kids as you want even cheaper if you team up with another mum!!

My kids have had parties big and small, (never spent that much though!!)but this year my 7yr old was happy to just have his "girlfriend" round for tea!!

Have you ever sat in one of these fun factorys :eek: I know it's for kids and they love it,But i'd rather go and have a tooth pulled!:rotfl:

Zoetoes

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I agree it's the fault of the mum for over-booking, but providing he isn't the only child left out it's no big deal.

Kid's parties are ridiculous these days anyway, what's wrong with a few friends and an ice-cream party at home?

It's just the parents wanting to show off imho.

But the other kids weren't invited in the first place and then let down, so it is a big deal.

Zoetoes

Instead of buying the party kid a present I would buy your own son a present all wrapped up and then say to the other kids mum I'm sorry, we did get him (party kid) a present but my son was so upset about the whole situation that I gave it to him.